Umxholo
- 1. Misela imigaqo
- 2. Ziqhelise ukwabelana ngesondo okukhuselekileyo
- 3. Yiba nentlonelo
- 4. Vavanywa
- 5. Zibambe iimvakalelo zakho
- 6. ... Musa ukoyika ukuntywila
Ukuba ucinga ngokuzisa ulwabelana ngesondo ebomini bakho, kukho imigaqo ebalulekileyo yomhlaba ekufuneka uyazi ngaphambi kokuba uyenze.
Uninzi lufumana ii-hookups ngaphandle kwemitya eqhotyoshelweyo ukuba ibeyindibano eyonelisayo neyonwabisayo. Babini nje abantu ababelana ngemizimba yabo ubusuku (okanye ubusuku obuninzi) bokuzonwabisa. Kodwa, ngaba ukulala nomntu ongatshatanga naye kunokuba yinto engathandekiyo? Kunzima ukutyhala ecaleni kweemvakalelo xa usabelana ngesona senzo sisondeleyo nomnye umntu.
Ukwabelana ngesondo ngokungathandabuzekiyo kuya kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwizigidi zeminyaka kunye noGen Z. Kodwa njengama-1960 kaGen X ngaphambi kokuba bafunde, "abahlobo abanezibonelelo" kunqabile ukuba basebenze. Nantsi imigaqo emi-6 yesini esingaqhelekanga kunye nezona zizathu zokuba kutheni, nokuba uzama kangakanani, kunqabile ukuba kusebenze.
1. Misela imigaqo
Ukuba ufuna ukuphuma kulungelelwaniso ngokwesondo ngaphandle kokubandakanya iimvakalelo zakho, kuya kufuneka ubeke imithetho eyisiseko kunye neqabane lakho. Umzekelo, ukuthetha nokuthumela imiyalezo kufuneka kuhlale kukufutshane kwaye kumnandi.
Musa ukuganga okanye ukuchitha ixesha kunye emva kokudibana ngokwesondo. Yile nto ayenzayo amaqabane, hayi ngoobani abathandanayo.
Khangela umntu oziva ukhululekile kuye. Nangona ungafanele ukulala nomntu osondeleyo, kuya kufuneka ukwazi ukunxibelelana kwaye uzive ukhululekile kwiqabane lakho owabelana nalo ngesondo. Oku kuyakunceda ukuba ube nokudibana okwanelisayo.
Musa ukuzibandakanya kwimidiya yoluntu. Ukubona imifanekiso kunye nohlaziyo lwento ekufumaneke kuyo ukuya kuthi ga kule veki kungaqala ukukwenza uzive ubandakanyekile kubomi babo.
2. Ziqhelise ukwabelana ngesondo okukhuselekileyo
Ziqhelanise nokwabelana ngesondo okukhuselekileyo-soloko uhleli! Nokuba ukunye neqabane lowasetyhini kulawulo lokuzalwa, sebenzisa ikhondom.
Fumana ulwazi.
Iikhondom azikukhuseli kwizinto ezifana ne-HPV okanye i-herpes, ngoko ke musa ukoyika ukubuza iqabane lakho imibuzo malunga nokhuselo abalusebenzisayo kwaye bagqibela nini ukuvavanywa.
Awumazi umntu wakho ukuba uphi kwaye abazi nokuba ubukade uphi. Ungavumeli ukudibana kwakho okwanelisayo kube yeyona nto uzisola ngayo ebomini bakho.
3. Yiba nentlonelo
Khumbula ukuba eli lilungiselelo lesondo eliqhelekileyo, hayi into yakho yokudlala. Kuya kufuneka ubonise intlonipho yemida yomnye umntu kunye neyesondo.
Ukuba azikho kwikink efanayo, qhubeka kwaye wenze enye into kunye.
Nangona ungekho kubudlelwane, zama kwaye ujonge kulonwabo lweqabane lakho. Uphononongo lubonisa ukuba abasetyhini banamathuba okuba ne-orgasm kunye neqabane elinothando kunokudibana. Kungenxa yokuba iqabane linomdla ngakumbi ekuboniseni ukonwaba kwakhe, uziva ekhululekile ngakumbi kunye nabo, kwaye kukho unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo.
Ukwazi oku, musa ukubhala i-orgasm yakhe! Mazise ukuba ukhona ukumkhupha, nokuba kungathatha ixesha elingakanani. Ziqhelise ukudlala kwangaphambili kwaye wenze nantoni na eyokumnika amava amnandi.
