Umxholo
- Kodwa kuthekani ngabo bonke obunye ubudlelwane esidibana nabo yonke imihla?
- Umgaqo wesithathu wesangqa
- Ubudlelwane kunye nokubaluleka kwabantu ebomini bethu
Xa uJule Styne noBob Merrill babhala ingoma ethi "Abantu" ye-Broadway musical Girl eyayihamba phambili noBarbra Streisand, babengazi ukuba le ngoma yayiza kuba yinto enkulu. Nokuba lilizwi likaBarbra okanye indlela ingoma ichukumisa ngayo imfuno yangaphakathi yomntu wonke yindawo yenqaku. Uluvo luphela lwabantu abafuna abantu lube lishishini elikhulu-ikakhulu elijolise kubudlelwane bezothando. Iincwadi, iindibano zocweyo, iingcali zonyango, ukuhamba ngenqanawa, iindawo ekuchithelwa kuzo iiholide nkqu nokuthambisa imithambo kulungiselelwe izibini ezitshatileyo.
Kodwa kuthekani ngabo bonke obunye ubudlelwane esidibana nabo yonke imihla?
Cinga osebenza nabo? Abasebukhweni? Abantakwenu? Ngaba kufuneka senze ubudlelwane njengogqirha wamazinyo okanye ugqirha? Umphathi owongeza yonke imihla kwinqanaba le-EQ kwindawo yokusebenza? Okanye umalume omdala olungileyo uHarry, ngubani oyintlungu kodwa ubonakala kwiholide nganye ekulungele ukuqhuba amandongomane? Kuthekani ngolwalamano lwakho naye - ongathandekiyo ebomini? Akukhange kubekho ncedo lungako ngaphandle lokulawula obu budlelwane. Kuye kwafuneka sitshintshe kwaye sibenze basebenze ngokusemandleni ethu.
Umgaqo wesithathu wesangqa
Ndiyakholelwa ukuba ndiyifumene impendulo, kwaye ndiyibiza ngokuba yiProtokholi yesiThathu yesijikelezo. Isangqa sesithathu sisivumelwano esingakhankanywanga esinaso nomnye. Ukulindela esingathethi ngako kodwa ngokuzenzekelayo kuyasabela. Yintoni esiyilindeleyo kumaqabane ethu, abasebukhweni, abakwishumi elivisayo, nakumabhalana wevenkile zokutya. Omnye umntu ulindele kuthi. Kwaye akukho mntu uthetha malunga nolindelo-eso sivumelwano sinaso kunye. Wena, mfundi kunye nam sinesivumelwano. Ulindele ukuba ufunde into eluncedo kweli nqaku kwaye ndinethemba lokuba uyakuyifunda (ngethemba lokuba kude kube sekupheleni) kwaye ufunde okuthile kuyo onokuyisebenzisa ebomini bakho. Okanye nokuba bhetele, unomdla ngokwaneleyo malunga neProtocol ongathanda ukuyifunda ngakumbi ngayo, kwiwebhusayithi yam okanye kwincwadi.
Kwiminyaka esibhozo eyadlulayo kwiklinikhi yam, ndandisebenza nomfana oselula owayezuze ilifa ishishini labazali bakhe, elaliquka umphathi-ncwadi owayemazi ukususela eneminyaka emi-4 ubudala. Ngelishwa umgcini-zincwadi wayesamphethe ngaloo ndlela. Njengokuba wayeneminyaka emine ubudala. Kwacaca gca ngexesha leseshoni ekufuneka siyenzile iparadigm entsha yolo lwalamano-wayefuna ukumgcina kunye nengqondo yakhe! Ke 'isidalwa' sesithathu senziwa, saba nguye, umgcini-ncwadi kunye nobudlelwane- ngokwalo liyinto yesithathu. Sisebenze malunga naloo nto 'iqumrhu' lenziwe ngayo, amaxabiso kunye nezinto eziphambili, iimfuno kunye neemfuno zomntu ngamnye, kunye nezinto abazilungiselele ukuzinika lo 'mntu' mtsha. Ulwalamano lwabo.
Lo mbono usebenze kakuhle kakhulu, ngoku ndiyisebenzisa eklinikhi kunye nolutsha kunye nabazali, izibini, abakhwenyana, abasebenzi kunye nabaqeshi kunye nayiphi na enye indawo apho ubudlelwane bubalulekile. Ndiyifundisile koochwephesha bezengqondo nakwabaqeqeshi abayisebenzisa nabaxumi babo.
Ubudlelwane kunye nokubaluleka kwabantu ebomini bethu
Uphononongo lwakutsha nje lweHarvard lufikelele esiphelweni emva kweminyaka engaphezulu kwama-50 kunye neziphumo ezininzi ezibonakalayo kwimicimbi yobudlelwane kunye nokubaluleka kwabantu kubomi bethu. Ugqirha Waldinger okhokelayo umphandi uvumile ukuba ngokulandela izifundo amashumi eminyaka kunye nokuthelekisa imeko yezempilo yabo kunye nobudlelwane babo kwangoko, wayeqinisekile ukuba izibophelelo zoluntu ezomeleleyo ziyindima ebalulekileyo kwimpilo yexesha elide kunye nokuba sempilweni.
Uphononongo lwethu lubonakalisile ukuba abona bantu baphumeleleyo yayingabantu abaxhomekeke kubudlelwane nosapho, nabahlobo kunye noluntu.
Ubudlelwane buqinisekisa ukuba singobani. Sisebenza kwaye sisabela kubantu abasingqongileyo-ke kubalulekile ukuba sifunde indlela yokuzibandakanya nabo bonke abantu; abantu esisebenza nabo, abantakwethu, abazali abakwishumi elivisayo kwanabo bangathandwayo ebomini bethu.
Into enomdla kukuba, sihlala sifuna ukuba abantu basamkele ngale ndlela siyiyo, kodwa madolw 'anzima ukubamkela ngale ndlela bayiyo. Indlela yokunxibelelana nabo sibathandayo, bathanda kunye nothando oluncinci, kukuba, ndiyakholelwa, ngokukhangela amaxabiso ekwabelwana ngawo okanye izinto eziphambili ebomini. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ‘simthande’ umntu ukuze sihambisane nabo. Sifuna nje ukufumana eyona ndlela yokuvumelanisa kunye nokuvumela ubudlelwane obunempilo ukuba benzeke. Nangona ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi akunakwenzeka, akunjalo. Fumana ixabiso owabelana ngalo, into ephambili edibanisa kwaye usebenze ngento onokuyifumana. Kwenza ubomi bube lula, ububele kunye nokonwaba.
Kwixesha elizayo ndiza kuphanda ubudlelwane nabasekhaya kunye nabazali xa ujoyina iintsapho. Kude kube lelo xesha, phila amaxabiso akho. Bayiyo ngokwenene le nto uyiyo.