Umxholo
Abantu abasandul 'ukutshata, eli gama libonisa imifanekiso yabantu ababini begxalathelana esofeni benemigudu yekofu ezandleni zabo bedlala umdlalo ka "Guess ngubani ophekayo" kunye nokuphelisa usuku lwabo ngeencwadi zethala leencwadi kudala zigqithile phantsi komthi wama-apile.
Nangona kunjalo, inyani ikude noku; Kananjalo izindlu ezininzi azizi nomthi weapile kodwa zinendawo engaphantsi enesikhunta. Iinyani zobomi bomtshato zihluke kakhulu kunoko kusasazwa kakhulu.
Ukuze ube nolonwabo emtshatweni kubalulekile ukuba ubeke izinto eziphambili kulungelelwano ngaphambi kokuqala ubomi bakho kunye.
Nalu uluhlu lokujonga izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka ekufuneka zisandul 'ukutshata ukuba ziqwalasele ubudlelwane obusempilweni kunye nexesha elide.
1. Yenza into ekhethekileyo kunye
Oku, ngamagama alula, kuthetha ukwenza umsebenzi owabelwana ngawo. Ngokusisiseko, olu luvo lokuba izibini kufuneka zisebenze ngokwakha inkcubeko efanelekileyo emva komtshato ezizezabo kwaye zahluke ngokukodwa. Sonke sichitha ubomi bethu bonke sigxile ekwenziweni kwesazisi ngokusebenzisa usapho lwethu kunye nemvelaphi yalo.
Ke, ngenye imini sigqiba ngesiquphe ukutshata kwaye siqonde into entsha. Kucetyiswa izibini ukuba ziqale ukuba nento yazo.
Le nto inokuba sisiko elinje ngokunyuka ngeCawa kusasa okanye ukuhlakulela amaxabiso athile anjengokubuka iindwendwe kunye nesisa.
Ngamanye amaxesha kunokuvunyelwana ngephupha kunye kunye nokusebenzela ukufikelela kulo njengokuhamba kweminyaka emi-5 ukuya e-Atlanta okanye e-Egypt.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuze ufumane into kunye kufuneka uqaphele uloyiko lweqabane lakho, amathemba kunye nokuthandabuza, kufuneka ujolise kumbono wakho, kwaye kuya kufuneka uzincame.
Ukuba nento kumnandi kwaye yinto elula ukuyibeka phambili.
2. Umlo olungileyo
Oku kuthetha ukulawula iingxabano kunye neengxoxo ezivelayo. Kukho isizathu sokuba iimbongi kunye nababhali beengoma batsaleleke kwimifanekiso yentsasa engakhathaliyo yangoMgqibelo kunokuba ibe yiCawa egcwele uxinzelelo. Iimbambano kunye neengxoxo aziyombongo, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba azinakwenziwa ngobugcisa.
Kubalulekile ukuba izibini ziqonde ukuba ingxabano ayinakuphepheka; Ngokukhawuleza beza ngokubhekisele koku kuqonda, ngcono.
Xa izibini zisebenza nzima kunye kwaye ziqonda umqolo kunye ne-anatomy yengxabano yabo, bayakwazi ukumisela indlela esempilweni yokuthembeka. Oku kunokunceda ekuqinisekiseni isiseko somtshato wabo kwindawo ende.
Ke lwela ubulungisa, ziqonde iimpazamo zakho kwaye ucele uxolo xa ungalunganga. Ukulwa ukulunga akukho mnandi kodwa kusondele kwaye kufuneka kube yinto ephambili kunyaka wokuqala kunye neminyaka ezayo.
3. Qokelela izibonelelo
Le yeyona nto iphambili ngaphandle kokuthetha. Nje ukuba utshate, licebo elilungileyo ukuqokelela izixhobo ezinje ngengcali yezonyango, umcebisi ngezemali nokunye.
Qinisekisa ukuba uyamazi ummelwane wakho, uthathe iiklasi zokupheka, kwaye undwendwele ithala leencwadi loluntu. Ngokusisiseko, zama ukwazi lonke ulwazi olufumanekayo kwindawo yakho nakwindawo ohlala kuyo.
Imitshato ayikho kwisithuba, kwaye kufuneka wazi ukuba phi, njani kwaye nini ukunika kwaye uthathe uncedo; Uluntu lwakho lunokukunceda ngokulula.
Oku kubalulekile xa isigaba seholideyini siphela, kwaye ungene "Sitshatile ixesha elide, senza ntoni ngoku?".
4. Akukho kuzisola
Ngazo zonke ezi zinto zingasentla, oku kuqala kungabonakala kungaqhelekanga. Umtshato ngumsebenzi onzima kwaye uzinikele ixesha elide; njengoko ixesha lihamba, nakanjani na uya kuzenza iimpazamo. Kuqhelekile ukuzisola.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuzisola akulunganga, ukuva izinto ezinje "ndiziphosile iimpawu zokulumkisa" okanye "Bekungafanelanga ukuba sitshatile kwasekuqaleni" - oku akulunganga.
Ungaphoswa ziimpawu ezilumkisayo, gcina amehlo akho evulekile ngalo lonke ixesha kwaye ungazisoli ngesigqibo sakho. Qiniseka ukuba ulwalamano lwakho lufumana uhlolo oludingayo.
Gcina ukhumbula ukuba impumelelo yomtshato wakho ixhomekeke kuwe nakumaqabane akho kunye. Nje ukuba umisele izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka, nobabini kufuneka nibakhusele kwaye nizithobele. Yenza utshintsho olufunayo, thintela izinto ezicaphukisa iqabane lakho kwaye uzincame kwaye ulalanise xa kufuneka njalo.
Zama ukulungisa izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka xa kukho imfuneko kwaye wenze umtshato wakho usebenze xa amaxesha esiba nzima. Kuxhomekeke komnye nomnye, thatha uncedo kunyango kwaye musa ukutyhilana xa izinto zisenzima.
Khumbula ukuba ukuphosa itawuli emtshatweni wakho kulula kodwa ukuwenza usebenze sisigqibo esingcono kakhulu kwaye sonwabile.