Umxholo
- Iziphumo zengqondo nezemvakalelo
- Iziphumo zokungathembeki kwiqabane elingcatshiweyo
- Ukwakha umtshato emva kokungathembeki
Ukungathembeki emtshatweni kunokonakalisa ubudlelwane obomeleleyo, ngomnye weyona miqobo mikhulu ichaphazela umtshato kwaye ibangele ukonakala ngokweemvakalelo nangokwengqondo. Ukunganyaniseki kunokuchazwa njengomntu omnye okanye bobabini abatshatileyo abatshatileyo okanye kubudlelwane bexesha elide obuzibophelelayo buzimanya ngokwasemoyeni okanye ngokwasemzimbeni nomntu ongaphandle kobudlelwane, okukhokelela kukungathembeki ngokwesondo okanye ngokweemvakalelo. Nokuba luhlobo luni na, ukungathembeki kubangela iimvakalelo zentlungu, ukungakholelwa, usizi, ukulahleka, umsindo, ukungcatshwa, ukuziva unetyala, ukudana, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha umsindo, kwaye ezi mvakalelo zinzima kakhulu ukuhlala nazo, ukuzilawula kunye nokuzoyisa.
Xa ukungathembeki kwenzeka, kukho ukulahleka kokuthenjwa kubudlelwane. Amaxesha amaninzi, kunzima ukujonga umntu ebusweni, kunzima ukuba kwigumbi elinye naye, kwaye kunzima kakhulu ukuba nencoko ungakhange ucinge ngento eyenzekileyo, kwaye ungazithethanga, “ungathini uyandithanda, wenze oku kum.
Iziphumo zengqondo nezemvakalelo
Ukungathembeki emtshatweni kuyinkimbinkimbi, kuyadida, kuchaphazela kakubi impilo yomntu ngokweemvakalelo nangokwengqondo, kwaye kungakhokelela kuxinzelelo, kunye noxinzelelo. Abantu abatshatileyo abafumana ukungathembeki emtshatweni wabo badlula kumahla ndinyuka ngelixa bezama ukubuyisa okanye ukudlula kulo, iqabane elibuhlungu libonisa iimvakalelo zomsindo, ukudana, uxinzelelo, ukwenzakala, nokudideka, kwaye banexesha elinzima lokujongana neemvakalelo zokungcatshwa.
Iziphumo zokungathembeki kwiqabane elingcatshiweyo
Ukungathembeki kubangela ifuthe elibi kakhulu emtshatweni, kwaye kushiya umntu ebuza ukubaluleka kwabo, ixabiso, impilo, kunye nefuthe labo lokuzithemba. Iqabane elibuhlungu liziva lilahliwe kwaye lingcatshiwe, kwaye liqala ukubuza yonke into malunga nolwalamano, iqabane labo, kwaye uzibuze ukuba ingaba olu lwalamano lwalububuxoki na. Xa kukho ukungathembeki, iqabane elibuhlungu liyadakumba kwaye licaphuka rhoqo, likhala kakhulu, likholelwe ukuba yimpazamo yabo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha bazibeka ityala ngokungaziphathi kakuhle kweqabane labo.
Ukwakha umtshato emva kokungathembeki
Nangona ukungathembeki kuyingozi kakhulu kwaye kunokubangela umonakalo omkhulu, oko akuthethi ukuba umtshato kufuneka uphelile. Ukuba ufumene ukungathembeki kubudlelwane bakho, kunokwenzeka ukuba wakheke kwakhona, uphinde unikezele, kwaye unxibelelane kwakhona; Nangona kunjalo, kuya kufuneka uthathe isigqibo sokuba uyafuna ukuhlala kubudlelwane kwaye ukuba kufanelekile ukugcina. Ukuba wena neqabane lakho nigqibe kwelokuba nifuna ukwakha ubuhlobo, niphinde nibe nobudlelane, nihlangane kwakhona, kungafuneka nenze ukhetho olunzima, nenze izigqibo eningavumelaniyo okanye eningavumelani nazo, kwaye kufuneka uqonde kwaye wamkele oku kulandelayo;
- Ukukopa kufuneka kuphele ngokukhawuleza ukuba ufuna ukusebenza ngokunyanisekileyo emtshatweni.
- Lonke unxibelelwano ngomnxeba, ukuthumela imiyalezo, ii-imeyile, imidiya yokuncokola kunye nokunxibelelana komzimba nomntu kufuneka kuyeke kwangoko.
- Uxanduva lokuphendula kunye nemida kufuneka isekwe kubudlelwane.
- Inkqubo yokubuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo iya kuthatha ixesha ..... sukungxama.
- Kuthatha ixesha ukulawula nokujongana neengcinga ezimbi, iimvakalelo, kunye neemvakalelo, kunye nemifanekiso ephindaphindayo elinokuvela iqabane lakho.
- Uxolelo aluzenzekeli kwaye oko akuthethi ukuba iqabane lakho liyakulibala okwenzekileyo.
Ukwengeza,
- Ukuba nguwe okopayo, kuya kufuneka uxoxe ngokwenzekileyo ngokunyanisekileyo nangokuphandle, kwaye uphendule nayiphi na imibuzo kwiqabane lakho malunga nokungathembeki.
- Funa ingcebiso kwingcali egxile ekusebenzeni nezibini ezichaphazelekileyo kukungathembeki.
Akululanga ukubuyela kwimeko yokungathembeki, kwaye akunakwenzeka. Ukuphiliswa kunye nokukhula kuyakwenzeka emtshatweni wakho ukuba ukhetha ukuhlala kwaye ubuye ungathembeki kunye, kwaye ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuba ukuhlala kunye yinto oyifunayo, khumbula ukuba kubalulekile ukuba nobabini niphilise kwaye nakhe ukuthembana kwakhona.