Umxholo
- Inyathelo 1: Amehlo emzimbeni
- Inyathelo 2: Iliso kwiliso
- Inyathelo 3: Ilizwi kwilizwi
- Inyathelo 4: Isandla ngesandla
- Amanyathelo 5 & 6: Ingalo egxalabeni, kunye nengalo esinqeni
- Amanyathelo 7 & 8: Umlomo emlonyeni kunye nesandla entloko
- Inyathelo 9: Isandla emzimbeni
- Inyathelo 10: Umlomo ukuya emzimbeni
- Amanyathelo 11: Umthetho wesiphelo sokugqibela
Kukuthini ukusondelelana ngokwasemzimbeni? Buyintoni ubudlelwane bomzimba? Le mibuzo inokuba sisandla kubantu abanamava okanye abanawo amava ezesondo. Ukuqonda amanqanaba okusondelelana kubudlelwane kunye nokuseka amanqanaba amatsha okusondelelana kubudlelwane kubaluleke kakhulu kwisibini.
Amanqanaba okusondelelana ngokwasemzimbeni kubudlelwane yinkqubo echaza amanyathelo esihamba kuwo ngokwendalo njengoko sikhulisa amanqanaba okusondelelana namaqabane ethu athandanayo.
Amanyathelo aqala ukuba mhle ngokuthe tye kwaye abonakala ngathi aqhelekileyo phakathi kwabantu ongabaziyo- kwaye akhule abe sesona sisondeleyo sezenzo phakathi kwesibini esabelana ngesondo.
Into elungileyo malunga namanqanaba obusondelene nomzimba kukuba sisikhokelo esihle sokuvavanya ukuba uphi na kuphuhliso lobudlelwane.
Ikwanokukunceda ukuba ubone ukuba ungaluhambisa njani ulwalamano lwakho kumanqanaba amatsha obusenyongweni ukuba kubonakala ngathi kuhamba kancinci, okanye iqabane lakho libonakala lineentloni. Ukuyisebenzisa ufunda amanyathelo omzimba kubudlelwane kwaye uhambe kancinci kuwo kunye neqabane lakho.
Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba siye kule ngcaciso, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ngelixa amanqanaba obusenyongweni kubudlelwane anokunceda ukuba uzive uqinisekile ngokuqonda imida yakho kunye neqabane lakho malunga nokusondelelana, iqabane lakho lisenokungabi nalo olo lwazi.
Banokungazithembi, okanye bazimisele ukuqhubela phambili ngokwamanqanaba obudlelwane obusondeleyo njengoko unokuba kunjalo. Nazi iingcebiso ezimbalwa malunga nendlela yokwakha ubuhlobo kubudlelwane obutsha kunye nendlela yokuthatha ubudlelwane ukuya kwinqanaba elilandelayo ngokwasemzimbeni.
Yenza unxibelelwano olunyanisekileyo ngalo lonke ixesha
Kubalulekile ukuba ungatyhaleli ukuthanda kwakho kwabanye nokuba uphanda kangakanani okanye ufundile kangakanani. Ke, ngokwamanqanaba okusondelelana ngokomzimba ukuze asebenze kubudlelwane obutsha, kubalulekile ukuba ulihloniphe iqabane lakho kwaye usebenze ekudaleni unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo nolunyanisekileyo ngawo onke amaxesha.
Ngelixa uhlonipha ukuba amaxesha akho amaqabane ajikeleze ukukhula kobuhlobo bunokwahluka kakhulu kowakho. Umonde unokufuneka.
Inyathelo 1: Amehlo emzimbeni
Inyathelo lokuqala kumanqanaba okusondelelana ngokwasemzimbeni kubudlelwane 'liliso emzimbeni'. Olu luphawu lokuqala, apho uqaphela umzimba womntu. Ukuba ufuna ukuya kwinqanaba elilandelayo, uza kuhamba kweli nyathelo kuqala.
Kwaye ukuba ufuna ukubonisa umdla kwezothando komnye umntu ke mabavumele ukuba bakubone uhambisa amehlo akho emzimbeni wabo. Ukuba zibonisa okufanayo kuwe, kwaye uye kwinqanaba elilandelayo, uyazi ukuba ufumene umntu onomdla kuwe.
Inyathelo 2: Iliso kwiliso
Inyathelo lesibini kumanqanaba okusondelelana ngokwasemzimbeni kubudlelwane 'iliso ngeliso' - Ukuba uyidlulisile inyathelo lokuqala, kwaye ngoku nijongane emehlweni, siyavuyisana! Ukulungele ukukhangela inyathelo elilandelayo.
