Umxholo
- Ukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo kuchaziwe
- Iimpawu zobudlelwane obuhlukumezanayo ngokweemvakalelo
- Ukujongana nokuphathwa gadalala ngokweemvakalelo
Ukuphathwa gadalala ngokwasemphefumlweni kunokuba yinto efihlakeleyo kwaye kube lula kunokuxhatshazwa emzimbeni.
Kungenxa yoko le nto kunzima ukufumana ubudlelwane obuhlukumezanayo ngokweemvakalelo. Kodwa ikhona.
Kwaye ayisiwo nje amadoda angabaxhaphazi. Uphando kunye neenkcukacha-manani zibonisile ukuba amadoda nabafazi bayahlukumeza amaxabiso alinganayo.
Eli nqaku licacisa malunga neempawu zobudlelwane bokuhlukumeza ngokweemvakalelo kwaye likwabonisa iimpawu zokuphathwa gadalala ngokweemvakalelo kubudlelwane.
Jonga kwakhona:
Ukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo kuchaziwe
Ukuphathwa gadalala ngokwasemphefumlweni kubandakanya ukuhlala usongela izoyikiso, ukungcungcuthekisa, ukugxeka kunye nokwaphula umthetho. Amanye amaqhinga asetyenziswa ngumntu ongcungcuthekisayo kukoyikisa, ukuxhaphaza, nehlazo.
Olu hlobo lwe ukuxhatshazwa kusetyenziselwa ukulawula omnye umntu.
Rhoqo, umthombo woxhatshazo ngokweemvakalelo lubangelwa kukungazithembi komntwana kunye nomonzakalo ebuntwaneni. Maxa wambi nabo babephathwa gadalala. Abahlukumezi abafundanga ukuba nolwalamano oluqinisekileyo nolusempilweni.
Ixhoba lokuphathwa gadalala alikuboni ukuphathwa gadalala njengokuhlukumeza- ekuqaleni. Basebenzisa ukukhanyela kunye nokunciphisa njengeendlela zokujongana noxinzelelo loxhatshazo.
Kodwa ukukhanyela ukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo unyaka nonyaka kunokubangela uxinzelelo, uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo lwasemva koxinzelelo. Ezi ziimpawu nje ezimbalwa zokuphathwa gadalala ngokweemvakalelo.
Iimpawu zobudlelwane obuhlukumezanayo ngokweemvakalelo
Ngamanye amaxesha abantu bacinga ukuba 'ukuxhatshazwa' ayililo igama elilungileyo lokuchaza impatho-mbi ebangelwe ngamaqabane abo. Bacinga ukuba inento yokwenza nobunzima okanye iingxaki amaqabane abo anazo ngelo xesha.
Ngelishwa, kwezinye iimeko, le yenye nje indlela yokwala.
Ukuba ufuna ukufunda ukuba uyaxhatshazwa ngokwasemoyeni kubudlelwane bakho, jonga le miqondiso ilandelayo.
- Iqabane lakho lithoba isidima okanye lizihoye izimvo zakho, izimvo, iingcebiso, okanye iimfuno-rhoqo.
- Iqabane lakho likusola ngezinto owaziyo ukuba aziyonyani.
- Iqabane lakho liyakuhlaza, likubeke phantsi, okanye uhlekise phambi kwabanye abantu.
- Iqabane lakho lisebenzisa impoxo okanye ezinye iindlela zokuqhula ukuze zikubeke phantsi kwaye zikwenze uzive umbi ngesiqu sakho.
- Iqabane lakho likuphatha njengomntwana kwaye lizama ukukulawula.
- Iqabane lakho likuxelela ukuba ubuthathaka kakhulu, ukuze ubeke ityala kuwe ngenxa yokuxhatshazwa kwakhe ngokweemvakalelo emtshatweni.
- Umlingane wakho uhlala ezama ukohlwaya okanye ukulungisa indlela oziphethe ngayo.
- Iqabane lakho likubiza ngamagama okanye likunike iilebheli ezingathandekiyo.
- Iqabane lakho likude okanye alifumaneki ngokwasemphefumlweni- ixesha elininzi.
- Umlingane wakho uhlala echaza iziphene okanye iintsilelo zakho.
- Iqabane lakho lisebenzisa ukurhoxa ukufumana ingqwalaselo okanye ukufumana oko likufunayo.
- Umlingane wakho udlala ixhoba ngenjongo yokucekisa ityala.
- Iqabane lakho alikubonisi uvelwano okanye uvelwano.
- Iqabane lakho libonakala lingakhathali okanye lingaqapheli iimvakalelo zakho.
- Iqabane lakho lisebenzisa ukungakhathalelwa okanye ukungakhathali ukohlwaya.
