Umxholo
- 1. Ziyathandeka ngokumangalisayo
- 2. Iingxaki zokuziphatha komntwana
- 3. Kukho into evakalayo
- 4. Abanalo uvelwano okanye ityala
- 5. Ukuziphatha kakubi
- 6. Bayaziingqondi ekusebenziseni ngobuqhetseba
- 7. Ukuzingca ngaphaya kwenkolelo
Ngaba ikhona into oziva ungonwabanga ngayo ngobuhlobo bakho? Ngaba iqabane lakho kunzima ukuvelana nabanye? Okanye, ngaba uyazibona iimpawu ezilumkisayo zengqondo yengqondo?
Igama psychopath libhekisa kumntu onobuntu ngokwentlalontle. Oku kuthetha ukuba banomdla kwindalo kwaye banakho ukwenza izinto zokungcatsha okanye ubundlobongela ngaphandle kwetyala.
Ngokusisiseko, into echasene ngqo nomntu ofuna ukuba kubudlelwane naye. Ukuba yi-psychopath akuthethi ukuba ungaphandle ngaphandle kwentlalo okanye uswele umtsalane kunye nokuziphatha. Ngokuchasene noko.
Uninzi lwee-psychopaths zinee-gravitas ezinomtsalane ezitsala abantu kuzo. Unokuba uthandana ne-psychopath kwaye ubungayazi!
Ukuba ufumana uluvo lokuba into ethile icinyiwe malunga neqabane lakho, sukungayihoyi loo mikhwa. Zama ukulinganisa iimpawu ze-psychopath okanye iimpawu ze-psychopath ukuba zikhona.
Fumana ngokukhawuleza kunokuba kamva. Ukuba kunye nentlalontle kunokudala iingxaki kubudlelwane kwaye kunokukubeka engozini.
Kodwa, ungayifumana njani i-psychopath? Okanye, ungazi njani ukuba umntu uyi-psychopath?
Ngaphandle kokuqhubela phambili, nantsi imiqondiso ye-7 yengqondo ekufuneka uyijongile kulwalamano lwakho. Ukuba uqaphela nayiphi na le miqondiso yengqondo, lixesha lokuba uphinde ucinge ngolwalamano lwakho.
1. Ziyathandeka ngokumangalisayo
Xa sicinga nge-psychopath, sihlala sicinga ngabo bahleli ngaphaya kwezitshixo zolwaphulo-mthetho olunzulu njengokubulala okanye ukubetha. Sicinga ngabo njengabandayo kunye nokubala- kwaye siya kuba silungile.
Kodwa, ukuba yi-psychopath akuthethi ukuba umntu akanakulungelwa eluntwini. Ngapha koko, iimpawu zengqondo zihlala zihlala zichasene.
Ke, zithini iimpawu zepsychopath?
Olunye lweempawu ezinkulu zengqondo yengqondo kukuba ziyathandeka ngokumangalisayo. Banxiba imaski yobuhlobo ekwenza ukuba ukholelwe ukuba banobuntu. Banomdla ongakumbi kwabo badibana nabo.
Ii-Psychopaths zinokuba mnandi kakhulu okanye zibe mnandi ukuba phakathi kwaye zinokwenza nezinto ezilungileyo zokukufumana kwicala labo, kodwa le yindlela elula yokufumana ukuthembela kwabanye kwaye ubasebenzise.
2. Iingxaki zokuziphatha komntwana
Kuqheleke kakhulu ukuba isimilo se-psychopathic sikhule kwangoko ebomini.
Ukungabikho kovelwano, ukuxoka okungaguquguqukiyo, kunye nokuba ndlongondlongo ebantwini nasezilwanyaneni zonke iimpawu zengqondo ezalatha kwimicimbi yokuba mdala.
Oonobangela bokusebenza kwengqondo banokuba baninzi. Uphando lutyhila ukuba iingxaki zokuziphatha komntwana zihlala zikhokelela ekukhuleni kwengqondo yabantu abadala.
Olu phononongo luqhubeka luthi, "Bakhulisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuziphatha ezingafunekiyo eziphindaphindwayo ngempumelelo, ubunzima bokuziphatha gwenxa buye buye bonyuka kwaye baneengxaki nomthetho."
Bukela le vidiyo ukuze uqonde ngakumbi malunga nokusebenza kwengqondo kunye neepatheni zokuziphatha komntwana:
3. Kukho into evakalayo
Unokuthi, "Andizukuthandana ne-psychopath! Zithini iingxaki zoko? ”
Izifundo zibonakalisa ukuba ubuncinci i-1% yabemi banesifo sengqondo esine-psychopathic, kunye nomyinge wamadoda kwabasetyhini eyi-3: 1. Uphando luyaqhubeka ukuveza ukuba ii-psychopaths zamadoda ziya kuba ne-50% yokuziphatha kakubi kolwaphulo-mthetho.
Ungaqaphela le miqondiso ilandelayo yengqondo.
- Ukukhanya kwendelelo
- Ukuphendula ngendlela engaqhelekanga kwimeko yeemvakalelo
- Iimvakalelo ezinzulu
- Ubuxoki bendalo
- Ukungabikho kweentloni okanye ukuzisola
- Ukungathembeki rhoqo
- Ukuziphatha gwenxa ngokwesondo okunemida kugonyamelo okanye ukuphazamisa
- Ukungakhathali kwindalo
- Ukungakwazi ukuthanda
Iqabane lakho linokubonakala linomtsalane kwaye liyinyani, kodwa kusekho into malunga nokuziphatha kwabo okushiya uziva ungazinzanga.
