Umxholo
- INYATHELO 1: Yamkela kakuhle
- Inyathelo 2: Yeka ukubeka ubuso bobuxoki
- INYATHELO 3: Yiba khona ngalo lonke ixesha
- INYATHELO 4: Nxibelelana nengxelo eqinisekisiweyo ethi “NDINGUYE ...”
- INYATHELO 5: Ziqhelise ukuba Nomonde
Andisathandani. ” Ndiyivile kaninzi ngelixa leseshoni kunye nabathengi. Heck, ndikhe ndatsho nam. Oko kungabi "Kukuthanda" ukuziva, Yintoni na? Yintoni uthando? Kubudlelwane, ukuthandana kuthetha izinto ezahlukeneyo kubantu abohlukeneyo. Ndiyazi ukuba iyenza kum. Ukuwa ngothando kuthetha ukuba akukho qhagamshelo lweemvakalelo, akukho buhlobo. Indlu ayinakuma phezu kwesiseko esibi.
I-Gottman's, isibini esikhokelayo kwicandelo lokucebisa izibini, yenze le nto isisiseko esisempilweni sobudlelwane obusebenzayo. Ibizwa ngokuba bubudlelwane obuvakalayo. Ewe, amacala endlu abonisa ukuzibophelela kunye nokuthembana. Ezo ziindonga ezibamba indlu ngokudibeneyo. Kwaye ukuba la macandelo mabini abuthathaka, sinokujonga embindini, ogcina imimandla eyahlukeneyo yobudlelwane kunye. Eyokuqala ziMephu zothando. Ukubeka ngokulula, le yindawo yokuwela-eluthandweni, kwaye le yindawo efuna ukugcinwa kakhulu.
Umbuzo: Uyakhumbula ukuba nathandana njani neqabane lakho? Lithini ibali lakho lothando? Phambi kwabantwana, ngaphambi kokubambisa kunye nokuxokozela kokugcina nje ubomi bemihla ngemihla; Lithini ibali lakho lothando? Nenze ntoni kunye? Uye wayephi? Nincokole ngantoni? Lingakanani ixesha enilichithe kunye?
Ukuqalisa kwakhona ibali lakho lothando kubalulekile kulwalamano olukhulayo. Yeka ukwenza ukuba izive ingumsebenzi, kwaye uqale ukonwabela inkampani yomnye kwakhona. Ukuphulukana nokuwa kothando aluthethi ukuba ubudlelwane kufuneka buphele. Kuthetha nje ukuba kufuneka iphinde yenziwe. Phinda uchaze into oyifunayo noyifunayo. Kuthetha ukuba lixesha lokuba unxibelelwano ngokweemvakalelo luvuswe. Ewe, yintoni leyo? Usenokubuza. Oko kuyasebenza kwakhona okanye okunene ukufunda ukuthetha, ukuxoxa kunye nokwabelana omnye nomnye njengeqabane lakho ngumhlobo osenyongweni onokumxelela nantoni na, kwaye ngokwenyani ungonwaba kunye nabo. Loo mntu, ongagwebiyo, uyaphulaphula aze afune ukuqonda, angaphenduli nje koko kuthethwayo. Xa abanye abantu beva iimvakalelo, bathambekele ekukruneni nasekutshixweni kwamazinyo. Apho amehlo anokuqaqamba. Ndivele ndahleka.
Masenze kube lula. Njengabantu, Sonke sineemvakalelo. Ukuziva unomsindo yimvakalelo. Ukuziva udiniwe yimvakalelo.
Iimvakalelo zingumsonto oqhelekileyo osibophayo ngaphandle kokungafani kwethu. Masiliqhekeze igama, u-E-Motion. Isimaphambili E sithetha ngaphandle kwaye Ukunyakaza sisenzo sokuhamba. Ke ngoko, iimvakalelo zakho ziphume kwinkqubo yokuhamba, kwaye ekugcineni ubudlelwane obunempilo, obunothando, obusebenzayo kunye novuyo. Ukuhamba kobudlelwane kukuqhubeka nokunyuka ukuphuma kwentshukumo elula.
Nanku umlinganiso wenyathelo lesi-5 oza kuwuthathela ingqalelo:
INYATHELO 1: Yamkela kakuhle
Kuthatha ukuvuleleka kwinkqubo yokufumana amava amatsha anokungaqhelekanga kuwe. Fumana amava amatsha ngokwenza into eyahlukileyo kunye okanye into ongakhange uyenze okwethutyana. Nokuba kuqala, uyathandabuza kuba
Imvakalelo "Yothando" ayikho. Njengombhalo wenkampani yezihlangu wakwaNike uthi, “Yenze nje.” Ukubaluleka kokusebenzisa intshukumo yobudlelwane ukuba butshintshe. Kufuneka kubekho icandelo lesenzo. Esi sisindululo sesindululo se-E.