- Iqabane lakho likubona njengolwandiso lwalo- yena, endaweni yokuba likubone njengomntu ozimeleyo.
- Iqabane lakho liyakudelela kwaye liyayicutha impumelelo yakho kunye namaphupha akho.
- Umlingane wakho ubamba isondo njengendlela yokulawula nokwenza ukuba wenze into abayifunayo.
- Iqabane lakho liyayiphika indlela yokuhlukumeza ngokweemvakalelo xa uthetha ngayo.
- Iqabane lakho lizama ukulawula indlela oyisebenzisa ngayo imali yakho.
- Iqabane lakho linengxaki ngokuxolisa okanye ungaze ucele uxolo kwaphela.
- Iqabane lakho alinakunyamezela ukuhlekwa.
- Iqabane lakho lizama ukukwenza uzive ngathi uhlala usenza iimpazamo, kwaye uhlala elungile.
- Iqabane lakho lithetha kakubi okanye likoyikise kwaye likugcine uphantsi kolawulo lwabo.
- Iqabane lakho alinyamezeli ukungabikho kwembeko.
- Iqabane lakho liwela imida yakho amaxesha ngamaxesha.
- Iqabane lakho likwenza uzive ngathi ufuna imvume yalo yokwenza izigqibo.
- Iqabane lakho likusola ngokungonwabi okanye ezinye iingxaki, endaweni yokuthatha uxanduva.
Kukho imiqondiso emininzi yokulumkisa ngobudlelwane obuhlukumezayo.
Ukuba indlela oziphatha ngayo iqabane lakho ijolise ekwenzeni uzive ulawulwa, umncinci, okanye ungafaneleki, ayilunganga kwaye iyahlukumeza.
Ukuba indlela oziphatha ngayo iqabane lakho ikwenza uzive uxhomekekile, kwaye iyakuthintela ekubeni nguwe, oko kukwangukuxhatshazwa. Ke Ungaphindi uyiphike into eyenzekayo.
Ukujongana nokuphathwa gadalala ngokweemvakalelo
Nje ukuba uchonge imiqondiso, uku ubudlelwane obuhlukumezayo ngokwasemoyeni; Kuya kufuneka ujongane nolo lwalamano de ulushiye.
Elinye lawona manyathelo mabalaseleyo kukwenza Thetha nomntu malunga nobudlelwane bakho obuhlukumezayo. Kungcono ukuthetha nomntu ongaphandle kobu budlelwane.
Loo mntu unokukunceda ubone izinto ngenye indlela. Oku kubaluleke ngakumbi ukuba uhlala ujonga indlela yokuziphatha kakubi engenatyala.
Umbono omtsha unokukunceda ukuba ube nomfanekiso ngqondweni wexesha elide lokuba kubudlelwane obuhlukumezanayo ngokweemvakalelo.
Kuphela kuxa usiva ukuba ayisiyiyo, apho unokutshintsha ingqondo yakho kwaye ubone indlela yokuziphatha eyiyo kanye. Umntu wangaphandle unokukunceda ubone ukungaziphathi kakuhle.
Kuya kufuneka uqaphele ukuba eyakho Imfesane kwiqabane lakho ayizukunceda ukuba umtshintshe. Kwakhona, sukuziphindezela kuba ivumela umxhaphazi ukuba akuphathe gadalala aze abeke ityala kuwe.
Enye into ekufuneka uyiqwalasele kukubona umcebisi ngobudlelwane. Unokukunceda ekuyilungiseni le meko kwaye anincede nobabini ukuba indlela yokuziphatha gadalala ingavela kuyo.
Umcebisi unokunceda nobabini ukuba niye kubudlelwane obuphilileyo ngakumbi.
Xa kufikwa kumba wokushiya ubudlelwane bokuhlukumeza, ungajonga la macebiso alandelayo:
- Musa ukoyika ukuyeka kwaye wazi ukuba buphele nini ubudlelwane.
- Qinisekisa ukuba awukho phantsi kwengozi esemzimbeni esondeleyo.
- Qiniseka ukuba uhlala unayo ifowuni yakho ukulungiselela imeko kaxakeka.
- Ukuba uziva usoyika, fumana indawo ekhuselekileyo onokuya kuyo.
- Musa ukuqhagamshelana nomxhaphazi lowo wakho okanye uphendule kumalinge abo okunxibelelana naye.
- Kwakhona, funa uncedo lobungcali ukuze usebenze ngemiceli mngeni.
Alukho uhlobo lokuphathwa gadalala olwamkelekileyo, ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokweemvakalelo, njl.
Ukufunda okuhambelana: Iindlela ezili-8 zokuyekisa ukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo emtshatweni