Ukuba ufuna ukunqanda "ukubamba iimvakalelo" ngexesha lokudibanisa, kungcono ukwahlula iindlela ngqo emva kokudibana. Kodwa hlonipha. Ukuba ngu-4 AM, mhlawumbi ayiloxesha limnandi ukuthumela ukupakisha kulowo ulala naye.
4. Vavanywa
Ngaba wakha wavavanyelwa i-STD? “Ndabelana ngesondo ngokukhuselekileyo!” usenokuthi. Kulungile, kodwa ubusazi ukuba isondo esingakhuselekanga siquka nasiphi na isenzo apho ilungu lobudoda lingena kwi-orifice ngaphandle kwekhondom, nokuba uyifaka ikhondom emva koko ukuya kuvuthondaba? Ukwabelana ngesondo ngomlomo ngaphandle kwemiqobo kukwajongwa njengokulalana okungakhuselekanga.
Ukuvavanywa yimikhwa elungileyo kwilizwe lesini esingaqhelekanga. Bonisa ukuhlonipha wena kunye neqabane lakho elizayo ngokwenza ucoceke kwaye ulungele ukuzonwabisa.
Nantsi into ekucetyiswa amaziko oLawulo lweSifo noThintelo kuvavanyo lwe-STD lonyaka:
- I-Chlamydia, iGonorrhea: bonke ababa neentlobano zesini kufuneka bavavanywe kube kanye ngonyaka ngezi zi-STD.
- I-Syphilis, i-Chlamydia, i-Gonorrhea: I-CDC icebisa bonke abesilisa nabasetyhini abesilisa nabasetyhini abanamaqabane amaninzi okanye abangaziwa ukuba bavavanywe rhoqo kwiinyanga ezi-3-6.
- INTSHOLONGWANE KAGAWULAYO: Yenza uvavanyo kube kanye ngonyaka ukuba wenza isondo esingakhuselekanga
5. Zibambe iimvakalelo zakho
Kwabanye, kulula ukuba nokuma kobusuku obunye okanye ukubetha ngokungacacanga kwaye ungacingi nto ngako. Kwabanye, phantse akunakwenzeka ukuba ungadityaniswa nomntu abanikela ngemizimba yabo kuye kwaye babe sesichengeni.
Isitshixo sesini esingaqhelekanga kukuba akukho budlelwane buchaphazelekayo. Ukuze uhlale unyanisekile kulungiselelo, kuya kufuneka uzikhumbuze ukuba le yesini kuphela. Abanye abantu banokuthintela ukwanga ngokudibanisa ukunqanda ukusondelelana okuza kunye nayo.
Elinye icebo elihle lokugcina iimvakalelo zakho kuthintela ukulala nomhlobo osenyongweni okanye umntu osele unomdla kuye.
Kutheni ukulala ngesondo ngokungaqhelekanga kungasebenzi
Ukwabelana ngesondo yeyona nto usondeleyo ungayenza nomnye umntu. Ubonisa ukuba sesichengeni ngendlela eyiyo. Nokuba ungathembisa kangakanani-uyafunga-wenza isifungo sokugcina iimvakalelo zakho zibekho, uninzi lwabantu alunangcingo ngaloo ndlela.
Uphando lubonisa ukuba i-oxytocin ekhutshwe ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo (ngakumbi emva kwe-orgasm) ikakhulu inoxanduva lokudibana phakathi kwamaqabane ezesondo. Ukwabelana ngesondo kukwandisa ulwalamano olusenyongweni kwaye kwakha ukuthembana.
Ke ngoko, amathuba okuba ubuncinci iqabane elinye liza kunamathela kwelinye liphezulu kakhulu.
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6. ... Musa ukoyika ukuntywila
Ukwabelana ngesondo ngokungaqhelekanga kunokuba yinto elungileyo kwabanye, kodwa nakweli xesha lanamhlanje, abantu abaninzi abakhelwanga ii-hookups ezingenantsingiselo.
Ukuba uwele kwiqabane lakho eliqhelekileyo, musa ukoyika ukulandela intliziyo yakho kwaye ubabuze.
Unokubona ikamva lokwenyani nalo mntu, kwaye ngekhe ubenguwe wedwa oza kuwela iqabane lomtshato oqhelekileyo. Zininzi izibini ezitshatileyo eziqale ngokujongana njengendawo yokuma ubusuku obunye.
Ukuba uza kudlala umdlalo wesini oqhelekileyo, qiniseka ukuba ubeka imithetho yakho. Yenza uvavanyo, khuseleka, kwaye ube nembeko kwiqabane lakho ngokuhlwa. Wonke umntu kufuneka abenexesha elimnandi ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo ngokungaqhelekanga, hayi ngaphandle nje. Nokuba, masinyaniseke, kunqabile ukuba kusebenze ngale ndlela.