Umxholo
- Ziqhelise ukuxolelwa ngokusuka entliziyweni
- Uxolelo emva kokungcatshwa
- Kutheni inguquko noxolelo emtshatweni zibalulekile?
- Inguquko noxolelo emtshatweni alusoze lubelula
Umtshato kwiXesha lama-21 usenokubonakala wahluke kakhulu kunaleyo yemitshato eyenziwe ngootatomkhulu noomakhulu nootatomkhulu bethu ekuqaleni kwenkulungwane yama-20. Ookhokho bethu babenomonde ongcono, kwaye uxolelo emtshatweni lwalungeyonto inkulu ngelo xesha.
Imitshato namhlanje isoloko ibonakala ingenelwa, kungekho qela liziqondayo ngokwenyani iimfuno okanye ubuntu bomnye, obunokukhokelela kunxibelelwano olungelulo, ukungavisisani, okanye ingqumbo emtshatweni.
Ngelishwa, oku kunxibelelana gwenxa, nangona kungekuko okanye kungabalulekanga, kungaqala ukuwutshabalalisa umtshato ngaphakathi, kuphelise isiseko sothando kunye nokuthembana ngenxa yokungabikho kwenguquko noxolelo.
Uxolela njani uyeke ukuhamba kubonakala ngathi yinto engenakwenzeka. Inguquko-isenzo sokuxolisa ngokunyanisekileyo ngezenzo okanye amazwi omntu, kuhlala kubonakala ngathi yindlela elahlekileyo yonxibelelwano. Igama lesiGrike apho inguquko isetyenziswe njengesibizo yi "metanoia," okuthetha "ukutshintsha kwengqondo."
Kukangaphi uthetha into kwiqabane lakho engenabubele okanye ekhathazayo? Mangaphi kula maxesha okhe waxolisa, okanye ukhe wazama ukuqhubeka nokungahoyi izimvo kunye nefuthe lazo ukuya phambili?
Okulusizi kukuba, izibini ezininzi ziya zikhetha ezona meko zichazwe apha ngasentla. Endaweni yokuzithoba kwaye siguquke, asihoyi intlungu ebangelwe zizenzo zethu kunye namazwi ethu kwaye sivumela iimvakalelo ezingakhiyo ukuba zikhule ngenxa yazo.
Ziqhelise ukuxolelwa ngokusuka entliziyweni
Bobabini indoda nomfazi kufuneka bazame ukuxolela emtshatweni. Oko akuthethi ukuthi, "Ungazikhathazi ngale nto uyenzileyo, ndiyaphila, kwaye sonke siyazenza iimpazamo."
Ngokuqinisekileyo, loo nto ivakala ngokungathandekiyo ngokomoya kwaye enkulu iphuma emilonyeni yethu, kodwa, enyanisweni, ungumhanahanisi ngokupheleleyo. Ugcwele iintlungu, umsindo, ubukrakra, nengqumbo. Ukuxolela kunye nokuyeka ayisiyo nkonzo yomlomo.
Uxolelo kubudlelwane luvela entliziyweni yakho ...
Andisenatyala kuwe. ”
“Andizukuphinda ndiyizise kuwe le nto ndiyibambe entloko.”
"Andizukuthetha ngeli tyala nabanye emva kwakho."
Ngapha koko, ukuxolelwa kulandela isenzo.
Uxolelo emva kokungcatshwa
Xa kufikwa ekuxoleleni iqabane elikhohlisayo, kunzima nangakumbi ukuxolela emtshatweni. Kodwa, ngaphambi kokuba sithethe ngokuxolela iqabane lakho, ukhe wacinga ukuba kutheni kubalulekile ukuxolela.
Ukuxolela emtshatweni kwenza lukhulu ngakumbi kulowo uxolelayo kunalowo ufuna ukuxolelwa.
Ngokuqinisekileyo akukho lula ukuxolela umntu xa ekopa. Kodwa, ukubamba ingqumbo kukubola ngaphakathi kwaye konakalise ulonwabo lwakho. Ukwenza okubi ngaphezu komntu okwenze kakubi.
Ke xa ucinga ngendlela yokulixolela iqabane lakho eliqhathayo, cinga ngokwembono yakho. Cinga ngazo zonke izizathu ezinokubangela ukuba uyeke ukuba nenqala. Ukuxolela umntu omthandayo kunzima kodwa akunakwenzeka.
