Ukuhlala Utshatile Emva Kokungathembeki

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• Fumana umcebisi womtshato okanye ingcali ... Ngokukhawuleza
• Fumana inyaniso ekuhleni
• Ziqhelise ukuxolelwa kunye nomonde ngokulinganayo
• Ayisoze iphinde ifane

Abantu abafezekanga. Kuba umtshato uzimanya nabantu ababini ubomi, kukwafezekisa. Akunakuphika ukuba abantu baya kwenza iimpazamo emtshatweni wabo.

Kuya kubakho ukulwa. Kuya kubakho ukungavisisani. Kuya kubakho iintsuku apho, njengoko umthanda umntu onaye, awubathandi ngokukodwa okanye indlela abaziphatha ngayo. Yindalo. Kuza nokuphuma nokuhamba kwayo yonke imitshato okanye ubudlelwane. Ngokubanzi, la maxesha okungoneliseki neqabane lakho awuyi kuwuphelisa umtshato wakho.

Ukungathembeki, nangona kunjalo, ibali elihluke kakhulu. Imicimbi kunye nokuziphatha okungathembekanga kukwahlulahlula umxholo womtshato. Amathuba kukuba uziva unamandla kakhulu ngayo, nokuba injani imeko yakho.

Ungasibamba isenzo somtshato njengesingcwele; ibhondi engaze yaphulwe nokuba imeko injani. Ke ngoko, ngaphandle kwako nakuphi na ukungathembeki, ungakhetha ukuhlala utshatile kwaye usebenze ngemicimbi esekhaya.

Okanye ... usenokubona isenzo sokungathembeki njengokungcatsha okupheleleyo kwezifungo ozifundileyo ngosuku lwakho lomtshato. Oku kungakhokelela ekubeni ulishiye iqabane lakho ukuba belingathembekanga kuwe.

Akukho ndawo iphakathi kwesihloko. Kungenxa yokuba ukunganyaniseki kuyonakalisa kakhulu kwaye kuyenzakalisa. Nokuba uthatha siphi isimo, uzama ukugcina into: nokuba ungasindisa umtshato okanye ugcine isidima somntu owonileyo ngokuziphatha.

Masithi ukhetha ukugcina umtshato. Ungenzani? Ungawutshintsha njani amandla azinzileyo kubudlelwane? Ungathetha nabani, ukunceda amanxeba empilo aphole? Kuya kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukubuyela esiqhelweni?

Ufuna iplani yomdlalo. Ufuna ingcebiso onokuxhomekeka kuyo. Ngethamsanqa, ufike kwindawo efanelekileyo

Fumana umcebisi womtshato okanye ingcali ... Ngokukhawuleza

Ezi ngcali zidlala indima yokuzithemba, usompempe kunye nomboneleli wendawo okhuselekileyo. Awunakuzama ukukhupha amanzi anengxaki yomtshato wokungathembeki ngokwakho. Akusiyo mfihlo yokuba nokuba nobabini okanye nina nobabini ebengonwabanga kubudlelwane benu, nto leyo ekhokelela ekuziphatheni ngokungathembeki. Vumela ingcebiso yengcebiso yonyango ukuba ikubone ngeli xesha lokuzama. Baza kunika ulwazi lokukunceda uphilise kwaye unokuba yindlela yenkxaso ehambelanayo kula maxesha anzima.

Fumana inyaniso ekuhleni

Ngaphakathi kwindawo ekhuselekileyo enokubonelelwa ngugqirha wakho, qiniseka ukuba ufumana zonke iinyani zomcimbi kwitafile. Ukuba nguwe okrexezayo, phendula nayiphi na imibuzo elinokuba nayo iqabane lakho. Ukuba ungulo mntu waqhathwa, buza imibuzo emininzi njengoko ufuna. Ukungazithembi kunye noxinzelelo yinto engenakuphepheka yomcimbi, kodwa ngokufumana inyani embi ekuhleni, omabini amaqela angaqala ukwakha ukusuka kwingqushu yolwalamano. Ukuba kukho iimfihlo okanye izihloko ezihlala zingaxoxwa, uxinzelelo luya kuphakama. Akunako ndifuna ukwazi zonke iimfihlo ezingcolileyo, kodwa mhlawumbi imfuno ukuba ulixhoba lokukrexeza. Awunakufumana uxolo lwengqondo kwinto ongazi nto kangako ngayo. Buza imibuzo ofuna ukuva iimpendulo zayo.