Inyathelo 2: Yeka ukubeka ubuso bobuxoki
Oku kuthetha ukuba qala ukufunda ukunyaniseka ngendlela oziva ngayo, kwaye iqabane lakho linyaniseke kuwe. Ndihlala ndibuza abathengi bam ukuba uqhuba njani kwaye uziva njani? Amazwe amabini ahlukeneyo okuba; Indlela owenza ngayo ayicacanga, ngelixa uthatha ixesha ukujonga ngokwakho kunye neqabane lakho ekubangela ukuba ususe imaski. Okulungileyo akuyiyo imvakalelo. Kulungile ayisiyo mvakalelo. Qala ukubuyela kwiimvakalelo, intshukumo emzimbeni wakho. Imvakalelo idiniwe, inemincili, ibuhlungu, iyonwabile, ixhala, njl. Phinda uvakale kolo luvo, kwaye uqalise ukuphonononga iimvakalelo onazo ngaphakathi kuwe ukuze uziqonde kuqala, ukuze ukwazi ukunxibelelana neqabane lakho; kwaye iqabane lakho kufuneka limamele ngokuzama ukuqonda. Ungaphenduli, ungaphenduli, ungakhuseli, kodwa ubekhona.
INYATHELO 3: Yiba khona ngalo lonke ixesha
Ndiyazi ukuba kunjani ukuba okuninzi engqondweni yakho kangangokuba awukho mzuzu kunye neqabane lakho. Ucinga ngokulungiselela abantwana isikolo. Kuya kufuneka uyigqibe njani le projekthi emsebenzini? Zeziphi iibhili kusafuneka zihlawulwe? YIMA NJE!
Misa kancinci, Nciphisa, Phefumla! Xa uqhuba unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo neqabane lakho. Yiba kulo mzuzu. Eli lixesha lokungazicingeli. Beka eyakho i-ajenda ecaleni kwaye uthathe ixesha lokuliqonda ilizwe leqabane lakho ngaphandle kokunika iingcebiso okanye ukugweba ngaphandle kokuba iqabane lakho licele ingcebiso. UZA KUBALAPHO!
Yenza inzame yokuzibeka ezicathulweni zeqabane lakho kwaye ubone ukuba ungaziva njani, okanye ukuba awunokwazi ukudibana. Buza. Wuphephe umbuzo othi Kutheni. Ayimemi ingxoxo eguqukayo kunye nengamanzi. Buza, "Kutheni na?" Yintoni ekwenza uzive unje? Kwenzekantoni?" Yiba nomdla kwaye ubonise inkxalabo ekubonakaliseni ukuba ufuna ukwazi ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni kwihlabathi leqabane lakho. Yiya kumava abo.
INYATHELO 4: Nxibelelana nengxelo eqinisekisiweyo ethi “NDINGUYE ...”
Iingxelo "NDINGUYE" zithatha ubunini kumava akho, kwaye isusa ujoliso kwinto oyifunayo noyifunayo. Hayi, unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo aluthethi, "Ndifuna wena .... Emva koko, unxibelelwano lunokuvaleka kuba kugxilwe kutshintshelwe ekubekweni ityala endaweni yoxanduva lomntu" Ndifuna "kwaye ndifuna endaweni yoko kwenziwa liqabane lakho gwenxa. Ingxelo eqala ngo "Wena" inokukhokelela kwiimvakalelo zomsindo, ukuzikhusela kunye nokuzihlukanisa.
INYATHELO 5: Ziqhelise ukuba Nomonde
Ukuwa ngothando akuzange kwenzeke ngokukhawuleza. Iyakha ngokuhamba kwexesha. Kulapho izibonelelo zokucebisa izibini ziza emfanekisweni ukunceda ukujonga umbono weqabane ngalinye ukuze uqonde apho kwenzeka khona ukonakala, zeziphi izinto ezingekhoyo kulwalamano olunokuba negalelo kulo, kunye nendlela yokubuyisa ubudlelwane kwakhona okanye ukuqala ukwenza imeko yemvisiswano phakathi kweqabane ngalinye. Khumbula, yinkqubo. Yenza isigqibo sokuba uyazi ukuba ufuna ubudlelwane, kwaye uzimisele ukwenza konke okufunekayo ukuze ube nolwalamano olusempilweni nothando. Kuyenzeka ukuba uphinde wenze into yothando.
Ungayenza! Yithemba inkqubo.