Ukuba uyaphumelela ekuqheliseleni uxolelo emtshatweni, unokulufumana uxolo lukaThixo kunye nenkululeko kwiingcinga ezinamandla. Ukuqhubeka ukuqonda ukubaluleka kokuxolelwa kunye nokuguquka emtshatweni, ezi zilandelayo zezinye zezinto ezibalulekileyo ezifumaneka eBhayibhileni.
Ukubuyisa ngokwenyani ukholo kunye nokuthembana omnye nomnye emtshatweni wakho, inguquko kufuneka ibekhona kwaye inyaniseke ngokupheleleyo. ULuka 17: 3 uthi, “Zigcineni ngoko. Ukuba ke umzalwana wakho uthe wakona, mkhalimele; ukuba bayaguquka, baxolele. ”
U-Yakobi uthi sonke siyakhubeka ngeendlela ezininzi (Yakobi 3: 2). Oko kuthetha ukuba wena neqabane lakho niza kukhubeka ... ngeendlela ezininzi. Awunakumangaliswa xa iqabane lakho lisona, kuya kufuneka uzibophelele ekuphumezeni “okanye okubi” kwinxalenye yezifungo zakho kwaye ukulungele ukuxolela.
Kutheni inguquko noxolelo emtshatweni zibalulekile?
UKristu wafundisa ukuba kukho amaxesha apho kufuneka sixolele kwaye sithandazele ukuba iNkosi ikhokele enye ukuba iguquke.
UYesu wathi kuMateyu 6: 14-15: “Ukuba niyabaxolela abanye abantu xa bonile kuni, uYihlo osemazulwini wonixolela nani. Kodwa ukuba anibaxoleli abanye izono zabo, noYihlo akayi kunixolela ezenu izono.
Ukwathi kuMarko 11:25: “Xa sukuba nimi nithandaza, ukuba ninendawo ngakothile, mxoleleni, ukuze noYihlo osemazulwini anixolele iziphoso zenu. ”
Kuyinyani ukuba kunokubakho uxolelo ngaphandle kokuguquka ngomnye umntu (okwabizwa ngokuba luxolelo olungenamiqathango), oku akonelanga kuxolelwaniso olupheleleyo phakathi kwamaqabane.
UYesu ufundisa kuLuka 17: 3-4: “Zilumkeleni. Ukuba ke umzalwana wakho uthe wakona, mkhalimele; ukuba bayaguquka, baxolele. Nokuba bona kuwe kasixhenxe ngemini kwaye babuyela kuwe kasixhenxe besithi, 'Ndiyaguquka,' umele ubaxolele. ”
Ngokucacileyo uYesu uyazi ukuba akuyi kubakho xolelwaniso olupheleleyo ngelixa isono sime phakathi kobudlelwane. Oku kuyinyaniso ngokukodwa ngendoda nomfazi.
Ukuba zinobunye ngenene, kufuneka kuxoxwe ngezono kwaye kusetyenzwe ngazo. Azinakufihlakala omnye komnye. Kufuneka kubekho ukungafihli, ukuthembeka, ukuvuma izono, ukuguquka, ukuxolelwa, kunye noxolelwaniso olupheleleyo.
Nantoni na engaphantsi ayiyi kuwuvumela umtshato ukuba uphumelele, kodwa endaweni yoko uqalise ukuyibulala kancinci ngokungabikho koxolo, ukuziva unetyala, ukudimazeka, inzondo kunye nobukrakra. Sukuvumela ezi zinto zihlale ngaphakathi kuwe okanye kwiqabane lakho.
Ukuvuma izono kunye nenguquko yokwenyani iyafuneka ukuzisa uxolo, uvuyo, kunye nobudlelwane obomeleleyo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, naphakathi kwesi sibini noThixo.
Ukufumana ulwazi oluthe kratya ngokuxolelwa emtshatweni, bukela le vidiyo:
Inguquko noxolelo emtshatweni alusoze lubelula
Akukho namnye owakha wathi umtshato ophumeleleyo wobuthixo wawulula. Ukuba kukho umntu owenzayo, nkwenkwe oh nkwenkwe, ngaba bayenzile buxoki eya kuwe! (Yima, uthini umxholo weli nqaku? Kulungile ... uxolelo! * Wink *) Kodwa umtshato ophumeleleyo ngu kunokwenzeka.
Uya kuzenza iimpazamo. Iqabane lakho liza kwenza iimpazamo. Khumbula oku, kwaye unyaniseke ekuguqukeni kwakho kwaye unyanisekile ekuxoleleni kwakho emtshatweni. Kukho into ekhululayo ngokwazi ukuxelela umyeni okanye inkosikazi yakho, "ndikuxolele."