Umxholo
- Apha kuza uvelwano; ekwabizwa ngokuba ngugqirha
- Isizathu esingemva kobudlelwane obunetyhefu
- Ubuhlobo babo buya kuba njani?
- Isisombululo
Ngamanye amaxesha, kwindawo ethile yokukhula ukusuka ebuntwaneni, umntu unokuziva engaxabisekanga kwaye engaxabisekanga, kwaye ngenxa yoku, banokuhlala befuna ukungqinisisa abayifunayo kakhulu.
Apha kuza uvelwano; ekwabizwa ngokuba ngugqirha
I-empathizer inamandla okuqonda kunye nokufumana iintlungu eziviwa liqabane labo kwaye bathambekele ekuzithabatheni ngokungathi zezabo.
Ukuba uvelwano aluyazi imida yakhe kwaye akayazi indlela yokuzikhusela, baya kudibana ngokulula kunye narcissist; baya kuzama ukuphelisa iintlungu kunye nokulungisa umonakalo wabo.
Inye into abafana nayo bonke abaxabisi ngoonobangela kukuba bangabantu abonzakeleyo ngokweemvakalelo.
Isizathu soku kuhlala kukubandezeleka kwabantwana okwabenza buhlungu kubo bonke ubomi babo. Kuba baziva bengento yanto kwaye bengaxatyiswanga, bahlala befuna uxabiso kunye nokuqinisekiswa.
Ngeli xesha amaEmpaths eza kuhlangula nangona kunjalo okuhle abanako aba bantu kunokubenza njengokuwa kwabo ukuba abalumkanga.
Xa aba bantu babini baphikisanayo betsala, iziphumo azipheleli nje ekubeni zinkulu kodwa ziyityhefu emangalisayo.
Qhubeka ufunda ukuze ufumane isizathu sobu budlelwane bunetyhefu.
Isizathu esingemva kobudlelwane obunetyhefu
Isizathu esingasemva kwetyhefu yobudlelwane phakathi kwe-narcissist kunye novelwano ikakhulu ngenxa yecala elimnyama i-narcissist inayo. Eli cala lihlala lingahoywa ngumntu onovelwano.
I-narcissist inesakhono sokufunxa umphefumlo wakhe nabani na abamfunayo okanye adibane naye.
Banokuqinisekiswa ngelixa besenza amaqabane abo azive engalingani kwaye ethe-ethe aze awasebenzise kwixa elizayo.
I-empathizer ihlala ikholelwa ekubeni wonke umntu unjani, abantu bathambekele ekuboneni ezona zilungileyo kwaye balungile empilweni. Oku kubambeka ngaphakathi kubo kunokunconywa kodwa kunokubangela nomonakalo kuba ayinguye wonke umntu onyanisekileyo nolungileyo njengabo.
Abantu abohlukeneyo baneemfuno ezahlukeneyo kunye nee-ajenda ezahlukeneyo ezinokubangela ingozi kubo.
I-ajenda ye-narcissist kukukhohlisa nje; bafuna ukulawula ngokupheleleyo iqabane labo, kwaye basebenzise abanye njengesixhobo sokuqinisekisa ukuba baziva bonwabile kwaye baphakame ngaphezulu kwabo. I-ajenda ye-empathizer yonyango, inkathalo nothando.
Ngenxa yeenjongo zabo ezahlukeneyo, aba bantu bahlukileyo abanakuze bafumane ibhalansi.
Ubuhlobo babo buya kuba njani?
Ukuba i-narcissist kunye ne-empathizer ziphela kubudlelwane, ukuzibophelela kwabo kuya kuba ngumjikelo ombi ongenakuphuma kuwo.
Okukhona uthando kunye nothando olunobubele luya kubanika ngakumbi kulawulo lokuba i-narcissist ifumane kwaye izive.
Oku kuyakwenza ukuba uvelwano lube lixhoba.
Umntu onovelwano uya kuba sengozini kwaye enzakale; Baza kuqala ukuziva ngathi lixhoba, bedala imikhwa enje nge-narcissistic.
Xa i-narcissist ifumana iqabane elinovelwano lenzakele baya kuyifumana ingqiqo yokuqinisekisa abayifunayo; Okukhona ungonwabanga kwaye wenzakele uvelwano kukuqinisekisa ngakumbi ukuba i-narcissist iyakufumana kwaye baya konwaba ngakumbi.
Imfesane engonwabanga iya kuthi emva koko ikhangele iimvakalelo zenkxaso nothando kwi-narcissist kwaye ifune ukuqinisekiswa. Okwangoku kubudlelwane, kugxilwe kuko konke okuvelayo kuya kuba kwiimvakalelo zentlungu kunye nokukhangela uthando; baya kuba bexakekile bekhangela ukuba abayi kuqonda ukuba umonakalo uvela kwiqabane labo le-narcissist.
Abayi kuqonda ukuba ityala akufuneki libe kubo.
Eli dabi likrakra linokulandela kwaye lithathe ubomi beemvakalelo. Baya kuba nokuzingca kakhulu; baya kukhangela umonakalo ngaphakathi endaweni ngaphandle. Okwangoku, i-empath kufuneka iqonde imeko yabo kwaye ivuke.
Naliphi na ilinge lokunxibelelana nomnxibelelanisi liza kuba lilize kuba aliyi kuthoba mntu.
Kuba banobuqhetseba obugqithisileyo, baya kujika nantoni na abayifunayo kubo kwaye babekek 'ityala kwabanye. Bayakugxeka iintlungu abazivayo kuvelwano kwaye baphinde bagxeke iintlungu ezivakalayo kubo.
Umntu onovelwano uya kwazi ukuba bakubudlelwane obonakalisayo kwaye baya kuziva benesidingo sokusola yonke into kwi-narcissist, nangona kunjalo; Esi ayisosisombululo.
Isisombululo
Isisombululo sokuphelisa ubuchule bokwenza i-narcissist kukuhamba kude kuyo yonke into oyenzileyo kunye nokuphelisa ubudlelwane. Ekupheleni kosuku, eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu yindlela esicinga ukuba siphathwe ngayo.
Ukuba uvelwano luhlala kobu budlelwane bunetyhefu, kungenxa yokuba bacinga ukuba abakufanelanga okungcono kunale. Nangona kunjalo, fumana isibindi kunye namandla okuphuma ngokupheleleyo kolu lwalamano lungenantsingiselo kwaye uqale ngokutsha.