Umxholo
- Kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukuba indoda yazi ukuba ifuna ukutshata?
- 50 Iimpawu ngokuqinisekileyo ufuna ukutshata nawe
- 1. Uceba ikamva kunye nawe
- 2. Uhlala usisihlanganisi sakhe esinye
- 3. Uhlala exesha
- 4. Uyachukumisa
- 5. Ukuthumelela imiyalezo. Okuninzi
- 6. Wena, kwaye KUPHELA wena
- 7. Wacebisa ukuba angene
- 8. Usesichengeni
- 9. Ulapho ebunzimeni nobunzima
- 10. Wakhankanya ubomi bomtshato ngaphambili
- 11. Uphelele kuwe
- 12. Wabelana ngezinto zosapho nawe
- 13. Uzityand 'igila kuwe ngezinto zeshishini naye
- 14. Uhlala nabahlobo bakhe abatshatileyo
- 15. Ufuna ukujoyina iiakhawunti
- 16. Unesidima
- 17. Ikloko yakhe iyangxama
- 18. Ukunika amacebo
- 19. Ukhathalele umdla wakho
- 20. Ulwimi lwakhe lwatshintsha
- 21. Ukwabelana kukukhathalela
- 22. Nguwe wedwa
- 23. Ucela uluvo lwakho
- 24. Uthanda izinto zokulala
- 25. Wenza iziqhulo zomtshato
- 26. Iiholide kunye
- 27. Ubhukisha iincwadi zonyaka olandelayo
- 28. Ukhetha iindawo ezingaqhelekanga zeholide
- 29. Sele edlala indima
- 30. Ukholelwa emtshatweni
- 31. Akahleki xa abanye bethetha ngomtshato
- 32. Ukhululekile kakhulu kufutshane nawe
- 33. Niyintsapho
- 34. Uthetha ngekamva, nawe ukhona
- 35. “Thina”
- 36. Uthetha ngabantwana
- 37. Uthetha ngemitshato kunye neendawo
- 38. Akazange abe nomona
- 39. Uyagcina
- 40. Ukuthetha ngokuba ngumzali
- 41. Ukwaluphala kunye
- 42. Nguwe oza kubiza
- 43. Uziva ukhululekile ukuba ngokwakho
- 44. Uvula iakhawunti yokugcina (kunye nawe)
- 45. Ukunika ikhadi letyala
- 46. Ufuna ukwazi konke
- 47. Iiringi zakho zilahlekile
- 48. Ubuza malunga nobungakanani bendandatho yakho
- 49. Uyema ngeefestile zobucwebe
- 50. Uyamangalisa kakhulu
- Yise kude
Ndiyakuvuyela! Ukuba ufunda le nto, oko kuthetha ukuba unolwalamano olonwabileyo, kwaye yonke into ihamba kakuhle, kodwa uyazibuza ukuba ngaba ukukunika imiqondiso yokuba ufuna ukutshata.
Kube ziinyanga ezimbalwa okanye iminyaka elungileyo, kwaye ngoku ukwinqanaba lobuhlobo bakho apho izinto zimnandi, kodwa uyadideka ukuba uza kuphakamisa kungekudala okanye hayi.
Kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukuba indoda yazi ukuba ifuna ukutshata?
Akukho mntu unokukuxelela ukuba kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukuba indoda yazi ukuba ifuna ukutshata.
Lo mntu ngumntu ngamnye, kwaye nangona kungekho mpendulo ichanekileyo kulo mbuzo, kukho imiqondiso yokuba ufuna ukutshata. Ngethamsanqa kuthi manenekazi, sinoku (mhlawumbi) siqikelele kwaye sikubone kusiza ukuba sihoya isimilo esithile okanye izijekulo.
Ungalibali, ngokophando apho abantu abangama-2000 bavotelwe khona, kwafumaniseka ukuba ngokomndilili, umntu uthatha iinyanga ezi-6 okanye iintsuku ezili-172 ukuqiniseka ngomtshato neqabane lakhe.
50 Iimpawu ngokuqinisekileyo ufuna ukutshata nawe
Ngaba ujonge imiqondiso afuna ukutshata nayo? Nazi imiqondiso engama-50 eya kukunceda uqiniseke kwaye wenze inyathelo elilandelayo:
1. Uceba ikamva kunye nawe
Ngumqondiso ocacileyo ozibona enawe ixesha elide. Ukuba uthetha ngeenjongo zeminyaka emi-5 nawe, ngokuqinisekileyo uzimisele ngokuthatha inyathelo elilandelayo. Abafana abathethi ngamacebo exesha elizayo ngaphandle kokuba bazimisele ngobudlelwane.
