Umxholo
- Ingxaki yokuba ngumzali
- Helicoptering
- Ukukhuliswa
- Ukubeka umzekelo
- Ukuxela izinto eziphambili
- Intsingiselo yamaqabane obomi
- Ungalungelelanisa njani uthando lwakho?
Uthanda bani ngakumbi, abantwana bakho, okanye iqabane lakho? Okanye ngubani oza kuqala 'iqabane okanye abantwana'? Ungazikhathazi ngokuphendula. Engqondweni nasentliziyweni yakho, uyazi ukuba ngubani.
Eli nqaku ayisiyonto ilungileyo kunye nengxaki yokufumana impendulo eyiyo kumbuzo obuzwe ngasentla. Endaweni yoko yinkcazo yempendulo echanekileyo yesizathu sokuba kufanelekile ukubeka iqabane lakho phambili, lixhaswe ziingcali kunye nezifundo kwihlabathi liphela.
Ke, ngubani omele umthande ngakumbi?
Ukuphendula ngokungxama, iya kuba liqabane lakho elifumana uthando lwakho ngakumbi hayi umntwana wakho.
Kutheni iqabane lakho kufuneka lize kuqala? Masikhe sihambe ngendlela enye ngexesha.
Ingxaki yokuba ngumzali
UDavid Code, umqeqeshi wosapho kunye nombhali we "Ukukhulisa abantwana abonwabileyo, beka umtshato wakho phambili," ithi loo nto inokubangela ukuba uluvo lwakho lokunika abantwana bakho uthando olungenamiqathango.
Ukophula iintsomi zokuba ngumzali Apha ngezantsi kukho amanqaku athile okuxhasa impikiswano ethi "ukuthanda iqabane lakho ngakumbi".
Helicoptering
Ingqwalaselo eyongezelelweyo enikwe abantwana xa kuthelekiswa neqabane lomtshato ayinakuthatha xesha lijike kwihelikopta. Njengoko unika indawo kubomi beqabane lakho, kufuneka kubekho indawo ebomini babantwana bakho.
Okukhona uya kubandakanyeka kwiqabane lakho kwimisebenzi yemihla ngemihla, kokukhona abantwana bakho baya kuqala ukuphonononga ubuntu bakhe.
Ukukhuliswa
Intsomi kukuba, abantwana bafuna ukubumba okungaphezulu kwisiphelo sakho ukuze babe ngabantu abonwabileyo nabangcono. Ngomsindo woxinzelelo lwengqondo obetha nzima, kuyacaca ukuba le ntsomi ikhokelela umntwana wakho ukuba abonakale eswele kwaye exhomekeke kunokuba onwabe.
Ukuphatha abantwana bakho njengokhetho lwesibini kungaphaya kwengcinga yokuzingca; kungenxa yempilo yabo kunye nentlalontle.
Ukubeka umzekelo
Abantwana balandela oko bakubonayo, nokuba yifashoni, isimbo, okanye isimilo. Esi seso sizathu sokuba abanye abazali baye kudibana nabantwana babo, ukuze babelane ngebhondi kwaye bafundise ukufana kwaye babeke uphawu lwentengiso kulwalamano lwabo.
Ukubeka umzekelo wobomi bakho bothando okanye iqhina lakho neqabane lakho yinto abaza kuyilandela ngaxa lithile ebomini.
Akufanele babone imitshato eqhekekileyo kunye nobomi bendlu obonakeleyo. Ukuhlonipha nokuthanda nokubeka iqabane lakho phambili yeyona nto ingabeka umzekelo obalaseleyo wobudlelwane.
Ukuxela izinto eziphambili
Xa uxela izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka kuwe, abantwana bakho bafumana umbono wokuba usapho olilungu lalo alophulwanga.
Uninzi lwee Iintsapho ezisa uqhawulo mtshato azichazi ukuba zivakalelwa njani kwaye ubeke nawuphi na umsebenzi ongabalulekanga ngaphezu komtshato wabo oqhawukayo.
Ngaphandle kwabantwana, xa uchaza izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka kwimpawu zothando kwiqabane lakho, kuye kufike umbono wokugqibelela kusapho.
