Umxholo
- Ityala elinxulunyaniswa noqhawulo-mtshato
- Kuyindalo ukuba uzabalaze ngalo mbandela
- Musa ukuzibetha
- Abantwana banokuhlala bengaphazamiseki kuqhawulo mtshato
- Uninzi lwabantwana boqhawulo-mtshato luyaziqhelanisa kwaye lwenza uthando kubazali bobabini
- Xa omnye umzali ephuma ngokukhawuleza
- Abazali kufuneka basebenze kwizakhono zabo zobuzali ngexesha lokwahlukana
Ukwazi ukhetho lwakho lokugcina umntwana emva komtshato kunokunceda ekwenzeni esinye sezigqibo ezibaluleke kakhulu kuwe nakubomi babantwana bakho; ushiye ubudlelwane oziva bungenampilo kuwe. Usenokuba uzame zonke iindlela onokukhetha kuzo ukugcina ubudlelwane kubandakanya unyango, isibongozo kunye nokwala. Kodwa loo mvakalelo yokufa komphefumlo obuhlungu, iphupha elibi ubomi bakho obubonakala ngathi sele linalo alisayi kuphela.
Ityala elinxulunyaniswa noqhawulo-mtshato
Unokuqiniseka ukuba ubudlelwane bakho buphelile kodwa woyike ngokupheleleyo malunga nefuthe olibuphelisayo kubantwana bakho. Njengokuba ukukhululeka njengokuba ingcinga yokuba wedwa isenokuba yingqushu yeemvakalelo ezifanayo eziqhubekekayo ”ingaba ndibonakalisa abantwana bam ngokusisigxina ngokwenza into evakala ibalulekile ekusindeni kwam ngokwasemoyeni nangokweemvakalelo”.
Ukuzama ukufumanisa ukuba ingaba izizathu zakho zokushiya kufanelekile okanye zizicingela wedwa yingxaki etya yonke into.
Uyazibuza ukuba mhlawumbi into elungileyo ukuyenza kukuhlala kubudlelwane, ukuncama ukuqonda kwakho ngenxa yabantwana bakho kwaye ulukhuni.
Kuyindalo ukuba uzabalaze ngalo mbandela
Ubudlelwane budinga umsebenzi oqhubekayo kunye nokuzincama. Ukuba imizamo yakho emihle ayizisi ulwalamano olulawulwayo, oluthembekileyo noluxhasanayo; ukuba ubonakala usenza wonke umsebenzi kwaye uzincama, mhlawumbi lixesha lokuba uqhubeke.
Unokulwa nokuba kutheni ubudlelwane obubonakala bulungile buphela bukugulisa ngokweemvakalelo, kwaye mhlawumbi emzimbeni, ugule. Ukuzimasa izinto zeemvakalelo zezi zinto ziphambili, imibuzo ekhoyo iyahluka kodwa ngokubanzi kubandakanya uxinzelelo, ukuziva unetyala kunye noloyiko.
Elinye iyeza lokuthintela oku kuxhalaba kukwazi ukhetho lwakho lokugcina umntwana emva kokuba uza kukwazi ukwenza izigqibo ezizizo kulungele abantwana bakho.
Musa ukuzibetha
Kungokwemvelo ukuthatha uxanduva lwezinto ezinzima, ezicel'umngeni ezenzeka ebomini bethu. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba sikwenza oku ukuziva ngathi sinezinga elithile lolawulo kwiingxaki ezivelayo. Nangona kunjalo, akukho luncedo ekuzibetheni ngenxa yokuba ukwimeko engenakuchazeka.
Amaxesha amaninzi, ebomini senza ubudlelwane kunye nezinye izigqibo ezibalulekileyo ngokusekwe kwiskripthi sosapho lwethu okanye kwimeko yobuntwana esachukumiseka kuyo. Ubudlelwane bunokuziva ngathi "bulungile" kuthi hayi kuba busempilweni kodwa ngenxa yokuba beqhelekile, okanye sisesichengeni kubantu abathile kunye nolwalamano olunamandla ngenxa yoko sikufumanayo njengabantwana.