Ziqhelise ukuxolelwa kunye nomonde ngokulinganayo

Ukuba wena neqabane lakho nikhetha ukuhlala kunye emva kobuqhetseba bokunganyaniseki, kuya kufuneka usebenzele kwindawo yoxolelo.

Ukuba ukrexezile, bonisa ukuzisola okungenasiphelo. Ukuba awuzisoli ngokwenyani ngento oyenzileyo, awufanelanga ukuba kulwalamano.

Ukuba ulixhoba lomtshato, kuya kufuneka ulixolele iqabane lakho kancinci kancinci. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uvuke ngengomso kwaye usule isileyiti. Yindalo leyo kwaye ayinampilo. Kodwa ukuba ufuna ukubuyela kwisimo somtshato onothando, uxolelo kufuneka lwenzeke.

Njengoko inkqubo eya kuxolelo iqhubeka, kufuneka kwenziwe umonde. Awunakulindela ukufumana ukungathembeki ngenye imini kwaye ulunge ngokulandelayo. Ukuba iqabane lakho likhohlisile, kufuneka baqonde ukuba uya kudinga ixesha lokuxolela. Ukuba nguwe okrexezayo emtshatweni wakho, kuya kufuneka unike iqabane lakho imbeko, ixesha kunye nendawo abayifunayo.

Uxolelo alunakukhawuleziswa okanye lunyanzelwe. Yiba nomonde ngexesha elithathayo ukufika apho.

Ayisoze iphinde ifane

Awunakukhetha ukuhlala emtshatweni emva kwesenzo sokungathembeki ngethemba lokuba "uza kubuyela kwinto ebeyiyo". Akunakwenzeka okanye kunokwenzeka. Ukungathembeki kukuphazamiseka okukhulu kungekuphela kubudlelwane, kodwa nakubomi baba bantu babini. Nobabini nizahluka xa uthuli luzinzile.

Ukuzama ukubambelela ngethemba lokuphinda uvuselele into eyayiyiyo sisidenge, ekubangela ukuba uchithe iminyaka emininzi ulinde into engenakuphinda ibuye. Ekuphela kwethemba onalo kukusebenzela into efana nothando ekwabelwana ngalo, kodwa ngokwembono eyahlukileyo. Ngaphambi kokungathembeki, yonke into yayintsha, intsha, kwaye ingenachaphaza. Kulula ukubona ukuba ukukhohliswa kunokushiya umntu enjejade, kwaye kukho izinto ezisaleleyo eziqhubeka emva kwenyani.

Awusoze uphinde ucofe iqhosha lokuphumla kwaye uqale ngaphezulu. Wena Ngaba, nangona kunjalo, ukwazi ukwamkela ubunyani bobudlelwane bakho kwaye uvume ukuya phambili ngendlela elungileyo.

Ukungathembeki kwenye yezona zinto zoyikisayo izibini ezinokujongana nazo. Akunakwenzeka ukuba usebenze ngaloo nkohliso kwaye ufumane indlela yokuthandana kwakhona. Kodwa kuya kuthatha ixesha. Kuya kuthatha umonde. Kuya kuthatha umsebenzi onzima. Kuya kuthatha ukufumana umcebisi oza kukunceda ekukhokeleni kwinkqubo yokunyanga.

Xa obu bunzima bokungathembeki buzaliseka, yazi ukuba unokukhetha. Ukuba ufuna ukuhlala ulwele umntu omthandayo, lungela nje ukulwa njengesihogo.