Umxholo
- Yintoni ukucebisa ngoqhawulo mtshato?
- 1. Buyisa ubomi bakho
- 2. Qala ukuthandana
- 3. Njengawe
- 4. Lawula uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali
- 5. Baphathe abantwana
- 6. Ufunda ukukuvuyela ukuba wedwa
Abantu abazimase ukucebisa emva komtshato bayavuma ukuba yeyona nto intle abayenzileyo emva kokuqhawula umtshato.
Yintoni ukucebisa ngoqhawulo mtshato?
Ukucebisa ngoqhawulo mtshato kubandakanya unyango olunceda abantu abatshatileyo ukuba baphathe iimvakalelo zabo ezinzima malunga noqhawulo-mtshato. Ikwasebenza njengesikhokelo sobumnene kubo bobabini abantu abatsala nzima kwinkqubo yoqhawulo mtshato.
Ingcebiso emva koqhawulo-mtshato yenzelwe abo batyikitye amaphepha abo kwaye ngoku kufuneka babuyele kubomi babo obuqhelekileyo nakwimisebenzi yabo yesiqhelo yemihla ngemihla. Ukufuna ungenelelo lobungcali lwabacebisi boqhawulo mtshato kuluncedo ngakumbi ukuba abantwana bayabandakanyeka kuba bahlala bezona zibuhlungu kuyo yonke inkqubo.
Abazali abonwabileyo bathetha abantwana abonwabileyo, kwaye abantwana abonwabileyo bathetha ukukhula okunempilo kunye nekamva eliqaqambileyo, nto leyo efunwa ngabazali kubantwana babo.
Yintoni onokuyilindela kuncedo lwasemva koqhawulo-mtshato?
Ukucebisa emva koqhawulo-mtshato kuyakuhamba ixesha elide ekubuyiseleni impilo yakho yengqondo kunye neyasemzimbeni kunye nokuba sempilweni ngokupheleleyo.
Nazi izibonelelo eziphezulu oza kuzifumana ngokufuna iingcebiso, nokuba kungokucebisa ngoqhawulo-mtshato kusapho, ukucebisa ngokubandakanya abantwana, okanye ukuthetha nonyango olugqwesileyo ekucebiseni ngoqhawulo-mtshato kwindawo yakho ukuze uthathe iziqwenga zokupheliswa komtshato.
1. Buyisa ubomi bakho
Uyakhumbula ukuba babunjani ubomi bakho phambi kokuba utshate, uphuma kunye nabahlobo uyokutya kunye nokuhamba itheko ngaphandle kwesidingo sokuchazela nabani na ukuba ubuphi ubusuku bonke?
Ewe, lixesha lokushiya isijwili sakho ngasemva kwaye uqalise ukuphila ubomi obuqhelekileyo kwakhona.
Kunzima ukwenza olo tshintsho, kodwa akunakwenzeka. Ukuthetha nonyango kuya kukunceda ushiye umva usoloko uxakekile utshatile uye kumnandi, ophumayo ongatshatanga nawe.
2. Qala ukuthandana
Abanye abantu bakufumanisa kunzima ukuba bodwa.
Bakwintsebenziswano iminyaka emininzi kwaye ngoku kunzima kubo ukumelana nale meko intsha.
Ukucebisa emva koqhawulo-mtshato kuya kubanceda bafumane indlela kwaye babafumane kwindlela elungileyo. Ukuba ukuzibophelela yinto abayifunayo kwakhona, Unyango luyakubanceda ukuba bachache emva komtshato kwaye ufumane umntu ofanelekileyo.
3. Njengawe
Ukufunda indlela yokuzithanda kubalulekile ekuqhawuleni umtshato unyango.
Abantu abaninzi bazibeka ityala ngokungawenzi umtshato wabo usebenze. Ngexesha ukuziphoxa kwabo kujika kube yintiyo.
Unyango emva koqhawulo-mtshato luya kubanceda baqonde ukuba nokuba bangoyena nobangela woqhawulo-mtshato, ukuzicaphukela nokuzigxeka ngekhe kubenze bube ngcono ubomi, kwaye kuya kwenza umfanekiso ocacileyo xa bezibona esipilini.
