Umxholo
- Zazi kwaye uzithande
- Khetha iqabane lakho ngezizathu ezifanelekileyo
- Yinyani malunga nolwalamano ekubonelela ngalo
- Uthando sisenzi; lukhetho ngabom
- Unxibelelwano olulungileyo ngundoqo
- Khetha umntu omhloniphayo nothanda yena
- Khetha umntu onokumthemba ngokupheleleyo
- Yiya kancinci
- Wazi umahluko phakathi kokulalanisa nokuzincama
- Abantu abatshintshi
- Hlonipha ubuntu babanye
- Ukwabelana ngesondo yibarometer yobudlelwane
Ufuna ubuhlobo enkulu? Kubudlelwane obukhulu kwaye ufuna ukuba ihlale injalo (okanye ibengcono)? Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zobudlelwane obuzamile kunye nobunyani bokukunceda uhambe ngeendlela ezihlala zitshintsha zothando.
Zazi kwaye uzithande
Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukufuna umdlalo ogqibeleleyo, qiniseka ukuba uyazi ukuba ungubani. Athini amandla akho kunye nobuthathaka bakho? Ziintoni ozithandayo? Yeyiphi imiceli mngeni ojamelene nayo nempumelelo? Kuthekani ngamaphupha — ixesha elifutshane kunye nelide? Ukuzazi ngokunzulu kwenza ukuba uhlengahlengise uhlobo lomntu ondolana kakuhle naye; umntu okuncedisayo ngendlela ezisa eyona intle kuwe.
Ufuna kwakhona ukuba noxolo kunye nomntu onguye. Ufuna ukukhuseleka ekufanelekeni kwakho, kwaye ungathembeli kwiqabane ukuba likunike ukuzixabisa. Ngumsebenzi omninzi ukufikelela kwinqanaba lokuba uzithande ngokupheleleyo, kodwa kufanelekile kuba uya kutsala abanye abantu abalungileyo, abaphilileyo engqondweni.
Khetha iqabane lakho ngezizathu ezifanelekileyo
Ukuzilahlela kukhokelela kwizigqibo ezingalunganga. Akukho mntu wenza izigqibo zothando ezilungileyo ukuba uziva unganqabisekanga, elilolo, okanye engathandeki. Qinisekisa ukuba uzibandakanya nabantu abenza uzive uthandwa, uxabisekile kwaye uhlonitshwa. Kubalulekile ukuba uqiniseke ukuba usempilweni ngokwasemphefumlweni ukuze utsale abanye abantu abasempilweni ngokweemvakalelo.
Yinyani malunga nolwalamano ekubonelela ngalo
Abantu abaninzi bangena kubudlelwane becinga ukuba uthando luya kusombulula zonke iingxaki zabo. Okanye banolindelo oluphezulu ngokungekho ngqiqweni lokuba ubudlelwane bujongeka njani, ngokusekwe kwiinoveli ezininzi zothando okanye iimuvi zothando. Endaweni yoko, chitha ixesha kunye nabantu abatshatileyo abonwabileyo kwaye ubabuze imfihlo yobudlelwane babo obuphilileyo. Sebenzisa aba bantu njengemodeli onokufunda kuzo.
Uthando sisenzi; lukhetho ngabom
Kulula ukuziva uthando nothando kwiminyaka yokuqala yobudlelwane. Wonke umntu uneiglasi ezinemibala evulekileyo ekuqaleni, ubona kuphela iindawo ezintle zesithandwa sakhe kwaye engazihoyi izinto ezicaphukisayo. Oku kuqaqamba komlingo kuqalisa ukudamba emva kweminyaka eliqela-kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo leyo-ukuveza eyona nto ayiyo umntu ongaphantsi. Khetha uhlobo lomntu ozakuqhubeka umthanda xa ezo mvakalelo zokuqala ziqala ukubuyela umva. Kwaye thanda ngenkuthalo-bonisa iqabane lakho ukuba zibaluleke kangakanani kuwe ngezenzo nangamagama.
Veza umbulelo wakho ngobukho babo ebomini bakho. Bathanda. Bahloniphe. Ungaze ubathathe lula.
