Umxholo
- Ukwazi njani ukuba ufuna ingcebiso ngomtshato
- Yintoni onokuyilindela kunyango lomtshato
- Lithini inqanaba lokuphumelela kunyango lomtshato
Kuqhelekile ukuba izibini zikhe ziyeke ukufuna uncedo zide zibe sengxakini kwaye zide zicinge nokwahlukana.
Eli ayiloxesha elifanelekileyo lokufuna uncedo okanye ukufumana unyango lomtshato! Ngelo xesha, kunokwenzeka ukuba iqabane ngalinye liye lenzakala kakhulu ngomnye okanye lakhe ulwazelelo olukhulu kwiqabane labo.
Inzondo enjalo yenza ukuba kube nzima kubo ukuyithemba inkqubo ngokwaneleyo ukuba baqale ukuvumela ngeendlela ezintsha zokubona ubunzima bobudlelwane babo. Ikwathetha ukuba elinye iqabane linokuba lirhoxile kubudlelwane ngeenzame zokuzikhusela kwintlungu nakwintlungu, kwaye loo nto yenza ukuba kube nzima kubo ukuthatha phantsi iindonga zabo baphinde bazibandakanye kulwalamano. Kwaye kunokuba kunjalo, ezi zimbalwa iimpawu ezibonisa ukuba ufuna ukutyelela umcebisi womtshato.
Njengoko sele kukhankanyiwe, kuyacetyiswa ukuba ufune uncedo kwaye ufumane unyango lomtshato kwangoko, xa uqaphela ukuba awusombululi iyantlukwano ngendlela efanelekileyo kwaye ikhokelela kwiipatheni zokuziphatha gwenxa omnye komnye.
Ukwazi njani ukuba ufuna ingcebiso ngomtshato
Kuqhelekile ukuba sibe nengxabano okanye ukwahluka kubudlelwane bethu.
Singabantu ababini abohlukeneyo abaneendlela ezahlukeneyo zokucinga nokuqonda, kunye nokukhetha ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokwenza izinto. Ayilenzi iqabane lakho lingalunganga okanye libi.
Kodwa, kukho iingxabano ezithile zomtshato ezifuna ingcebiso neengcebiso kwiingcali. Ukuya kunyango lomtshato kunokubanceda abantu abatshatileyo ukuba bangaphumeleli kwimicimbi emincinci, kungenjalo, inokuwonakalisa umtshato wabo ngokusisigxina.
Zimbalwa iimpawu ezibonakalayo emtshatweni wakho ezokuxelela ukuba lixesha lokuba uye kunyango lomtshato.
- Kunqabile ukuba ufumane ixesha lokuhlala phantsi kwaye ube nencoko efanelekileyo
- Niya kugqiba niphikisana ngezinto ezingenamsebenzi phantse yonke imihla
- Unemfihlo kwaye neqabane lakho lifihla ulwazi kuwe
- Ukrokrela ukuba iqabane lakho linobudlelwane ngaphandle komtshato
- Uziva utsalelekile komnye umntu ngokwakho
- Nobabini nizinikele ekungathembeki kwemali, kwaye uluhlu luyaqhubeka
Ke, kuya kufuneka uye nini kunyango lwezibini? Ukuba umtshato wakho ujongene nemeko efana nale ichazwe kwezi ngongoma zingasentla, ngokuqinisekileyo ufuna unyango lomtshato.
Yintoni onokuyilindela kunyango lomtshato
Kukho imibuzo enokukukhathaza ngelixa usenza isigqibo sokuba ufuna unyango lomtshato okanye hayi. Unokuphela uskena kwiWebhu eBanzi yeHlabathi ukujonga imibuzo enje, 'Yintoni endimele ndiyilindele kunyango lomtshato?' okanye, 'Ngaba ukucebisa ngomtshato kufanelekile?'
Iinkcukacha-manani zinika umfanekiso olungileyo malunga nonyango lomtshato. Ngokophando olwenziwe yiAmerican Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, phantse ama-97% kwizibini ezitshekishweyo zavuma ukuba iTrapy Therapy ibabonelela ngalo lonke uncedo abaludingayo.
Kwaye, ngolwazi lwakho, unyango lomtshato lusebenza ngokukhawuleza kwaye lisebenzisa ixesha elincinci kunelokucebisa. Kodwa, kuxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo ekubeni ukulungele kangakanani na ukudibana nonyango kunye njengesibini kwaye ulamkela njani icebiso lomcebisi.
Ungalindela uninzi lwemibuzo yobuqu ebekwe kuwe yiTherapist efuna iimpendulo ezichanekileyo. Kuya kufuneka ubonakalise, unxibelelane, kwaye uthathe uxanduva lokugqibezela ii-asayinimenti kunye njengesibini ukuba silindele iziphumo ezingcono ekupheleni kweeseshini ezabiweyo.
Lithini inqanaba lokuphumelela kunyango lomtshato
Iingcali zobudlelwane ziyavuma ukuba ayisiyiyo malunga nokuba kukho ukungqubana emtshatweni wakho okuxela kwangaphambili ukuba umtshato uphumelele, kodwa indlela enibuyela ngayo kunye nokugcina unxibelelwano lwakho.
Nje ukuba nobabini nivumelane ukuba nifuna uncedo lwangaphandle ekutshintsheni iipateni zokuziphatha ezingalunganga, kwaye nobabini nizinikele kule nkqubo, kubalulekile ukuba nivuleleke ukufumana ulwazi olutsha malunga neepateni ezibonwa ngumgqirha.
Yintoni esebenzayo kwiimeko ezininzi iyasebenza apha.
“Ukuba ufuna ulwalamano olufanayo onalo ngoku, qhubeka wenze le nto uyenzayo. Ukuba ufuna ubudlelwane obahlukileyo, kuya kufuneka wenze into eyahlukileyo.”
Ayizukuba lula ukutshintsha iipateni zakho ezendeleyo, kodwa ukwenza njalo kungakhokelela kulwalamano olwanelisayo nolonwabisayo.
Kwaye, ngolwazi lwakho, inqanaba lempumelelo eliqhelekileyo kunyango olujolise kwiimvakalelo limi kuma-75% ngokwe-American Psychological Association.