Khumbula, ukuba ufuna ukubonisa umntu ukuba unomdla kubo, qiniseka ukubamba iliso labo emva kokuba ujongile umzimba wabo!
Inyathelo 3: Ilizwi kwilizwi
Isinyathelo sesithathu kumanqanaba obusondelene ngokwasemzimbeni kubudlelwane 'lilizwi kwilizwi' - Ngoku nijongisene, kwaye nijongane ngamehlo, inyathelo elilandelayo kukuthetha.
Ukuba uqhubela phambili kumanyathelo exesha elizayo ngaphandle kweli nqanaba, kuyakwenza ukuba umntu wakho onomdla azive engonwabanga. Ngaphambi kokuba uchukumise loo mntu, qalisa incoko!
Eli linqanaba apho ukuqhubela phambili kwakho kunokuma khona, ukusondelelana akuqinisekiswanga. Awunakuze udlule u-hello, ukuba awudluli molo, myeke uhambe uye emntwini olandelayo, oza kukufumana unomtsalane njengabo.
Inyathelo 4: Isandla ngesandla
Isinyathelo sesine kumanqanaba okusondelelana ngokwasemzimbeni kubudlelwane 'Isandla kwisandla (okanye ingalo)' - Ngoku ukuqhubela phambili ngokwamanqanaba kungaqala ukuthoba isantya. Amanqanaba okuqala amathathu anokwenzeka ngokukhawuleza, kodwa awufuni ukukhawuleza uchukumise ingalo yomntu wasemzini, okanye isandla.
Kuya kufuneka uqhubeke nencoko, thatha ixesha lokwazana kwaye wakhe uxhulumaniso kunye nobuhlobo ngaphambi kokuba uqalise ukubamba.
Xa uziva ukulungele ukubona ukuba umntu wakho unomdla kuwe, zama ukubamba okanye ukuhlola isandla sakho ngokungakhathali.
Okanye ucofe / ubambe ngobunono ingalo yabo kwincoko, vumela ukubamba kwakho kungagungqi okwesibini (kodwa hayi ngendlela eyoyikisayo!) Kwaye uqaphele ukuba baphendule kakuhle kwesi senzo. Banokude bakubambe kwakhona.
Olu luphawu lokuba nobabini ninomdla omnye komnye. Ukuba umntu wakho onomdla akakubambi umva kwaye ujongeka ekhubekile okanye engonwabanga ngochukumiso lwakho, kungafuneka uthathe ixesha elide kwinqanaba lokuthetha ngaphambi kokuba umntu akulungele ukuqhubela phambili.
Amanyathelo 5 & 6: Ingalo egxalabeni, kunye nengalo esinqeni
Isinyathelo sesihlanu nesithandathu kumanqanaba obusondelene ngokwasemzimbeni kubudlelwane 'yingalo yamagxa kunye' nengalo esinqeni '.
Ukuqhubela phambili kula manqanaba kuya kubonisa ukukhanya okuluhlaza kwinto ethe kratya ukuqhubela phambili.
Nangona umazi kakuhle umntu (njengomhlobo), ubuhlobo bakho bunokuba nobusondeleyo ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungachukumisana ngale ndlela ngaphandle kwayo nayiphi na into enomdla oyithandayo.
Sukuyifunda kakubi imiyalezo.
Ukuba awuqinisekanga, thetha ngayo, iqabane lakho elinomdla liya kukuvuyela ukuba ulihloniphe ngokwaneleyo ukuze uxoxe ngalo kunye nabo!
Ukuba ukwazile ukufikelela kumanqanaba okubamba ngesandla kwaye emva koko uye waqhubela phambili kweli nqanaba, usenokuba usondela kubudlelwane obusenyongweni.
Ukuba ufikile apha, unokucinga ukuba awukho kule ndawo yomhlobo kwaye ukwanga kulamakhadi ixesha elithile kungekudala! Amanyathelo amabini alandelayo anokucacisa amanqanaba okwanga kubudlelwane.
Amanyathelo 7 & 8: Umlomo emlonyeni kunye nesandla entloko
Inyathelo lesixhenxe kunye nesibhozo kumanqanaba obusondeleneyo ngokwasemzimbeni kubudlelwane ngu - ‘umlomo nomlomo; kunye 'nesandla entloko.' Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba ulapha, uyenzile phakathi kwenyathelo. Ngoku lixesha lokuba ungene ngokumanga.
