Umxholo
- I-ins kunye nokuphuma kokusebenza nabaqeqeshi abathandanayo
- Lumkela, umsebenzisi ulumke
- Lixesha lokuba uvuke
Ngalo naluphi na usuku olunikiweyo, izigidi ngezigidi zamadoda nabafazi zikhangela uncedo kwihlabathi lokuthandana.
Bafuna ukufumana umntu omnye okhethekileyo. Mhlawumbi umphefumlo wabo. Okanye mhlawumbi bafuna umntu axhonywe kunye naye, kwaye bonwabe naye, ngaphandle kokuba kujike kube lulwalamano olunzulu.
Kuzo zombini ezi meko, abantu abaninzi namhlanje bazabalazela ukuthandana nabaqeqeshi ukubanceda bafumane loo mntu ugqibeleleyo.
Kodwa khumbula njalo, umthengi, lumka!
Kule minyaka ingama-29 idlulileyo, umbhali othengisa kakhulu, umcebisi kunye nomqeqeshi wobomi uDavid Essel ebenceda amadoda nabafazi kwihlabathi lokuthandana, ngokubenza bazilungiselele, bazilungiselele, kwaye bajolise kuhlobo lomntu omfunayo .
Njengomntu oye wasebenza nabaninzi njengomqeqeshi wokuthandana / umcebisi kwixa elidlulileyo, uDavid uyayithanda inyani yokuba abantu bazama ukufumana uncedo, kodwa kukho uhlobo olunye lomqeqeshi ongaze usebenze naye.
I-ins kunye nokuphuma kokusebenza nabaqeqeshi abathandanayo
Uninzi lwabaqeqeshi kwihlabathi lokuthandana, baqhuba inkqubo ezaliswe sisidima.
Injongo yabo kukunceda umthengi ukuba azilungiselele ngokubhekisele kuhlobo lomntu abamfunayo, uhlobo lwabantu abangasokuze babasebenzele, kunye nokubonelela ngokubhala iprofayile yabo ngakumbi kwiindawo zokuthandana kwi-intanethi.
Kodwa ngolunye usuku, ndafunda inqaku kwiNew York Times malunga nomqeqeshi wokuthandana onobungqongqo, ongakhuthazi abathengi bakhe ukuba baxoke kubantu abaza kuba kunye nabo, ngokuqinisekileyo oko kuya kubuyisa ixesha elikhulu.
Kwaye sazi njani ukuba lo mqeqeshi akazithembanga kwaphela? Ngenxa yokuba ezenza ngathi ungumthengi, ekusebenzisaneni kokuqala namaqabane anokubakho kwiindawo zokuthandana.
Oku kuyahlekisa, kuyandikhathaza kakhulu, kwaye yeyona nto inokushukunyiswa ngumntu kwihlabathi lokuqeqesha okanye lokucebisa anokuyenza.
Ke ngokweli nqaku, udliwanondlebe nomthengi, ayabazi, emva koko aphume aye kwihlabathi le-intanethi ukuthandana kwi-Intanethi kwaye enze ngathi ngulo mthengi.
Ke uxoka, kumaqabane anokubakho, esithi ngumntu ongekhoyo kwaye abathengi abamhlawulayo bayaxoka, kuba xa beqala ukusebenzisana ngokwabo, into ebekufanele ukuba bayayenza kwasekuqaleni , uninzi alunakuze luxelele lo mntu ukuba banomdla wokuba ayingabo abo bebencokola nabanye ngaphambili.
Ngaba uyakholelwa ukuba oku kusemthethweni?
Lumkela, umsebenzisi ulumke
Ukuba ndingumthengi wakhe, ndingacaphuka ngokwenza kwakhe. Ndiza kumxelela ukuba ayilunganga.
Ukuba ndingumthengi wakho kwaye ndingatyhilelanga iqabane elinokubakho ukuba ibingenguye ebenxibelelana nabo kwezi veki zimbalwa zidlulileyo okanye kwiinyanga, kodwa ibingumqeqeshi wokuthandana, ucinga ukuba kungadlula njani iqabane elitsha elinokubakho?
Ukuba bendinokuba liqabane elinokubakho, kwaye ndadibana nomntu kwindawo yokuthandana owandixelela ukuba khange basebenzisane nam, ukuba yayingumqeqeshi wokuthandana ababeqeshe ekuqaleni, ndiza kubakhupha ebomini bam ngokukhawuleza kunawe Ungayikholelwa, kuba ngoku baqala ubudlelwane obunokubakho ngokuxoka!
Ndiyakholelwa ukuba umcebisi omkhulu wokuthandana okanye umqeqeshi kufuneka abe apha ukuxhasa umxhasi wabo, kodwa angazenzi ngathi ungumthengi.
Oku kubizwa ngokuba kukungabikho kwengqibelelo, oku kubizwa ngokuba kukungabikho kweenqobo ezisesikweni.
Ndiyavuma ngentliziyo yam iphela ukuba izigidi zabantu zinokuzuza kakhulu ngokuba nomqeqeshi wokuthandana okanye umcebisi, kodwa mna 100% andivumelani nendlela lo mntu, lo mqeqeshi uthandana nabasetyhini ahamba ngayo, ngokukhuthaza abathengi bakhe ukuba baxoke, nangokuxoka kwakhe amaqabane anokubakho ngokuthi athi ngumntu angenguye.
Lixesha lokuba uvuke
Ukuba uhlangabezana nalo hlobo lomntu, bayeke ngokukhawuleza kwaye ufumane umcebisi wokuthandana okanye umqeqeshi onobunyani.
Umsebenzi kaDavid Essel uxhaswa kakhulu ngabantu abanjengongasekhoyo uWayne Dyer, kwaye usaziwayo uJenny McCarthy uthi "uDavid Essel yinkokeli entsha yentshukumo yokucinga eyakhayo."
Incwadi yakhe ye-10, enye eyona nto ithengiswa kakhulu, enesahluko esipheleleyo nokuba kuthetha ntoni na ukuba nemikhwa yokuziphatha kwilizwe lokuthandana nothando, ibizwa ngokuba yi “focus! Bulala iinjongo zakho, isikhokelo esiqinisekisiweyo sempumelelo enkulu, isimo sengqondo esinamandla nothando olunzulu.