2. Uhlala usisihlanganisi sakhe esinye
Ukuba ukuzisa kuwo onke amaxesha, emsebenzini, enxulumene nosapho, okanye nakwiminyhadala yeshishini, kucacile ukuba ufuna ukuba udibane nabo bonke abantu ebomini bakhe, kwaye ufuna ukuba badibane nawe kuba wena ngokucacileyo ungumntu aziqhenyce ngaye kwaye ndithandana.
Ukuba ukumemela kumtshato kadade wabo kwaye uyaziqhenya ngokwazisa wonke umntu, unika imiqondiso yokuba ufuna ukutshata.
3. Uhlala exesha
Ukufika ngexesha ngumqondiso ukuba uyakuhlonipha. Ngakumbi, uyakuxabisa kwaye uyakuthanda kakhulu, kwaye unombulelo ngawo wonke umzuzu eninokuthi nichithe kunye. Ngaba akulunganga ukuba nomfana osoloko efika ngexesha?
4. Uyachukumisa
Ngaba uzibamba ubamba ngaphezulu, njengawe ekuqaleni kobudlelwane bakho? Ngaba uchukumisa isandla sakho ngaphezu kwesiqhelo okanye uphulula intamo yakho xa ungalindelanga? Lo isenokuba ngumqondiso ocinga ngokuvela kombuzo!
5. Ukuthumelela imiyalezo. Okuninzi
Ezinye zeempawu afuna ukutshata nazo azicacanga kwaye zinokudida. Ukuba uhlala ekukhumbuza ngendlela akukhumbula ngayo xa ningekho kunye, oko kuthetha ukuba usezingqondweni zakhe (kakhulu).
6. Wena, kwaye KUPHELA wena
Akabaqwalaseli abanye abafazi; akazukubeka izimvo kubafana ngamanye amantombazana amhle adlulayo. Amehlo akhe akuwe, kwaye nguwe wedwa.
7. Wacebisa ukuba angene
Ayisiyiyo kwaphela imibuzo, kodwa isondele kakhulu! Ukuba ucebisa ngokufudukela kwelinye ilizwe, oko kuthetha ukuba uzimisele kakhulu ngekamva lakho kunye. Ukuba into yokuqala xa wayekucela ukuba ungene "wayefuna ukutshata nam", kulungile ke, unokuba uchanekile!
8. Usesichengeni
Ukuba uqaphela ukuba uvula ngaphezulu kunakuqala kwaye ubonakalisa ubumnene bakhe, nokuba sesichengeni ngakumbi, luphawu olucacileyo lokuba uyakuthemba kwaye ubona umhlobo kunye nomthandi wexesha elide kuwe.
9. Ulapho ebunzimeni nobunzima
Alukho ulwalamano olugqibeleleyo, kwaye ukuba ukhona ebunzimeni kunye nokubhitya, luphawu lokuba nguye. Baninzi kakhulu abaya kubaleka xa bejamelene nobunzima bokuqala, kodwa hayi lo mfo.
10. Wakhankanya ubomi bomtshato ngaphambili
Ngokuqinisekileyo uyazibona akutshatile ukuba ebekhe wakhankanya umtshato kuwe ngaphambili. Isenokuba yingcinga nje edlulayo, kodwa ngekhe ayikhankanye ukuba ayichazanga engqondweni yakhe!
11. Uphelele kuwe
Akanakukufumana ngokwaneleyo! Xa indoda ifuna wena, ayinakukufihla. Akangobhubhani, ungamniki ubunzima kule nto kodwa uqonde ukuba ubonakalisa nje ukuba ufuna ukutshata!
12. Wabelana ngezinto zosapho nawe
Sonke sinamathambo kwigunjana lethu. Ukuba umntu wakho wabelana nabanye ngobuhle, izinto zosapho nawe, ufuna ukuba uyazi ngesizathu. Kubonisa ukuba usesichengeni kwaye ukulungele ukuzibophelela kuwe.
13. Uzityand 'igila kuwe ngezinto zeshishini naye
Abanye abantu banokumangalisa kakhulu xa kufikwa kumakhondo abo emisebenzi kunye nayo yonke into eyenzekayo emsebenzini. Ukuba umntu wakho ulandela ikhondo lomsebenzi kwaye wabelana ngezinto ezenzeka emsebenzini nawe, uyakuthemba kwaye ufuna ukuva uluvo lwakho.