Xa kuziwa kubani uthandana, zithembele iimvakalelo zakho. Ukuba uqaphela iimpawu ze-psychopath, kwaye kukho into evakalelwa ngokungalunganga, mhlawumbi kunjalo.
4. Abanalo uvelwano okanye ityala
Xa unovelwano komnye umntu, uyakwazi ukuqonda kwaye uvelane neemvakalelo zabo. Unemfesane emntwaneni wakho xa ecaphukile, unemincili kwiqabane lakho xa bekonyuselwa.
Iimvakalelo zakho zinxulunyaniswe ngokunzulu kunye nezabo. Ngokwemvelo, olunye lweyona miqondiso mikhulu yengqondo yengqondo kukungabikho kovelwano kwabanye.
Njengokuba olunye uhlolisiso luthi, le ntlalontle ichasene nabantu “ibonakala ngendlela yokungakhathali, yokuxhaphaza, kunye nokuziphatha okungenatyala.” Yile nto ivumela ukuba benze izinto ezingcolileyo ngaphandle kokuziva benetyala ngento abayenzileyo.
Ii-Psychopaths azikhathali ngabanye abantu. Ayisibahlobo babo, usapho, okanye abo banobudlelwane nabo.
Abaziva zintlungu xa bebangela ukwenzakala ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni kwabanye. Kufana nokuba ndindisholo.
Olu lolunye lweempawu kunye neempawu ezibengezelayo ze-psychopath, ekungafanelekanga ukuba ungazihoyi nakweyiphi na indleko.
5. Ukuziphatha kakubi
Olunye lweempawu ezininzi zengqondo yengqondo kukuba banokuba nemvelaphi yolwaphulo-mthetho eguqukayo.
Ukungabikho kovelwano kunye netyala elifunyanwa zii-psychopaths yinto ebavumela ukuba benze ulwaphulo-mthetho ngaphandle kokuzisola. Ezi zenzo zolwaphulo-mthetho zinokubandakanya nantoni na ukusuka kubusela obuncinci ukuya kulwaphulo-mthetho oluyingozi njengokuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokwesondo.
6. Bayaziingqondi ekusebenziseni ngobuqhetseba
Olunye lweempawu eziphambili zengqondo yengqondo kukuba zikhohlisayo kakhulu.
Ngelixa beswele uvelwano, bayakwazi ukuqonda iimvakalelo zabanye kwaye basebenzise oku ukubaxhaphaza. Banokusebenzisa ukuthomalalisa okanye ukuziva benetyala ukuze bafumane indlela yabo.
Ukudlala ixhoba kunye nokufumana uvelwano kwabanye yenye into eqhelekileyo yokukhohlisa kwengqondo.
I-sociopath inokuba sisithethi esidlangalaleni esidumileyo. Ukukwazi kwabo ukuluka ubuxoki obungaqhelekanga kwaye ubenze bakholelwe ukuba yonke le yinxalenye yomtsalane kunye nokuxhaphaza abasebenzisa ngokuchasene nabanye.
7. Ukuzingca ngaphaya kwenkolelo
Olunye uphononongo lubhekisa kwizifo zengqondo "ngabo bahlala bexhaphaza abanye kwaye besaphula imithetho yoluntu ukuze bafumane inzuzo."
Ayilunganga ncam, akunjalo?
I-Psychopath yaziwa njenge-narcissistic.
Yonke into kufuneka ibe malunga nabo. Balindele ukuba nedoti, ukonwatyiswa, kwaye babeke iimfuno zabo ngaphambi komnye umntu. Emehlweni abo, abanakwenza nto iphosakeleyo kwaye baya kuxoka ngokungathi akukho ngomso ukuzama ukuphuma kwiimeko ezikhohlisayo.
Ukuziphatha okunjalo kokuzingca kunokukhawuleza kujike kulawulo lokuziphatha. Umzekelo, iqabane lakho linokuba nomona xa ujonge omnye umntu.
Oku kunokubangela ukuba bahlukane nabahlobo, usapho, kunye nomsebenzi wakho. Banokuzama ukulawula inkangeleko yakho yomzimba okanye bathathe ifowuni yakho kuwe ukuze baqiniseke ukuba ubakhathalele.
I-Psychopaths iyathandeka, ayinatyala, i-narcissists, kwaye ihlala ineengxaki zokuziphatha kwixa elidlulileyo. Ukuba ukhe wakhangela enye okanye ezingaphezulu zale miqondiso yengqondo, unokuba uthandana nomntu onesifo sengqondo esiyingozi.
Ke, ungajongana njani ne-psychopath?
Akufanele ube neentloni ekufuneni uncedo lobuchwephesha xa ubona iimpawu ezikhanyayo ze-psychopath kubudlelwane bakho.
Kodwa, ukuba ufumanisa ukuba ukujongana ne-psychopath kubudlelwane bakho akunakwenzeka okanye kuyingozi kwimpilo-ntle yakho, yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuqinisekisa ukuba ushiya ubudlelwane ngendlela ekhuselekileyo.