Umxholo
- 1. Yenza ubusuku bosuku lube yinto yesiqhelo yeveki
- 2. Yothusa omnye nomnye ngezipho ezimnandi
- 3. Ncokola ixesha elide, nentsingiselo
- 4. Phuma uye kuhambo olunomdla
- 5. Yiba ngothando ngakumbi kwaye usondele
Akusiyo imfihlo ukuba uthando luyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yomtshato ukuze uhlale usempilweni, nokuba utshatile iminyaka emi-5, mhlawumbi eli-10 okanye iminyaka engama-50 epheleleyo. Ukuthanda iqabane lakho kwaye ubaxelele ukuba usabathanda ngokufanayo kuyabonwabisa kwaye kubenza bazi ukuba bafanelekile. Abatshatileyo abonwabileyo kwaye banelisekile bahlala bekhulisa ubudlelwane obunempilo nobomeleleyo obuza kuhlala ixesha elide.
Ukukhankanywa apha ngezantsi kukho izimvo ezimbalwa ezithandanayo kwizibini zokunonga ulwalamano lwakho kwaye zigcine zilungile njengezintsha
1. Yenza ubusuku bosuku lube yinto yesiqhelo yeveki
Kuyanceda kakhulu ukuqaphela umtshato wakho njengokuthandana. Kuyinyani ukuba ixesha lokuthandana elichithwe sisibini sesona sithandana kwaye sizele lulonwabo kwinxalenye yobudlelwane babo. Uninzi lwezibini ziyaliphosa xa sele litshatile neqabane ngalinye lixakeke ngumsebenzi, imisebenzi yasekhaya, ukuba ngumzali, njl.
Indlela entle yokubuyisa elo xesha liyaphuma ngobusuku bomhla. Phumani niyokutya isidlo sangokuhlwa esimnandi okanye niyokubona umboniso womculo okanye mhlawumbi nide nipheke ekhaya, inokuba yiyo nantoni na okoko nihleli nobabini kuphela. Thethani omnye nomnye okanye nihlebe kwaye niqiniseke ukuba niyayiphambukisa yonke ingqalelo yenu komnye njengoko nenzile ngaphambi komtshato ukuvuselela ilangatye emtshatweni wakho.
2. Yothusa omnye nomnye ngezipho ezimnandi
Izipho zithathwa njengesenzo esihle sokubonisa uxabiso kwiqabane lakho. Sonke siyakonwabela ukufumana izipho, kwaye xa zivela kumntu esimthandayo, alithandabuzeki elokuba siziva sithandwa kwaye sifuna. Kubalulekile ukukhetha isipho esingalibalekiyo kuphela kodwa esisebenzayo. Ngapha koko, ukunika izipho ezifanelekileyo kubonisa eyakho ebalulekileyo ukuba wazi kangakanani malunga nabo, ubakhathalele kwaye uyiqonde.
3. Ncokola ixesha elide, nentsingiselo
Unxibelelwano ngoyena ndoqo womtshato owonwabisayo kunye nophumelelayo. Endaweni yeentetho eziqhelekileyo, zenqanaba lomgangatho ezinje 'ibinjani imini yakho?' okanye 'ungathanda ntoni ngesidlo sangokuhlwa?' yiya kwinto enzulu. Babuze malunga nezinto ezithile ukuze ubazise ukuba unomdla wokwenene.
Zama ukuvula ngakumbi omnye komnye kwaye ube nezincoko zokwenyani, ezinentsingiselo. Le yenye yezona zimvo zithandwayo zezithandani, eziza kunceda ukwandisa ukuthembana nokuqonda phakathi kwakho nobabini ngelixa usongeza ixabiso elikhulu nothando kubudlelwane bakho.
4. Phuma uye kuhambo olunomdla
Ukwenza into entsha kunye nokuyila kuyongeza ukonwaba kunye nothando kubudlelwane bakho. Ukuchitha ixesha elimnandi kunye kunye nokonwabela ukuhlala kunye yenye yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuthandana kunye nokugcina iintlantsi kubudlelwane bakho. Zama ukonwaba, amava amatsha afana nokushushuluza okanye ukuzama indawo yokutyela entsha edolophini, icwangcise kwaye uhambe uyenze kunye.
Yiya kwiipiknikhi, uhambo olude, ukuqhuba, ukuhamba intaba okanye ukwenza inkampu, zama into entsha ixesha ngalinye okanye kwiminyhadala ekhethekileyo efana nemihla yokuzalwa kunye nesikhumbuzo, cwangcisa kwangaphambili ixesha leehambo zeeholide kwiindawo ezingaqhelekanga. Le yindlela entle yokusondela omnye komnye kwaye wenze iinkumbulo ezingalibalekiyo kunye nani nobabini kunye. Kuyanceda ukushiya abantwana ngasemva nomgcini womntwana kwaye ushiye zonke iintetho zasekhaya ngasemva xa usenza ukubaleka kwakho kwaye kugcina ukujolisa kuwe nakwiqabane lakho.
5. Yiba ngothando ngakumbi kwaye usondele
Ukudlala ngothando yinto yendalo kulwalamano oluninzi. Ukudlala ngothando kwenza iqabane lakho ukuba liqonde ukuba uyabathanda kangakanani kwaye uyakonwabela ukuhlala nabo, ubenza bazive beqinisekisiwe. Ukudlala ngothando phakathi kweencoko okanye izijekulo zakho kulo lonke usuku njengokutyibilika kwinqaku lothando elisegumbini labo. Ungayenza ngokuba uthinte kwaye ubonakale. Ngokumchukumisa, ayithethi kuthi isini. Unokwenza ulwalamano phakathi kwakho nobabini ngokugcina ubambene ngesandla xa uphakathi esidlangalaleni okanye utyibilikise ingalo yakho kuye okanye mhlawumbi ubanike nendawo entle esidleleni rhoqo.
Ngale ndlela ayizukukwazi ukubonisa uthando lwakho kuphela kodwa ubanga iqabane lakho njengelakho. Izimbo ezinjalo ziya kunisondeza kunye kwaye zonyuse ukusondelelana phakathi kwenu nobabini.
Isiphelo
Ubudlelwane bakhelwe ekuzinikeleni nasekuzinikeleni. Ukuba nolwazelelelo nothando omnye komnye kubalulekile ukugcina umtshato wakho uphila kwaye uhlaziyekile. Ezi zimvo zingentla zothando kwizibini ezinyanzelekileyo ukuba zonyuse uthando phakathi kwamaqabane kwaye zithathe umtshato wazo uye empumelelweni.