Abantwana banokuhlala bengaphazamiseki kuqhawulo mtshato
Ngokumalunga nombuzo wokonzakalisa abantwana ngokwahlulahlula, akukho mbuzo wokwahlula kunye nokwenza amakhaya amabini kuya kuba nefuthe elikhulu kubo.
Ziyakuhlala zichaphazeleka ngokwahlulwa, kodwa azizukukhubazeka okanye zonakaliswe ngokwasemzimbeni njengoko abanye ababhali besitsho.
Ukujongana nokoyisa imiceli mngeni yinxalenye yobomi, ayisiyiyo incwadi kagqirha yokusilela.
Uninzi lwabantwana boqhawulo-mtshato luyaziqhelanisa kwaye lwenza uthando kubazali bobabini
Bathatha okona kulungileyo kunikezwe ngumzali ngamnye kwaye baphumelele. Umonakalo wokwahlukana unokubangelwa ikakhulu kukuqhawula umtshato phakathi kwabazali. Abantwana ababonisa iingxaki zesikolo kunye nezentlalo emva koqhawulo-mtshato bahlala bechaphazeleka kwinto enobungozi phakathi kwabazali.
Abazali abaxoxa malunga nemiba yoqhawulo mtshato kunye nenkundla yosapho nabantwana benza ingozi enkulu kwaye babonisa ukuqonda okuncinci malunga nesidingo sokwenza izinto ezilungileyo zabantwana babo.
Xa omnye umzali ephuma ngokukhawuleza
Kwixesha elidlulileyo, iparadigm yesiqhelo yokwahlukana ibikukuba umzali omnye aphume ngequbuliso kwikhaya losapho. Kungathatha iiveki okanye iinyanga ukuba kufike ishedyuli yokugcina umntwana. Okwangoku, i-acrimony ekhoyo ngenxa yokunqongophala kokufikelela kubantwana kunye / okanye ukwahlulwa kwempahla yepropathi yoluntu inokunyuka.
Le ndlela yothusayo kunye noloyiko kumakhaya amabini inokubaphazamisa kakhulu abantwana nokuba babone ukwahlukana kusiza.
Abazali kufuneka basebenze kwizakhono zabo zobuzali ngexesha lokwahlukana
Imeko yangoku yokwahlulwa komzali ngokubambisana emva kokuzalelwa ngokubanzi ishiya okuninzi kunqweneleka ngokubhekisele ekudaleni imeko-bume esempilweni yabantwana. Kwiimeko ezininzi, i-acrimony engacinezelekanga phakathi kwabazali yinto ehlala ihleli kubomi babantwana.
Abantwana bahlengahlengisa besebenzisa izihlobo zabo kunye nabanyangi njengeebhodi ezivakalayo kunye nomzabalazo wokungazibeki tyala kubutshaba babazali babo omnye komnye.
Kwangelo xesha, ukuxakeka kwabazali kukuziva bengamaxhoba oxinzelelo lokukwazi ukunika abantwana ingqalelo abayifunayo kakhulu kolu tshintsho lukhulu.
Kumanqaku alandelayo, ndiza kuvavanya ezinye iindlela eziqhelekileyo zokuseka ilungiselelo lokugcina amakhaya amabini. Oku kuyakubandakanya ukuyoyikwa kweentaka kunye nezinye iindlela zesiko lokugcina abantwana. Yonke intsapho ineemfuno ezahlukeneyo. Akukho sayizi inye ehambelana nayo yonke indlela yokwahlulahlula. Ukuba nolwazi malunga nezibonelelo kunye neengxaki ezinokubakho kunokuthintela abazali ekwenzeni izinto abanokuzisola ngazo kamva.