Umxholo
- Kwenzeka ntoni xa umcimbi usenzeka
- Umva womcimbi
- Ukuphilisa kwimeko yokungathembeki
- Ungakuthatha njani ukungathembeki kwaye wenze umtshato ubengcono kunangaphambili
Kukho amanqanaba aliqela okuphulukana nokuthandana oya kuhamba emva kokuba ufumene ngako. Kwaye ezi ziya kuba nzima kwaye zibuhlungu, kwaye zihlala zinciphisa amandla. Kodwa kuphela kwendlela esele ikhona yokuphiliswa kukonzakala kokungcatshwa nokwenzakala kakhulu. Zimbini iindlela zokujongana nale nkqubo. Inye inokukhokelela ekwahlukaneni kunye nakwiintlungu ezingakumbi, kwaye enye inamandla okuphucula umtshato wakho.
Kwenzeka ntoni xa umcimbi usenzeka
Inye into eyinyani, kwaye yinyani enokuthi yoyikise abanye, kwaye izise isiqabu kwabanye. Imicimbi iyenzeka. Zenzeka ngalo lonke ixesha, kwaye ziya kuhlala zisenzeka. Ingxelo kaJanus malunga nokuziphatha ngokwesondo ifumanise ukuba ubuncinci i-40% yabantu abatshatileyo banento yokuthandana, ngokuya ngokwamkelwa kwabo emva komtshato. Oko kuthi amanani maninzi kakhulu aphezulu.
Kwaye, nangona kukho izikhombisi ezithile ngokubhekisele kumngcipheko wokuthandana ungaphandle komtshato, enye inyani kukuba inokwenzeka phantse nakubani na. Ulwalamano lwabantu luyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu, kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba baqikelele. Kwaye ngemicimbi, kukho abantu abathathu ubuncinci abanengqondo kunye namava ekufuneka babaliwe.
Umva womcimbi
Yintoni eqhubekayo neqabane ukukopela
Kwaye xa umcimbi sele uvulekile, i-avalanche iya kuqala. Kwabakhohlisi, nangona sithanda ukungakhathali malunga nokuba sempilweni kakhulu okwangoku, indlela nayo inamagingxigingxi. Nabo kufuneka bajongane neentlungu ezininzi kunye neengxaki. Kuya kufuneka bajonge into abayenzileyo kumntu ababemthanda, kufuneka bazibonele ngawabo amehlo, kwaye benze uphando oluninzi lomphefumlo ukuze bakwazi ukuthi bayazi kakuhle into abayenzileyo nokuba kutheni. Rhoqo lixesha lokulahleka komfanekiso osele ukhona. Kuxa bephuma ngamanye amaxesha bethandana okanye bonwabile, kodwa inqanaba loxinzelelo lokuba nomntu abathandanayo kwaye balifihle, kwaye bangene kwinyani yalo kunye neziphumo zalo.
Uziva njani iqabane eliqhathiweyo
Iqabane elikhohlisiwe, kwelinye icala, ngokungathandabuzekiyo lihamba ngesihogo esiphilayo. Kwaye esi sihogo sinokuhlala iminyaka, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo iinyanga emva kokufunyanwa kokuqala. Isenokungavakali iphakamisa ngoku, kodwa ukwazi ukuba kuya kuthatha iminyaka emibini ubuncinci ukuba abo bakhohlisiweyo baphilise kungalula uxinzelelo lokufuna ukuziva ngcono kwangoko.
Ukuphilisa kwimeko yokungathembeki
Ukugqithisa umcimbi yinto ende kwaye inzima. Kubuhlungu, kwaye kuhlala kunciphisa. Nobabini niya kuhamba ngeentsuku ezingcono, kwaye emva koko ubethwe ngolungelelwaniso. Oku kuqhelekile. Yinto entsonkothileyo ukudlula entlokweni yakho, kwaye ayinakuhamba ngokungathi ubungoomatshini. Kodwa musa ukuphelelwa lithemba. Kungenxa yokuba nolona suku lubi kwiinyanga ezimbalwa emva komtshato, usesendaweni engcono (nangona isenokungavakali njalo) kunaxa wawufumene. Okanye enye ngaphambi kokuba uyenzile.
Kuqala, iqabane eliqhathiweyo liyakothuka. Baza kuziva bengelamandla, emva koko benomsindo, emva koko bafihle kwigumbi elimnyama kwaye balilele ubomi babo bonke. Baza kuzama ukuyikhanyela inyani kwaye baphinde bayiva yonke loo nto. Baza kulila, emva koko bakhwaze, emva koko bathule, baphinde bakhale kwakhona. Baya kufuna umkhohlisi abathuthuzele kwaye aphendule imibuzo yabo; kodwa, umkhohlisi akasenguye umntu omnye, kwaye wenza izinto zibe nzima.
Emva kolu loyikiso lokuqala, elona nqanaba libuhlungu lokufumana kwakhona amaqabane omabini aya kuza, kwaye leyo yeyona nto iphambili. Imibuzo emininzi, imifanekiso emininzi engafunekiyo, ukungazithembi kunye namathandabuzo. Kunzima ukuyiphatha le nto, kodwa iya kuthi, ekugqibeleni, ibengcono, kwaye esi sibini sinokungena kwinqanaba elilandelayo lokuchacha, elijonga iingxaki ezikhokelele kulwalamano. Ukufunda malunga omnye nomnye. Ngenxa yoko, uya kuthi, ekupheleni kwale ndlela inzima, ube nakho ukugqitha umcimbi lowo.
Ungakuthatha njani ukungathembeki kwaye wenze umtshato ubengcono kunangaphambili
Imicimbi inokuwonakalisa umtshato okanye iwenze womelele. Kuya kuxhomekeka kuwo omabini amaqabane. Umkhohlisi kufuneka abekhona ukuze aphendule yonke imibuzo kwaye aphelise onke amathandabuzo. Abakhohlisiweyo kufuneka benze umgudu wokuqonda umkhohlisi kwaye baziqonde.
Yeyiphi imicimbi ezisa yinto enokubakho yomtshato owomelele ngakumbi, lowo ngoku wakhelwe ekuqondeni okupheleleyo kwamaqabane omabini? Ngoku nobabini niyazana bhetele. Yintoni onako ukuyenza. Indlela osabela ngayo kwiingxaki ezahlukeneyo. Uhlangabezana njani nepani kunye. Sebenzisa oku, kwaye wakhe umtshato omtsha, owomeleleyo.