Umxholo
- 1. Khathalela ubuhlobo bakho
- 2. Musa ukulibala izinto ezincinci
- 3. Thetha yonke imihla
- 4. Yenza isondo phambili
- 4. Yiba nobusuku obuqhelekileyo bomhla
- 5. Hlala kwicala elinye
Umtshato awuzukuzihoya. Ukukhulisa uthando kunye nobuhlobo emtshatweni kudala ulungelelwaniso olusempilweni lokuthandana, ukusebenza kunye nokonwaba. Emva kwakho konke, xa umtshato wakho usempilweni, bonke ubomi bakho butyekele ekulandeleni.
Imitshato eyonwabisayo yenza iintsapho zonwabe, imbono ebhetele ngobomi, kunye nemveliso emsebenzini. Kodwa, kuya kufuneka uzimisele ukufaka umsebenzi ukuba uza kuvuna izibonelelo. Ukukhulisa uthando kunye nobuhlobo emtshatweni kubalulekile kubudlelwane obuhlala buhleli, obunempilo. Nazi iindlela ezi-6 zokondla ubudlelwane bakho.
1. Khathalela ubuhlobo bakho
Ubudlelwane obuninzi buqala ngokwakha ubuhlobo. Niyazana kwaye niyathandana, niyathetha ngeemvakalelo zenu, iinjongo zenu, iintsuku zenu, niphume niyokwenza kunye kunye kunye. Ungalibali ngobu buhlobo wakuba utshatile.
Ayizizo zonke izinto oziphumayo okanye ezenziwayo njengesibini ekufuneka sithandane. Kuya kufuneka bonwabe, ngokunjalo. Yabelana ngezinto ezifanayo nesithandwa sakho njengoko ubuya kwenza nabahlobo bakho. Endaweni yokuphuma uyokufumana ikhandlela ngesidlo sangokuhlwa, kutheni ungabhowuli uze ubambe iibhiya ezimbalwa? Tsiba uhambo lokuthandana elunxwemeni ngobusuku bomhla kwaye uphose ipati yephuli endaweni yoko.
Nantoni na oyikhethayo, kubalulekile ukuba wena neqabane lakho nizonwabise kunye. Kuya kufuneka ube ngabathandi abazinikeleyo kunye nabahlobo abasenyongweni. Inqaku elinye lobuhlobo bakho akufuneki lithathe indawo yenye.
2. Musa ukulibala izinto ezincinci
Yonke imihla lithuba lokukhumbuza iqabane lakho ukuba ubathanda kangakanani kwaye uyabaxabisa. Amaqabane kwimitshato eyonwabileyo awulibalanga ukwenza izinto ezincinci ezikhumbuzanayo ukuba baxabiseke kangakanani. Izinto ezilula njengokuncamisana, ukwenza iqabane lakho ikomityi yekofu kusasa, okanye ukubeka iimpahla kwindawo yokuhlamba iimpahla zonke zilula, kodwa zizinto ezinengcinga ezenza ulonwabo emtshatweni.
Cinga emva kwazo zonke izinto ezimnandi nezicingisisayo oqhele ukuzenza ekuqaleni kobudlelwane bakho. Ukumthengela iintyatyambo kuba umthanda, upheke ibhetshi ye cookies zakhe azithandayo, unxiba nje ukuhlala ekhaya kunye. Ezi zinto zincinci zinokugcina imvakalelo yoxabiso intsha kumtshato wakho.
3. Thetha yonke imihla
Njengoko iinkqubo zithatha indawo kwaye iishedyuli zomsebenzi zingqubana, ngamanye amaxesha izibini ziyalisebenzisa ithuba lokuthetha. Thatha ubuncinci imizuzu eli-15 okanye nangaphezulu suku ngalunye apho uvale khona lonke ilizwe. Zicime izixhobo zakho ezikrelekrele kunye nomabonwakude kwaye ukonwabele inkampani yomnye nomnye. Ukuthatha nje imizuzu embalwa ngosuku ukunxibelelana nabanye ngale ndlela kunokwenza imimangaliso yomtshato wakho.
4. Yenza isondo phambili
Ukusondelelana ngokwasemzimbeni yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yokukhulisa uthando kunye nobuhlobo emtshatweni kwaye zininzi izibonelelo ezinxulumene neemvakalelo kunye nezempilo xa usabelana ngesondo rhoqo. Ukwehlisa umngcipheko womhlaza wedlala lobudoda, ukuphucula amajoni omzimba, kunye nokunciphisa amathuba okuba nesifo sentliziyo zezinye zezizathu ezimangalisayo zokwenza uthando, zininzi izibonelelo zeemvakalelo zokulala ngesondo i-1 + amaxesha neveki neqabane lakho.