14. Uhlala nabahlobo bakhe abatshatileyo
Kungaba nzima ukuba phakathi kwabantu abatshatileyo ukuba awunamnqweno wokuba ngomnye wabo.
Nangona kunjalo, luphawu oluhle ukuba ukulungele ukutshata ukuba uqhubeka ujinga nabahlobo bakhe abatshatileyo! Zininzi iimpawu ezicacileyo afuna ukukutshata, kwaye le yenye yazo ngokuqinisekileyo.
15. Ufuna ukujoyina iiakhawunti
Ewe. Le yinto ENKULU kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo kuthetha ukuba ubona izinto ezinomfazi kuwe. Ngaphandle koko, ngekhe acebise oku. Ikwayenye yeempawu ukuba ungoyena kuba awufuni mntu woyikayo ukwabelana nawe ngemvelaphi yakhe yezemali.
16. Unesidima
Njengakwi "ukubona isithandwa sakhe samabanga aphakamileyo kwakhona" giddy, mhlawumbi uzama ukufumana umzuzu ogqibeleleyo, okanye ucinga ngobuso bakho bebona iringi kwaye uyonwabile uyicwangcisa yonke.
Mhlawumbi ubucinga ukuba yonke imo yomoya omkhulu ayisiyonto inkulu, kodwa inokuba yenye yeempawu afuna ukukutshata, oko kuthetha ukuba yinto enkulu!
17. Ikloko yakhe iyangxama
Kungamangalisa kuwe, kodwa abafana banewotshi nayo. Kwaye amakhalane, njengabafazi.
Amanye amadoda anexhala lokuba ayaluphala kwaye angawuphakamisa umbuzo kwakamsinya kunokuba kamva xa efuna ukuqala usapho ngexesha.
18. Ukunika amacebo
Ukuba uninika iingcebiso ezinje ngo "qala ukujonga iilokhwe" okanye "bhukisha ikhalenda yakho," oko kuthetha ukuba unento ayicwangcisileyo nobabini. Kuya kufuneka abe neentloni kakhulu ukuba angayibeka phandle, kodwa izinto ziqinisekile engqondweni yakhe.
19. Ukhathalele umdla wakho
Ukuba ubuza ngomsebenzi wakho, okanye abahlobo, okanye izinto ozithandayo, oko kuthetha ukuba ubalulekile kuye, kwaye ufuna ukwazi ukuba kwenzeka ntoni emhlabeni wakho. Oku kukwavula umthombo omkhulu wonxibelelwano.
20. Ulwimi lwakhe lwatshintsha
Ukuba wayeka ukuthi "ukuba" kwaye usebenzisa "nini" endaweni yoko, uthathe isigqibo ngokucacileyo engqondweni yakhe ukuba umtshato uyaqhubeka kungekudala. Oku kubonisa kuphela ukuzithemba kwakhe ekubeni kunye nawe.
21. Ukwabelana kukukhathalela
Akanangxaki nokwabelana nawe ngezinto zakhe. Ubuqu okanye ishishini, ukulungele ukwabelana nabo nawe. Nje ukuba enze oko, qiniseka ukuba uyonwaba xa ekunye nawe kwaye uyakuthemba.
22. Nguwe wedwa
Mamela ngenyameko. Asazi ukuba ithatha ixesha elingakanani indoda ukwazi ukuba ifuna ukutshata, kodwa inye into esiyaziyo: ukuba uqhubeka esithi, "Nguwe wedwa o ..." ucinga ukukwenza ube Umfazi.
23. Ucela uluvo lwakho
Izigqibo ezibalulekileyo ekufuneka zenziwe, kwaye uya kubani? Wena.
Ngoku, akasaziphathi izinto entlokweni yakhe kodwa wabelana nawe ngazo. Ungumntu wakhe wokuya.
24. Uthanda izinto zokulala
Wena kwindawo yakhe, okanye naye kweyakho. Ayinamsebenzi. Ukuba uthanda ukulala, uyakuthanda kakhulu, uyakuthemba, kwaye ubona ikamva kunye nawe. Oku kubonisa inqanaba lakhe lokuzibandakanya.
25. Wenza iziqhulo zomtshato
Olunye lweempawu ezicacileyo kukuba uyahlekisa ngomtshato kakhulu. Ngaphandle kokuba akaqhuli, kodwa akakakulungeli ukuphuma okwangoku.