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba ukucetyiswa emva komtshato sisenzo sokuzikhusela. Elona cebo lihle lokuqhawula umtshato lijolise ekukuncedeni wenze utshintsho lwakho lube lula.
Izibonelelo zokucebisa ngoqhawulo mtshato zibandakanya ukukunceda uqhubele phambili ngendlela evakala ilungile kuwe.
4. Lawula uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali
Ukulawula imali kunokuba yinto evakalayo xa usiza kunikwa ingcebiso ngonyango, kodwa abantu abaninzi bakufumanisa kunzima kakhulu xa kufikwa kumba wokuchitha imali emva koqhawulo mtshato.
Bazama ukugcwalisa imvakalelo engenanto ngaphakathi ngokuthenga, kwiimeko ezininzi, izinto abangazidingiyo. Ukwazi ukuba uqhawulo-mtshato lubiza kakhulu, yonke ipesenti iyaxatyiswa emva komtshato.
Ukucebisa emva koqhawulo-mtshato kuyakumtshintsha umntu olahlekileyo kunye nokudideka ukuba abe ngumgcini-mali ozinzileyo nolungeleleneyo.
Bukela le vidiyo ngendlela ongaqingqa ngayo imali yakho ngobulumko emva koqhawulo-mtshato:
5. Baphathe abantwana
Owona mbandela ubalulekileyo emva koqhawulo-mtshato kukuphatha abantwana. Abantwana bahlukene phakathi kwabazali bobabini kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba bobabini basabela njani phambi kwabantwana.
I-Therapist inokhetho oluninzi ngokuxhomekeka kwindlela ogqitywe ngayo uqhawulo-mtshato, kodwa yonke into yenziwa ngencoko kunye nokwenza imeko-bume ekhuselekileyo yokubonisa iimvakalelo zabo.
Kunyango lwasemva koqhawulo-mtshato, bobabini, umama notata wabantwana kufuneka bafunde indlela yokubakhulisa kusapho olunabazali abaqhawule umtshato, ke abantwana bafumana olona nyango baludinga kakhulu ukuze bakhule njengabantu abasempilweni abaphantse babe ncinane kakhulu. Impembelelo kuqhawulo mtshato.
6. Ufunda ukukuvuyela ukuba wedwa
Abantu abaninzi abaqinisekanga malunga nobomi basemva komtshato
Babandezelekile yingxaki ekhoyo kunye nemibuzo enje:
- Buyintoni isiqinisekiso sam, ngaphandle komtshato wam?
- Ngaba ndixhotyisiwe ukuba ngumzali wabantwana bam ndedwa?
Ezi zezimbalwa zezinto ezibonakala ngathi zingaphaya kwaye zikushiye uthuthumela.
Ukucebisa emva koqhawulo-mtshato kunokukunceda ufumane iimpendulo zale mibuzo, kwaye uqinisekise ukuba obo bomi buya kulunga bodwa.
Umcebisi unokukunika isikhokelo sokuthantamisa ukuze uqalise ngokutsha, ukukuxhobisa ngesakhono esifanelekileyo sokumelana nokuba ungonwabanga ungatshatanga kwakhona.
Ukuba uziva ngathi ubomi bakho buhlaselwe yitsunami, ushiywe uxinekile emva koqhawulo-mtshato, jonga kwi-intanethi amagama, "ukucebisa ngoqhawulo mtshato kufutshane nam" okanye "unyango lwasemva koqhawulo-mtshato kufutshane nam" kwaye funa iingcebiso emva koqhawulo-mtshato kwingcali enokukunceda woyise umothuko omkhulu kwaye wenze amacebo okusinda kunye nesicwangciso sekhonkrithi Ubomi basemva komtshato.
Isitshixo sokuhlala usempilweni kwaye wonwabile kukukhumbula, awuwedwa kule nkqubo.
Funa iingcebiso emva koqhawulo-mtshato ukuze ulungele ukujongana nobomi, uthinte isifuba, ngelixa uqhubekeka neemvakalelo zakho, kwaye uchola izakhono zokwenza ulonwabo, ubudlelwane obunempilo ebomini kwaye uxhotyiswe kakuhle kwezinye iinkalo zobomi.
Thatha eli thuba ukuqala kwakhona, ushiye uloyiko ngasemva.