Intsingiselo yamaqabane obomi
Yintoni abacebisi ngemitshato kunye nabaqeqeshi malunga nendlela yokuphila abacebise kwaye bancomela ngayo iminyaka "Yifumana injongo, injongo okanye umsebenzi owenza ukuba umtshato wakho ubenenjongo."
Ngaphambi kokufunda eminye imibuzo, kuya kufuneka uzise icala lakho elifanelekileyo. Kutheni ungacingi ngomntwana njengonobangela wokuhlala kunye?
Kutheni le nto uyenza kuphela kwento ebalulekileyo kubomi bakho? Kutheni ungabi liqela ngokufanayo? Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, idlulileyo iminyaka yakho yobudala, iqabane lakho lobomi kuphela komntu oza kubakho apho.
Ngaba ayivakali inomtsalane? Ngokuqinisekileyo, masithathe enye imbono.
UKarl Pillemer, ovela kwiYunivesithi yaseCornell, wenza udliwanondlebe namaqabane angama-700 “ngezifundo ezingama-30 zothando”.
Uthi kwincwadi yakhe, “Kwakumangalisa ukuba bambalwa kangakanani kubo ababenokukhumbula ixesha ababelichithe bebodwa kunye namaqabane abo - yile nto bayiyekayo.
Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, abantu babuyela ezingqondweni kwi-50 okanye kwi-55 kwaye abanakho ukuya kwindawo yokutyela bathethe ".
Ngoku, oku kunokuvakala kuyinto eyoyikisayo ngelixa ufunda, kodwa kuvakala kubi kakhulu kamva, isizungu, kunye nobomi obungenanto.
Ke i Imfihlelo yokonwaba emtshatweni ukubeka iqabane lakho phambili. Ukuba unokugcina ubudlelwane obunempilo kunye neqabane lakho, ukuba ngumzali kuba lula njengeqela lokuzama bobabini.
Xa ndisithi iqela, lindizisa komnye umba ekufuneka ujongiwe. Amaqabane ayingawo amalungu eqela kuhambo lwakho lobomi; zizithandwa zakho namaqabane akho owakhethileyo ukuba uhlale nawo ubomi bakho bonke.
Abantwana sisiphumo seso sigqibo, kwaye ke, kuya kufuneka unyanzelise ukubeka iqabane lakho phambi kwabantwana bakho.
Ungalungelelanisa njani uthando lwakho?
Ukuba usenzima ukulinganisa uthando lwakho ngokusesikweni phakathi komntwana kunye neqabane lakho, ungahamba ngamanyathelo omntwana.
Ukubeka iqabane lakho phambili kulula. Konke okufuneka ukwenze ukubaphatha ngokungathi ubaphethe ngeli lixa babengumfana / intombi yakho.
Abantwana bakho baya kubona ubudlelwane obunempilo busemakhayeni abo, busenza ifuthe elihle kubomi babo.
Ubomi buxakekile kule mihla, ngakumbi ukuba unabantwana, kungoko izinto ezimangazayo kunye nezimbo zomzimba zingenza umtshato wakho usebenze kakuhle.
Awunakucinga ngesihloko oza kuthetha ngaso ukuba sele wabelana ngeengcinga zakho malunga nento ohamba kuyo.
Ukutshata nokuba nabantwana akuthethi ukuba kuya kufuneka uyeke ukuba nenkxaso omnye komnye.
Ukujonga isabelo sabantwana sothando. Ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka bafumane ingqwalaselo engxamisekileyo, njengoko yonke imihla ebudaleni babo ibalulekile kubomi babo bamva.
Loluphi uhoyo nothando esithethe ngalo apha zifana nexesha elide, uzinzo kunye neenzame eziqhubekayo ekufuneka uzinike umtshato wakho, kodwa into efunwa ngabantwana lixesha elifutshane, ukusombulula iingxaki zabo kwangoko.
Yamkela ukhetho olungathandekiyo lokubeka iqabane lakho phambi komntwana wakho ngokubhekiselele kuthando lwakho kunye nengqwalaselo. Indlela yayo, iyasebenza!