Umxholo
- 1. Azisekho iitekisi / iminxeba?
- 2. Ayisenguye umntu onokumthemba
- 3. Ukuguqula indlebe engevayo
- 4. Ukhohlisa kakhulu
- 5. Mamela, uqokelele ubulumko bakho, uyeke ukuxhuma
Ukuthandana okuninzi ngoku kuye kwaduma ngakumbi kunangaphambili.
Ubomi bethu obusekwe kwiwebhu busenza ukuba sikwazi ukunxibelelana nabalingane, kunye nokuninzi sisebenzisa ezi ndawo ukwenza indawo yokuthandana. Iindawo zokuthandana azibonwa njengezingavumelekanga, kwaye ukuba awunazicwangciso zobusuku bangoLwesihlanu, kuya kufuneka utyikitye kwenye yeeprofayili zakho, kwaye olunye uthando lunokubakho ngokukhawuleza.
Nangona kunjalo, kulungile ukuba awuyi kubhanana ngaphezulu kokuthandana. Kodwa awufuni ukwazi ukuba lo mfo ukunye naye ngoku uzimisele ngawe?
Ukuba ubonakalisa imiqondiso emihlanu ukuba uthandana nomnye umfazi, lixesha lokuba uthathe umnxeba.
1. Azisekho iitekisi / iminxeba?
Ukuba umntu uyakulangazelela ukuba nawe, uya kwenza iinzame zokukuhlangabeza. Ukufowuna ngokuzenzekelayo okanye ukudubula umyalezo obhaliweyo ngeyure engaqhelekanga yosuku akunakubonakala ngathi ngumsebenzi onzima ukuwuzalisekisa. Izicwangciso ezenziwe kakuhle aziyi kubhenela ngokukhawuleza, ii-hangout ezingacwangciswanga ukuba loo mntu unomdla kuwe.
Nangona kunjalo, umzuzu ingqalelo yakhe iphambukisiwe yaya komnye umntu, iya kubonakala ngokuziphatha kwakhe ukuba awusenayo eyona nto iphambili. Oku kuziphatha ngokuqinisekileyo yenye yeempawu zokuba uthandana nomnye umfazi.
Ukuhlala yinto ethile, nangona kunjalo, umzekelo wokungabikho kokuzibandakanya kunye nokuphendula ngegama elinye kwenza izinto zibonakale ngokucacileyo. Inye into eqinisekileyo- ungayifumana inkwenkwe iqala iincoko amaxesha amaninzi nokuba yeyokuthandana ngokungaqhelekanga, izihlobo ezinezibonelelo, ukuthanda umlingane okanye isoka lokwenyani.
Ukuba ukwimeko enjalo apho engasaphenduliyo kwizicatshulwa kangangeeyure okanye abuyise naziphi na iifowuni zakho- ekubeni uye kubuntu obusempilweni ukuya kuthula unomathotholo, zilungiselele ukuze ujonge ubukrakra bokwenyani- umntu othile uthathe indawo yakho.
2. Ayisenguye umntu onokumthemba
Ubudlelwane bokwenyani buquka la maqela mabini ukuba abe krwada ngeemvakalelo zawo kwaye bavule kunxibelelwano lwabo.
Ukuba nolwalamano olusondeleyo ngokwasemzimbeni kuyanelisa kodwa ukwabelana ngoqhakamshelwano lweemvakalelo olomeleleyo yinto izibini ezinqwenela ukuba nayo. Nangona kunjalo, xa iintetho ezincinci zithatha indawo yeengxoxo ezinde nezinzulu kwaye awusenayo i-vibe emnandi, kulapho iqala khona ukubetha ngamandla-lo mfo ubona omnye umntu kwaye uzikhuphile ngokwasemoyeni.
Ukongeza kuyo, xa uqala ukubona okwenzekayo ebomini bakhe kumthombo ongaphandle, umzekelo, wanyuselwa, ecwangcisa ukushiya isixeko okanye nantoni na enjalo, kulapho kuya kufuneka uqaphele ukuba lo mfo akakho isabelana ngezimvo ezifanayo.
3. Ukuguqula indlebe engevayo
Kutheni uzikhathaza ngengxoxo enamandla xa unendlela elula yokuphuma? Kwangokunjalo, xa umntu ephulukana nomdla kwinto yakhe ebalulekileyo, wayengenakukhathalela malunga 'nento entsha' ebomini babo?
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukubakho ngokwengqondo nangokweemvakalelo kubambe ukubaluleka njengokubakho kubo ngokwasemzimbeni. Xa uyintloko phezu kwezithende zomntu, konke okujonge phambili ekupheleni kosuku kukwabelana ngazo zonke iinkcukacha kunye nezinye ezibalulekileyo kodwa kwiimeko nangamaxesha apho ungafumani vibe, kwaye iba ngesiqhelo, ke kuyacaca ngakumbi ukuba akasekho kuwe.
Kwakukho amaxesha apho wayehlala ecinga ngokuba kunye nawe nge-24/7, kwaye ngoku wayekucinga ukuziqhelelanisa nawe. Ukujonga olu lwalamano njengento yokubaleka yinto umntu anokuyenza ukuba ingqalelo yakhe ijolise komnye umntu.
4. Ukhohlisa kakhulu
Ngexesha apho umntu eqala ukuthatha umlo, ukungavumelani ngezinto ezingabalulekanga, oku kungenxa yokuba uyathemba ukuba uya kuyiphelisa ngaphambi kokuba afune.
Njengengxenye enkulu yezinto kule rundown, ukuqala ingxabano, ukukhangela iingxabano, okanye ukufumanisa iindlela zokungena phantsi kwesikhumba sakho kushiya ityala kwelinye elibalulekileyo. Ngelixa engenakho ukuxhaphaza ngokusisiseko, unomdla wokuba ngoku wenza into engeyiyo ngokunika inkangeleko yakhe ithuba lokudibana nomnye umntu.
Ukuba wenza ukuba ucaphuke ngokwaneleyo ukuba uthi ndlela ntle yokugqibela kuye, uyalinganisa, ufumana ithuba lokuba yingxaki, kwaye akazukujongwa njengobomi obuphantsi bokuhambahamba ungene ezingalweni zomnye umntu.
Kwirekhodi, oku kukuziphatha okukhohlisayo, okushiya igumbi elibalulekileyo lokuba umfana abaleke ubudlelwane kwaye anike inkululeko yokuba kunye nomnye umntu.
5. Mamela, uqokelele ubulumko bakho, uyeke ukuxhuma
Xa umntu ephulukana nomdla kuwe, ngokuthe ngcembe ushenxisa uluhlu lwakhe oluphambili. Ukuza neenkcazo ezingekho ngqiqweni xa umbuza ngayo nantoni na uyeke ukuxoxa naye malunga nezicwangciso zexesha elizayo, uzama ukuyihleka okanye ayikhathaze.
Umzekelo, usuku lokuzalwa kwakhe lusenyangeni, kwaye sihlandlo ngasinye ubuza into ekufuneka eyenzile, uyayitshintsha loo nto. Akukho saziso sokuphela kwezicwangciso zeveki, singasathethi ke ngeziganeko okanye nantoni na edlulileyo.
Ukuba akalilungeli ikamva, kunokwenzeka ukuba akaboni kwangaphambili ukuba kuya kubakho ikamva. Yongeza kuyo, uya kukugxeka ngokungangqalanga ngokuba nezinto ezininzi, kwaye ngokungxama - esinye isibonisi / umqondiso uthandana nomnye umfazi.