Umxholo
- Impendulo "yeFlight"
- Iimpikiswano ezenzekayo kwinkqubo yokukhusela "ukuqonda"
- Kwenzeka ntoni nje?
- Inokuba yahluke njani le nto?
- Yiba neempazamo zakho kuqala
Ndisebenze kunye nezibini kangangeminyaka engama-30 nangaphezulu kwaye sele nditshatile phantse ixesha elide. Ngelo xesha, ndiye ndabona enye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo eziyimfuneko ukuze umtshato uphumelele. Esi sithako sibalulekile emtshatweni kungekuphela ukuba uphile kodwa ukukhula. Ndifuna ukwabelana nawe nawe, hayi kuba sisityhilelo esibuhlungu kodwa kuba kufuneka sikhunjuzwe ngale "nyaniso" rhoqo. Uyabona, "i-amygdala" yethu esebenzayo kubuchwephesha bengqondo yethu (aka limbic system) iya kuhlala isenza siwulibale lomgaqo ulula kodwa unzulu. Umgaqo: Yiba neZinto zakho.
Impendulo "yeFlight"
Kukho imilinganiselo emithathu yobudlelwane behlabathi: Amandla, intliziyo kunye nokwazi. Kwimeko nganye yokubonakaliswa okungalunganga kwemilinganiselo emithathu, sifumana umbono wakudala webhayoloji wokuba izinto eziphilayo ziyazikhusela ngendlela enye kwezi zintathu: Ukulwa, ukuBhabha kunye nokuFriza / ukuBhengeza. Kwimeko nganye, i-amygdala esebenzayo iyakhaba. Nangona kuninzi okunokuthethwa malunga nokuhamba ngenqwelomoya kunye nokuQina emtshatweni, ndifuna ukugxila namhlanje kwindlela "yokulwa". Olu luhlazo-kunye nokusola ukusabela kwembambo. Yindlela yokusabela kuba sihlala siyenza ngokuzenzekelayo-ngaphandle kokucinga-kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ngaphandle kothando okanye uvelwano komnye. Esi sisenzo esibuhlungu nesisisiqhelo se-Ego-reaction ukuze sikhusele "ukuqonda kwakho" ngaphandle kokujonga inkqubo yokwenyani, yokunyaniseka neyimfuneko yokunxibelelana.
Iimpikiswano ezenzekayo kwinkqubo yokukhusela "ukuqonda"
Makhe ndinike umzekelo olula. Endleleni ebuya kwitheko lesidlo sangokuhlwa, uTrina uxelela umyeni wakhe ukuba uneentloni ngento awayeyithetha phambi komntu wonke. UTerry usabela ngokukhawuleza: Njengomdlali wamanqindi oqeqeshiweyo uphuma athi, “ngathi uhlala usenza yonke into kakuhle. Ngapha koko, ndandinyanisile, ungumntu onochuku xa usiza kumama. ” Ngokukhawuleza uTrina "uyayithintela inqindi," echaza (kwakhona) isizathu sokuba afike emva kwexesha. Usenokude aphose into ekubhekiswa kuye malunga nokuba ungubani na onengxaki nomama wakhe osisiyatha. Vumela umdlalo wamanqindi omlenze. Ingxabano iya isanda njengoko betshintshana ngamanqindi omlenze de baphele kwaye banomsindo (umhlaza nakuphi na ubudlelwane).
Kwenzeka ntoni nje?
Kule meko, uTerry weva into awayeyithetha kuye njengesoyikiso- mhlawumbi kwi-ego yakhe, okanye mhlawumbi ivuselele umama obalulekileyo amthwele entloko. Ngokwemvelo wasabela ngokumhlasela ngokungathi wayehlaselwa (kwaye ke uza kuba yintoni?). UTina usabela kuye kwaye intsebenzo eyonakalisayo yenzeka. Ukuba olu hlobo lokunxibelelana lwenzeka rhoqo ngokwaneleyo, umgangatho womtshato uya kuthotywa kakhulu.
Inokuba yahluke njani le nto?
Ukuba i-cortex yangaphambi kukaTerry ifike kwindawo ngethuba, ngewayenokuthi "avale" i-amygdala yakhe evuswe ixesha elide ngokwaneleyo ukuba imcele ukuba imxelele ngakumbi. Kwaye ukuba wayephulaphule ngenyameko, wayenokuqonda ukuba wayethethile into ebuhlungu. Emva koko wayenokuthobeka (kunye nesibindi) ngalo mzuzu ukuba avume ukuba wayephosisile ukuxoxa ngemicimbi yobuqu esidlangalaleni kunye nokucela uxolo. UTrina ebeya kuziva eqondwa kwaye exatyisiwe. Ngenye indlela, mhlawumbi uTina wayenokuba ngowokuqala ukuqala incoko ngengqondo. Kwakungafuneki ukuba azikhusele kodwa endaweni yoko kufanele ukuba waqonda ukuba uTerry wayesabela kwimvakalelo yokuvezwa kwakhe. Iziphumo ezivela kunxibelelwano olukhumbula ngakumbi (olungasasebenzi kakhulu) ziya kwahluka kakhulu kunakwimeko yangaphambili.
Yiba neempazamo zakho kuqala
Umgaqo ulula (kodwa kunzima kakhulu xa i-amygdala kunye / okanye i-Ego ivuswa). Yiba nezinto zakho. Ukususela ekuqaleni kwengxoxo ukuba unako, kodwa ngokukhawuleza ngangoko kunokwenzeka. Ngendlela, oku akuthethi ukuvuma kulwaphulo-mthetho ongakhange ulwenze. Endaweni yoko, vula nje inxaxheba yakho nakweyiphi na ingxaki-kwaye phantse ihlala ithatha ezimbini ukuya kwi-tango. Umtshato onamaqabane amabini akwenzayo oku rhoqo unethuba (elingelilo) lokulwa kumtshato okhulayo nolwanelisayo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umtshato unomlingane omnye ongazange avume eyakhe indima nakweyiphi na ingxaki, iqabane elinengqondo ngokwasemoyeni kuya kufuneka lenze izigqibo ezinzima malunga nobudlelwane. Kwaye ukuba akukho mntu kwesi sibini unakho "ukuba nezinto ezizezakhe,". . . kulungile, amathamsanqa amnandi okwenza konke konke.