Umxholo
Kubantu abaninzi uJanuwari ngandlela thile yokudana. Iholide zidlulile, kuyabanda ngaphandle, kwaye sihlala sishiywa ziiponti ezimbalwa ukusuka ekugqithiseni ngoDisemba. Kodwa kum uNyaka oMtsha uthetha isiqalo esitsha, isiqalo esitsha, nanjengoko u-Oprah Winfrey evuya- “unyaka omtsha nelinye ithuba kuthi lokuba silunge.”
Unethuba legolide kulo nyaka mtsha kraca ukuzisa umoya wotshintsho oluqinisekileyo emtshatweni wakho. Nokuba kwezi ntsuku zasebusika ziyinyani imbono entsha ingaqala ukudubula.
Ukutshintsha kweembono
Ngaba ubomi abukho konke malunga nembono? Ndihlala ndixelela abathengi bam ukuba ndiyakholelwa ukuba ubomi ngama-99.9% umbono. Indlela esikhetha ukubona ngayo umhlaba yindlela esiya kulibona ngayo. Ke, ayisiyongxaki yokulungisa ulwalamano lwakho lonke. Oko kunokuziva ngathi ngumceli mngeni otyhafisayo. Mhlawumbi ngumba nje wokuguqula umbono wakho-nje kancinci. Ukuqaphela, mhlawumbi okwesihlandlo sokuqala kwithuba elide, okuhle okwakulapho ngalo lonke ixesha.
Kufana neslippers sikaRorothy's ruby kwiWizard yeOz. Ndiyawuthanda lo mbono umangalisayo xa igqwirha elilungileyo latyhila kuDorothy ngexabiso labo batyibilizi. Wayenxibe zona lonke ixesha ngaphandle kokuqonda amandla ababenawo. Okwalo mzuzu uDorothy wafumanisa ukuba ebengabuzi umbuzo ofanelekileyo. Umbuzo wawungenguye, "Ndiyifumana njani le nto ndiyifunayo?" Owona mbuzo wawungulo, “Ndiyiqonda njani into ekufuneka ndiyenzile ukuze ndipolishe ilitye elinqabileyo elidala kwaye ndibone ukuba lihle kwaye lixabiseke kangakanani. Ilitye elinqabileyo ngokuqinisekileyo liqabane lakho!
Ukwenza olu tshintsho kulwazi lwakho kulula kunokuba ungacinga.
Nanga amanyathelo amathathu onokuwathatha ngoku.
1. Yiba nobubele
Esi sicatshulwa sithetha konke. Ilula, kodwa inamandla! "Ububele obungalindelekanga bobona bunamandla, buncinci, kwaye yeyona arhente iphantsi yenguqu yabantu" ~ Bob Kerry
2. Qala ukugxila kwinto oyithandayo ngeqabane lakho
Yenza uluhlu lokuzikhumbuza. Indlela entle yokwenza oku kukugcina Ijenali yokubulela malunga nolwalamano lwakho. Xa uxinzelelo lonyuka ungabhekisa kulo jenali ukukunceda ulungelelanise yonke loo nto ibalulekileyo. Oku kunokuhamba indlela ende ekuncedeni ujonge ngaphaya kwenkitha yemikhwa ecaphukisayo kwaye kunokukunceda ufumane kwakhona ukuba yintoni eyenza iqabane lakho likhetheke kangaka. Yifunde rhoqo kwaye ungalibali ukwabelana ngezi zinto zibalulekileyo kunye nomntu okhuthaza olu thando.
3. Zibeke ezihlangwini zomnye umntu
Ziqhelise ukubona izinto ngokwembono yeqabane lakho endaweni yezakho. Uya kumangaliswa kukuba ungafunda kangakanani xa usamkela isimo sokufuna ukwazi kunesigwebo.
Kwiiseshoni zam zokucebisa nakwiworkshop yam, ndihlala ndibhekisa kwi-adage -
"Into ojolise kuyo iyanda." Ukuba ujolisa kwiziphene kubudlelwane bakho, uya kuziqaphela ezi mpazamo rhoqo. Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, uziqhelanisa nokutshintsha umbono wakho uye kokuhle, kwaye ujonge kwinto oyithandayo kwaye uyixabise malunga neqabane lakho, nantsi into eya kuthi yande kwicandelo lakho lokwazisa.
Enye yeendlela zokuqalisa ukutshintsha umbono wakho kukusebenzisa isimo sombulelo kuyo yonke imihla yakho. Olu tshintsho lubaluleke kakhulu luyitshintsha ngokupheleleyo imbono yakho ngokutshintsha umhlaba.
Isebenza njengohlobo lwe-prism, etshintsha ukukhanya kwesiqhelo ukuba ngumnyama wemibala. Ukukhanya akutshintshi ngokwenyani, kodwa indlela esiyijonga ngayo iyatshintsha kuxhomekeke kwindlela esijonga ngayo kwi-prism.
Ukuhlakulela umoya wokubulela kunye nokuxabisa emtshatweni wakho akukho phantse ukuba kunzima okanye kungeyonto iqhelekileyo njengoko kunokuvakala. Ukuxabisa akufuneki kube yintetho elungiselelwe. Isenokuba lilizwi lombulelo ngokwenza umsebenzi oqhelekileyo okanye ukuthanda, njengokuthi, "Ndiyithandile xa undincedisile ngokuhlamba izitya ngokuhlwanje." Okanye, "isidlo sangokuhlwa besimnandi!" Isenokuba kukuqaphela into enxitywe liqabane lakho okanye into oyithandayo ngenkangeleko yakhe, - "Ihempe entle!" Okanye, "Wow, ujongeka umhle kula swita."
Xa izibini zisebenzisa le ndlela yokunxibelelana rhoqo bahlakulela umkhwa wokuqaphela kunye nokwabelana ngazo zonke izinto abazithandayo omnye komnye.Ngaba unokucinga ukuba oku kungabuchaphazela njani ubudlelwane bakho?
Abanye abantu abatshatileyo abafuna ngokwenene ukuthatha oku ukuya kwinqanaba elilandelayo bakha ixesha elithile usuku ngalunye kwaye bathathe inxaxheba kwiNgxoxo yoXabiso. Incoko yokuxabisa yiyantlukwano yeeNgxoxo zeZibini, endizifundisayo kwiNdawo yokusebenzela yokulungisa uMtshato, izibini zibekela bucala ixesha kwaye zisebenzise le ncoko ukwazisa omnye nomnye ukuba bathande ntoni kwaye banoxabiso ngantoni ngomnye nomnye.
Kuyachulumancisa ukwazi ukuba ngomzamo omncinci ungaqala kulo nyaka mtsha ngesiqalo esitsha kubudlelwane bakho.
Ke, ndicinga ukuba uJanuwari ayisiyiyo loo nto.
Hayi ubuhle BOKUQHELEKILE!