Ungavavanya ukuba ingaba le yinto ekhuselekileyo ngokufunda amanqanaba angentla kwaye ujonge ukuba uqhubele phambili kuwo. Yiya phambili ukuze uphuze iqabane lakho kwaye ukuba bayahamba nayo, wonwabele umzuzu.
Yintoni eza emva kokumanga kulwalamano linyathelo lesi-8, ukushenxela kwinyathelo lesi-8 kulula kakhulu ukusuka kwinyathelo lesi-7 kwaye kuhlala kwenzeka ngexesha lokuncamisa. Inqanaba elilandelayo ekufuneka sililindele 'kukuya entloko.'
Ukuba awubeki sandla kwiintloko zamaqabane akho ngesiqhelo, ngoku lixesha lokuba uzame. Imiyalezo engaphantsi iya kulinceda iqabane lakho liziva likhululekile kwaye likhokelwe nguwe.
Kodwa ukuba kulapho ufuna ukuyeka khona, okanye kufuneka uyeke, yenza njalo. Ungacingi ukuba unyanzelekile ukuba uhambe kula manqanaba alandelayo okusondela emzimbeni, okanye nawaphi na amanqanaba ngokukhawuleza.
Isenokuba lixesha ngaphambi kokuba wena okanye iqabane lakho likulungele ukuqhubela phambili, kwaye kubalulekile ukuba wazi ukuba ezinye izinto zinokuphela ngokuncamisa.
Inyathelo 9: Isandla emzimbeni
Inyathelo lesithoba kumanqanaba okusondelelana ngokwasemzimbeni kubudlelwane ngu - 'isandla emzimbeni.' Esi sisiqalo sento esinokuthi siyithathe njengokunxibelelana ngokwesondo kunye nokuqala kokubekwa phambili.
Ukuba iqabane lakho likulungele, ungathatha ixesha lokuphonononga imizimba yomnye nomnye. Ukuba nobabini nisenza njalo, unokucinga ukuba uwele nje inqanaba lesithoba.
Inyathelo 10: Umlomo ukuya emzimbeni
Isinyathelo seshumi kumanqanaba obusondelene ngokwasemzimbeni kubudlelwane ngu - 'umlomo kwisisu,' kwaye kweli nqanaba apho imeko iqala ukuba nzulu nangokwesondo. Uyakwazi ukuba oku kulungile ukuqhubeka, ukuba ukwazile ukususa iimpahla esinqeni, kwaye umntu uyakuvumela ukuba wenze njalo.
Isitshixo kumanqanaba okusondelelana ngokwasemzimbeni kukuqhubela phambili kancinci kwaye ngentlonipho ukuze unike iqabane lakho ithuba lokuyeka ukuba bafuna njalo.
Ewe kunjalo, kuhlala kulungile ukuma kwaye ubuye nangaliphi na ixesha, nangona kunjalo, nje ukuba uqhubeke ngaphaya kweli nqanaba, unokukufumanisa kunzima kuba kunokuba nzima ukwenza njalo ngaphandle kokudida elinye iqabane.
Amanyathelo 11: Umthetho wesiphelo sokugqibela
Thatha ixesha lakho ukuqhubela phambili ngenqanaba lokugqibela kumanqanaba okusondelelana ngokomzimba kubudlelwane. Ukuba aniyenzi ngokungxama ukufikelela kwisiseko sokugqibela kwaye amava aya kuba mnandi kwaye onwabele nobabini.
Ngeli nqanaba, ukuba benihloniphana kwaye ningangxamanga, niyakuba nemvakalelo yokuthembana kunye nolwalamano olungelulo olokwabelana ngesondo kuphela, kwaye oko kuya kukhulisa ukusondelelana komzimba phakathi kwenu.
Unakho okanye awunakuqhubeka kuwo onke amanyathelo ezesondo kubudlelwane neqabane lakho kwixa elizayo.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ufumanisa ukuba niyathandana, kodwa izinto ziye zoma kwicandelo lezesondo kubudlelwane bakho, buyela kumanqanaba okuqala olwalamano lwakho olusenyongweni kwaye ufumane indlela yokuqhubela phambili ngamanyathelo kwakhona. Iya kukunceda uvuselele nayiphi na inkanuko elahlekileyo.