Ukwabelana ngesondo kunye ne-orgasm kukhuthaza iimvakalelo zokunyusa iimvakalelo ezibizwa ngokuba zii-endorphins, kunye ne-oxytocin, iarhente yokuqinisa imvakalelo. Ke ayisiyiyo kuphela into yokuba isondo siziva sikhulu, kodwa ibangela ukuba izibini ziziva zisondelelene ngokweemvakalelo kwaye zikhuthaza ukuthembana kwingqondo. Ukwabelana ngesondo kukwanokunciphisa uxinzelelo kwindalo kwaye nantoni na ebangela ukuba ubudlelwane buhambe ngokuhamba ngolwandle ngokuqinisekileyo kukudibanisa.
Amaqabane aneeshedyuli ezixakekileyo anokukhetha nokwenza ishedyuli ngesondo. Ngelixa oku kunokungavakali njengeseshoni yokuzibandakanya okanye eyokwabelana ngesondo, yindlela entle yokuba izibini zenze ixesha lokuchitha kunye kunye kubaluleke kakhulu kubomi babo obuxakekileyo.
4. Yiba nobusuku obuqhelekileyo bomhla
Nokuba ishedyuli yakho inokuvumela kube kanye ngeveki okanye kanye ngenyanga, ukuba nobusuku obuqhelekileyo bomhla kwikhalenda kunokwenza imimangaliso yokukhulisa uthando kunye nobuhlobo emtshatweni. Sebenzisa obu busuku ukuncenga omnye nomnye. Yenza ngathi ngumhla wakho wokuqala kwaye ucwangcise umsebenzi okhethekileyo oya kukukhuthaza ukuba ubambane, uthethe kwaye wonwabe.
Sebenzisa eli thuba njengethuba lokwenza iinkumbulo kunye, ukubambana ngezandla, ukwanga esidlangalaleni, kunye nokuyila. Ukuba nobusuku obuqhelekileyo bomhla awukhuthazi kuphela ulonwabo kunye nokusondelelana njengesiqabane, ikwanika nento ekufuneka ujonge kuyo kunye.
5. Hlala kwicala elinye
Enye indlela onokuthi uqale ngayo ukukhulisa uthando kunye nobuhlobo emtshatweni kukucinga kwakhona ngezakhono zakho zokusombulula ungquzulwano. Kungokwemvelo ukuba izibini ziphikisane okanye ziphikisane rhoqo, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba ukwicala elinye.
Sukusebenzisa iimpikiswano njengesingxengxezo sokungxola, ukujonga ixesha elidlulileyo, ukutyhola, okanye ukuthetha into ngenjongo yokulimaza iimvakalelo zeqabane lakho. Ukujongana nengxabano, hayi omnye komnye. Ukugcina inzondo kuyonakalisa nakweyiphi na ubudlelwane, nokuba ngumzali wakho, umntakwenu, umhlobo okanye umntwana. Kodwa, kunzima kakhulu xa ubambe enye nxamnye nomntu omnye owafunga ukumthanda nokumkhathalela ngonaphakade.
Xa kufikwa ekukhuliseni uthando kunye nobuhlobo emtshatweni, yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuba ushiye iimpikiswano zakho zangaphambili kwixa elidlulileyo. Ngaphandle kokukwazi ukuqhubela phambili kwizinto ezincinci (okanye ezinkulu) ezenziwe liqabane ukukwenzakalisa iimvakalelo zakho, ngekhe ukwazi ukuqala ngokutsha.
Zama ukusonjululwa kwengxabano yabantu abadala kwaye ukuba ukhe uvumele iimvakalelo zakho zikongamele - cela uxolo.
Gcina iqhina lomtshato wakho lomelele kwaye lisempilweni ngokwenza ukuba iqabane lakho libe kwindawo yokuqala ebomini bakho. Thetha yonke imihla, ziqhelise ukuxolelwa, ube nobusuku obuqhelekileyo bomhla, kwaye ungaze ulibale ukuba iqabane lakho ngumhlobo wakho kunye nesithandwa sakho. Ngokwenza ezi zinto, uya kuba ukhulisa uthando kunye nobuhlobo emtshatweni.