Unxibelelwano olulungileyo ngundoqo
Ukuba awukwazi ukuthetha ngezinto ezinzima neqabane lakho ngaphandle kokuba zivale, kuya kufuneka ubuze malunga nobudlelwane. Ukuba bobabini abantu batyale imali kubudlelwane, kufuneka bazive bekhululekile ukunxibelelana malunga nazo naziphi na izifundo. Ukuba iqabane lakho liphepha unxibelelwano, thintela ubudlelwane kwaye ufumane umntu ofuna ukusebenzela ukufumana isisombululo xa kuphuma imicimbi.
Khetha umntu omhloniphayo nothanda yena
Ufuna ukukhangela kwiqabane lakho. Ufuna ukuncoma into ayenzayo, indlela abaphatha ngayo abanye, kunye nendlela ahamba ngayo kwihlabathi. Khetha umntu olungileyo owenza igalelo kungekuphela kwintlalontle yakho, kodwa ukhathazekile nokuba negalelo kwimpilo yoluntu, naye.
Khetha umntu onokumthemba ngokupheleleyo
Le yintliziyo yakho esithetha ngayo, ke ukuba ufumana ingqiqo ngexesha lakho lokuqala lokuthandana ukuba ayikho into "elungileyo", mamela elo lizwi lincinci. Inokuba ilungile.
Yiya kancinci
Nokuba uyintloko phezu kwezithende othandweni, thatha izinto inyathelo elinye ngexesha. Sukuyivula ibhokisi yetshokholethi kwaye uzitye zonke ngaxeshanye. Yolwalamano lwakho olutsha. Ukutyhila izinto kancinci kancinci. Ulwalamano oluhle kufanelekile ukubeka umzamo, ukuqala ngokwakha isiseko esiqinileyo. Thatha ixesha lakho ukwazana. Musa ukulala kunye ngomhla wokuqala. Zinike into ekufuneka ujonge kuyo. Ubundlobongela ngesondo buba bukhulu ngakumbi xa iqhina lokuthembana ngokweemvakalelo lisekiwe.
Wazi umahluko phakathi kokulalanisa nokuzincama
Bonke ubudlelwane budinga inqanaba lokulalanisa ukuze baqhubeke. Kodwa xa umntu omnye eziva ngathi bancama into ebalulekileyo kubo ukugcina ulwalamano luhleli, lixesha lokuba sibuyele umva kwaye sihlolisise imeko.
Abantu abatshintshi
Owu, abantu bayakhula kwaye bayaguquka, kodwa iimpawu ezisisiseko ekuboniswa liqabane lakho ngoku azizukutshintsha. Umtshato awuyi kuyenza ngokungummangaliso iqabane lakho ukuba libe ngumphathi wemali ongcono, okanye umyekise ukuchitha lonke ixesha lakhe lasimahla kwi-PlayStation yakhe. Ukuba kukho izinto ezenziwa liqabane lakho ngoku ezikucaphukisayo, yazi ukuba ezi zinto ziya kuqhubeka zikucaphukisa (kwaye zisenokuba mbi ngakumbi) kwiminyaka eli-10-15 ukusukela ngoku.
Hlonipha ubuntu babanye
Wonke umntu uyazi isibini "esidityaniswe esinqeni." Kodwa bonwabe kangakanani, ngokwenene? Izibini ezisempilweni ziyahloniphana izinto ezithandwayo, inkanuko, isidingo sithuba amaxesha ngamaxesha. Amaqabane ayaphumelela xa ehlonipha iimfuno zomnye nomnye zokwenza into yakhe. Ukuza ekhaya kwiqabane elingenakulinda ukukuxelela malunga nomdyarho abasandula ukuwina, okanye umzobo abasebenza kuwo, yenye yezona mvakalelo zibalaseleyo emhlabeni. Ukuphishekela ulonwabo lomntu kubalulekile ekugcineni ubudlelwane buhlaziyekile kwaye bunamandla.
Ukwabelana ngesondo yibarometer yobudlelwane
Ukwabelana ngesondo ayisiyiyo yonke into kubudlelwane, kodwa yinto ebalulekileyo kwaye ibonakalisa ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo kwesibini. Ukuba izibini ziyaqhawuka ngokweemvakalelo, ngekhe zidibanise ngokwesondo. Ke ukuba ubona ukuhamba kwakho nothando kuyehla, buyela umva kwaye ujonge okwenzekayo nenqanaba lokusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo.