Umxholo
- Phelisa usuku ngenqaku eliqinisekileyo
- Xabisanani
- Ukulala kakuhle ebusuku
- Nciphisa uxinzelelo, nezinye izifo
- Ulwalamano olusenyongweni ngakumbi
Kule mizuzu imbalwa phakathi kwexesha lokulala kwaye ulele, into ebalulekileyo inokwenzeka enokuthi ichaphazele umtshato wakho kunye nempilo yakho. Yintoni? Into elula njengengxoxo encinci yomqamelo.
Yintoni intetho yomqamelo?
Incoko yomqolo yincoko eyenzekayo phakathi kwabantu abatshatileyo ebhedini ngaphambi kokuba balale, mhlawumbi xa besangana, nangaphambi okanye emva komtshato. Kulapho isibini sinokunyaniseka ngokwenene omnye komnye, sabelane ngeemvakalelo zazo, kunye nokudibana ngendlela eyomeleleyo. Ngokukodwa xa kusenziwa ngokungaguquguqukiyo ngokuhamba kwexesha, intetho yomqamelelo kwizibini zisebenza kakhulu ekwakheni imeko elungileyo kulwalamano lwakho kunye nempilo.
Ngapha koko, intetho yomqamelo ibonakalisiwe kwisifundo phakathi kwezibini zase-Oregon ukunceda ubudlelwane bazo kunye nempilo; iziphumo zinikezelwa kwiNgqungquthela yoNyaka yoLuntu yoLuntu kunye neNgqondo yoNyaka ye-2017.
Into emnandi ngokuzibandakanya kwintetho yasebusuku yomqamelo, ngokutsho kwesifundo, kukuba ezi akufuneki zibe ziincoko zeyure ngaphambi kokuba ulale.
Ithetha ukuthini umqamelo? Izithambiso nje ezimbalwa zolwazi zizo zonke ezifunekayo ukonwabela izibonelelo zokuthetha ngomqamelelo kwizibini ezitshatileyo, kodwa eyona nto iphambili yile-kufanele ukuba ibe ziindaba ezilungileyo. Sikuzisa izimvo zentetho zomqamelo ezinomdla ukuze uqalise.
Eminye imizekelo yentetho yomqamelelo kwizibini zezi:
- Into entle eyenzekileyo kuwe namhlanje,
- Into ehlekisayo eyenziwe ngabantwana kutshanje,
- Into entle omenzele yona umntu,
- Ukuphumelela emsebenzini,
- Into eyakukhumbuza iqabane lakho,
- Into eyakwenza wonwabe,
- Ividiyo ehlekisayo ye-YouTube, njalo njalo.
Eminye imibuzo yomlomo oqhelekileyo yomtshato kwizibini
- Ungandichaza njani kumntu ongandaziyo?
- Ucinga ukuba ndinxiba njani?
- Ngaba ikhona into endinokuyenza ukukunceda ufikelele kwiinjongo zakho ngokukhawuleza?
- Yeyiphi into okanye umkhwa endinokuwutshintsha ngam onokuyixabisa?
- Yiyiphi imemori yakho yesini esona sinakho?
- Yintoni eyona nto ibalulekileyo yosuku?
- Loluphi olona suku lubalaseleyo ebomini bakho?
Ngokucacileyo, ezi azikho zinkulu, iincoko ezitshintsha ubomi ngokwazo. Kodwa xa kwabelwana ngaphambi kokulala njenge ntetho yomqamelo ebusuku, banokutshintsha umbono wakho kancinci kancinci, babe nefuthe elikhulu ekuhambeni kwexesha. Nazi izibonelelo ezininzi zentetho yomqamelo kwizibini ezitshatileyo:
Phelisa usuku ngenqaku eliqinisekileyo
Ngaba iintsuku zethu azinzima ngokwaneleyo? Sijamelene nokungakhathali okuninzi okuvela kwabanye abantu, izinto ezenzekayo emhlabeni, izinto ezithunyelwe kwimithombo yeendaba zentlalo, ukungqubana emsebenzini, ukugcwala ... uluhlu luyaqhubeka.Kungaba lula ukuyiqhuba yonke imihla. Kodwa, xa ugqiba usuku ngokunxibelelana okuhle neqabane lakho okanye enye into ebalulekileyo, kuyanceda ukubeka ezo zinto kwindawo efanelekileyo.
Intetho yomqamelelo yezibini lelona thuba lilungileyo lokuba nethemba, kwaye ke uya kuba ujonge phambili! Endaweni yokujonga kwakhona usuku lwakho kwaye ubone okungalunganga, nobabini nijolise kokulungileyo ebomini kwaye nigqibe usuku ngenqaku elilungileyo ngentetho yokulala. Gcina lo mkhwa phezulu kwaye uza kubona imeko yobomi obulungileyo.
Xabisanani
Wena neqabane lakho nifuna izinto ezininzi ngexesha lenu; ukuba awukwazi ukudibanisa ekupheleni kosuku ngentetho encinci yomqamelo, emva koko unokuziva unqamle unxibelelwano olungaphezulu komtshato.
Isibonelelo esinye esikhulu sentetho yomqamelelo unxibelelwano oya kuziva ngalo. Inokuba yimizuzu nje embalwa yencoko, kodwa inokuthetha umahluko kumtshato wakho. Ngentetho yomqamelo kubantu abatshatileyo abaqhutywa yonke imihla, nobabini nifumana ithuba lokwabelana ngeemvakalelo zenu, nibonise omnye umntu omkhathaleleyo, niziva ngathi nivile, emva koko nibe nombulelo kwiqabane elinothando.
Incoko yemiqamelo iyanceda ekuchazeni inkxalabo yakho, uloyiko, uvuyo kunye neemvakalelo ezinzulu.
Ukulala kakuhle ebusuku
Uninzi lwethu lunengxaki yokulala. Ngoba? Iingqondo zethu zibonakala ngathi azikwazi "ukuvala" ngokupheleleyo. Xa ulala phantsi ebusuku, ukuba ingqondo yakho ayizukuyeka ukujikeleza, enye yeendlela zokunceda ukuzola kukuthetha ngomcamelo. Phuma neengcinga zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho ezijikeleza umntu omthandayo nothembekileyo- iqabane lakho okanye omnye obalulekileyo. Nobabini ninethuba elihle lokuncedana ekuphumleni.
Intetho yomqamelelo kwizibini ezitshatileyo iyanceda ekufumaneni izinto ekuhleni, eziza kunceda ingqondo yakho iphumle, eya kuthi emva koko incede umzimba wakho uphumle kwaye ulale ngcono.
Nciphisa uxinzelelo, nezinye izifo
Iziphumo zokuthetha ngomqamelelo kwizibini zinkulu. Khawufane ucinge — ukuba ubunokulala ngcono, uluphele usuku ngento entle, kwaye uzive uqhagamshelene kakhulu nalowo umthandayo-ungaziva njani? Ngokweemvakalelo uziva umangalisa, kwaye ngokwasemzimbeni uya kuziva umangalisa. Oko kusenokuthetha ukuba nexhala elincinci, ukugula okumbalwa; uya kuba ngcono ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasemzimbeni. Ngubani ongayifuniyo loo nto?
Ngapha koko, intetho yomqamelo emva kwesondo inokukunceda ukonwabele ubomi obonwabisayo kunye obusondeleyo kunye nokuziva ukhuselekile.
Ulwalamano olusenyongweni ngakumbi
Iziphazamiso ziyinxalenye yobomi bethu banamhlanje-iTV, imidiya yoluntu, ii-smartphones, nazo zonke iintlobo zobugcisa. Bayazihlupha iintsuku zethu, kodwa xa kufikwa kwixesha lobusuku kunye neqabane lethu, lixesha lokuba sizicime. Iziphazamiso ezimbalwa kwigumbi lokulala, ngcono.
Oku kuvumela intetho engaphezulu yomqamelo, ekhokelela kunxibelelwano olomeleleyo kunye nolwalamano lothando. Ikhokelela phi loo nto? Ewe zama kwaye ufumane. Icala elibonakalayo lolwalamano lwakho-ngakumbi ulwalamano lwakho olusondeleyo-luya kukhula njengoko uqhubeka nokuzibandakanya kwintetho yomqamelo ngakumbi. Uya kuziva usiva ngakumbi kubomi bemihla ngemihla kunye neqabane lakho, eliya kuthi ke likhokelele ekubeni niziva nithembele ngakumbi kwaye nizalisekise kwinto eqhubekayo ngasemva kweengcango ezivaliweyo.
Yintoni intetho yomqolo kubudlelwane? Isixhobo esihle sokuqinisa ubudlelwane bakho neqabane lakho. Ngexesha lokuthetha ngomqamelelo kwizibini ezitshatileyo, abatshatileyo banokuthi baziveze iimvakalelo zabo, baphathe uxinzelelo kwaye bathathe ubudlelwane babo kwinqanaba elitsha. Ilayishwe ngokungenasiphelo ngezibonelelo. Malunga nexesha uzama ulwalamano olusempilweni.