26. Iiholide kunye
Ukuba nifumana iholide kunye, ubudlelwane benu bukhulile, kwaye mhlawumbi uzibona ekutshateni ukuba uyonwabela iholide kunye kwaye ufuna ukubhukisha ngakumbi.
27. Ubhukisha iincwadi zonyaka olandelayo
Ukuba ucinga ngokubhukisha ikhefu lonyaka olandelayo sele inokuba sesinye seempawu afuna ukukutshata ngazo kuba kutheni eza kucinga phambili kwikamva?
28. Ukhetha iindawo ezingaqhelekanga zeholide
Ngoku, eli inokuba lelinye lamacebo aza kuwacebisa. Ukuba uhlala ungayi kwiBahamas ehlotyeni, kunokuba nesizathu esivakalayo sokuba uyikhethe ngoku.
29. Sele edlala indima
Ukuba wenza njengomyeni wakho sele: ucela ingcebiso yakho, ajike kuwe akuxhase ngamaxesha anzima, akuhloniphe, kwaye akuxabise, kwaye angoyiki ukuyibonisa esidlangalaleni naye, oko kuthetha ukuba sele edlala loo ndima ubomi.
30. Ukholelwa emtshatweni
Abanye abantu abayenzi. Kwaye abo benzayo, baya kukwazisa. Ufuna uyazi ukuba uyakholelwa kuyo, kwaye uninzi lweempawu afuna ukukutshata kwixa elizayo (okanye kungekudala).
31. Akahleki xa abanye bethetha ngomtshato
Kukho utyekelo lokuhlekisa ngesihloko umntu afuna ukusiphepha. Kwaye ngomtshato, uninzi lwabantu lwenza oko ukunqanda ezinye iintetho. Kodwa ukhule ngokwaneleyo kwaye nangakumbi. Inokuba sesinye isibonakaliso sokuba ufuna ukutshata nawe.
32. Ukhululekile kakhulu kufutshane nawe
Kakhulu, kamnandi. Isenokuthetha ukuba uthando oluthile luyekile, kodwa ukuba nobuhlobo kwaye uvule kwaye uzive ukhululekile xa unezinto zezona zinto zibalulekileyo. Kwaye ukuba uziva ubandayo kwinkampani yakho, ngokuqinisekileyo yinto elungileyo.
33. Niyintsapho
Ukujonga njengenxalenye yosapho. Uyakubala, akumemele kwiminyhadala yosapho, kwaye akwenzele izinto ezifanayo naleyo ebeya kuyenzela usapho, kwaye ukuba uziva ngathi uyinxalenye yosapho lwakhe sele ulungile.
34. Uthetha ngekamva, nawe ukhona
Ukuba uthetha ngokutshintsha ikhondo lomsebenzi, ukuthenga indlu, okanye ukufudukela kwelinye ilizwe, uyabona nawe ulapho kwaye uyikhankanye.
35. “Thina”
Ukuba usebenzisa u "thina" endaweni ka "mna" okanye "mna," ngumqondiso otshintshe umbono kwaye wamkela umbono wokuba nobabini ngoku.
36. Uthetha ngabantwana
Ukuba ukhankanya abantwana, okanye umbone ejonga ezinye iintsapho ezinabantwana kwaye ephawula ngayo, mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba isengqondweni yakhe nayo.
37. Uthetha ngemitshato kunye neendawo
Enye yezinto eziqhelekileyo ekufuneka uziqwalasele ngaphambi kokwenza umtshato wakho yindawo. Ukuba ujonga kwiihotele okanye kwezinye iindawo, uza kukucela ukuba utshate naye kungekudala.
38. Akazange abe nomona
Abanye abantu banomona ngakumbi kunabanye, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ufuna ikamva kunye nawe ukuba akaze asabele kwizinto ezithile kwaye unekhwele eli-0. Uyakuthemba, kwaye nguye oza kutshata.
Kubudlelwane obungezantsi, uMateyu Hussey uxoxa ukuba ungoyisa umona kulwalamano kwaye uluguqulele kwikratshi:
39. Uyagcina
Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, ebephila ubomi obungenaxhala, kodwa ngequbuliso, ugcina imali yento ethile kwaye uyamangalisa ngayo. Umtshato mhlawumbi?
Okanye inokuba ulumke ngakumbi ngemali kuba ugcinela ikamva.
40. Ukuthetha ngokuba ngumzali
Kubalulekile ukuba azi ukuba uphi xa kuziwa ebantwaneni, kwaye ufuna ukuyazi le nto ngaphambi kokuba avele umbuzo xa unezimvo ezahlukileyo malunga nokukhulisa abantwana.
41. Ukwaluphala kunye
Ukuba uthi kuya kuba mnandi kangakanani ukuguga kunye aze akwenze ucinge ngazo zonke izinto onokuzenza xa umdala, uzibona ekutshata.
Oku, enyanisweni, yenye yeendlela ezinkulu zesindululo ngokunjalo.
42. Nguwe oza kubiza
Unokuthembela kuwe ngamaxesha onke. Nobabini nakhe unxibelelwano olomeleleyo kangangokuba ngamaxesha okuswela, ucinga ngawe kuqala. Ungumnxibelelwano wakhe ongxamisekileyo. Ayisiye umama wakhe okanye udadewabo. Wena.
43. Uziva ukhululekile ukuba ngokwakho
Unokuba nguwe, ngaphandle kwesihluzo. Nobabini nibhenca ukungazithembi kwenu. Into ebalulekileyo ekufuneka uyiqwalasele ngaphambi kokuphuma kombuzo- Ngaba ndinganguye xa ndinaye? Ukuba nobabini nikhululekile ukuba ngokwenu, iintsuku ezimyoli!
44. Uvula iakhawunti yokugcina (kunye nawe)
Ukuba uxoxa nawe malunga nezicwangciso zokonga, uyakubona kwikamva lakhe, kwaye uzibona ekwabelana naye ngekamva lakhe. Le yinto yamandulo "ufuna ukukutshata" ngengqondo, kwaye kulungile ukuba ucinga ngale ndlela.
45. Ukunika ikhadi letyala
Ukuthembile kakhulu kangangokuba uyakuvumela ukuba ube nemali yakhe. Uphantse wajonga imali yakhe njengeyakho. Ukuba uziva ekhululekile ukuba abelane nawe ngekhadi lakhe letyala, kuyafana nokuba sele utshatile. Uziva ekhuselekile kwaye ekhululekile xa ekunye nawe.
46. Ufuna ukwazi konke
Ulahla imibuzo malunga nomtshato wakho wamaphupha. Injani ilokhwe, injani indawo yokutya, ukutya, njl. Uxoxa ngazo zonke izinto ezinjalo kuba efuna ukuqonda ukuba nidibanisa phi nobabini kwaye konke oku kungacwangciswa njani.
47. Iiringi zakho zilahlekile
Ngaba iringi yakho ikho ixesha elithile ngoku? Ukusika konke. Sukuba nexhala. Uya kuyifumana kungekudala. Ube nje umsesane wakho ukuze ufumane ubungakanani beringi!
48. Ubuza malunga nobungakanani bendandatho yakho
Unokujonga amaqhinga okwazi ubungakanani bendandatho yakho njengoko amanye amakhwenkwe ethe ngqo kwaye aya kucela ubungakanani obufanelekileyo. Kulapho uyazi ukuba ubudlelwane bakho bufikelela kwelinye inqanaba.
49. Uyema ngeefestile zobucwebe
Sele eqalile ukuthenga ngengqondo. Uceba izinto, ukusuka kwizacholo ukuya emtshatweni, kwaye ufuna ukuba uphawule ngezangqa zedayimani ukuze azi incasa yakho. Intle kanjani!
50. Uyamangalisa kakhulu
Uceba izinto ngasese. Mhlawumbi kuba efuna ukumothusa, kwaye uyazibuza ukuba wenzani, uyaphi, kwaye uphezu kwantoni. Ngokuqinisekileyo ulungiselela umsesane okanye indawo yesindululo! Kuvuyisa ngokwenene!
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Yise kude
Zininzi izinto afuna ukukutshata, kodwa ayisiyiyo imfihlakalo ebenza ukuba bathathe isigqibo sokuba leliphi ixesha elifanelekileyo.
Njengoko besesitshilo, akukho mntu waziyo ukuba ithatha ixesha elingakanani indoda ukwazi ukuba ifuna ukutshata nawe, kodwa xa indoda ifuna wena, iya kwenza nantoni na ukuphumelela ngokusisigxina.
Amadoda nabasetyhini bathetha ngeelwimi ezahlukeneyo, kwaye siyazi ukuba amadoda avela eMars, Abasetyhini bavela kwiVenus, kodwa sisenokuhamba-hamba kwaye sizame ukucacisa indlela yokuziphatha kwamadoda kwaye sibone ukuba ukulungele na ukuphuma umbuzo omkhulu kungekudala.