Umxholo
- Inkcazo ye-narcissist
- Uyintoni kanye kanye utata woburharha?
- Iimpawu zokuba ukhuliswa ngumzali we-narcissist
- Abazali beNarcissistic kunye nomntwana osele ekhulile womzali we-narcissistic (NP / ANP)
- Ootata / Abazali baNarcissistic
- I-ANP okanye umntwana okhulileyo katata othanda ukuthandana
- Ujongana njani notata olilisayo
- Ziqonde iimvakalelo zakho
- Yeka ukuzibeka ityala
- Ukujonga okwenyani
- Funda kwaye ufune isiluleko
- Xolela kodwa qhubeka
Akukho sapho lugqibeleleyo, sonke sineemfihlo zethu ezincinci, imiba, iingxaki kunye nemiceli mngeni. Nangona kunjalo, wenza ntoni xa ithe kratya kancinci kunedrama yosapho eqhelekileyo?
Ungathini xa uqonda ukuba umntu ekufanele ukukhokele ikwangula mntu uzama ukukhuphisana nawe ngeendlela ezininzi? Ngaba uyazi ukuba ujongana njani notata olilisayo?
Inkcazo ye-narcissist
Ukuphazamiseka kubuntu bukaNarcissistic okanye i-NPD sisiphazamiso apho umntu egxile ngokupheleleyo kwezi mpawu zilandelayo:
- Isidingo sokudumisa rhoqo kunye nokuncoma
- Ubukhulu
- Ukungabikho kovelwano kwabanye, nditsho nakubantwana babo
- Ulawulo
- Ikratshi
- Ukuzimela
- Ukufuna
Nangona kukho isidingo sokuqonda ukuba oku kukuphazamiseka kubuntu, kusenzima kakhulu ukujongana nabo ngakumbi xa belilungu losapho lwakho. Abantu abane-NPD banolu kholo lokuba babephezulu kunomntu oqhelekileyo. Banesidingo sokuba nabantu abanegunya okanye abo banezwi eluntwini kwaye ngale ndlela, ikhulisa ukuzithemba kwabo.
Bakuthiyile ukulungiswa kwaye baya kuba nzima ukwamkela ukugxekwa.
Ngokuchasene nokubonakala kwabo, ngazo zonke iimpawu ezihlala zixinisa abanye abantu nkqu neentsapho zabo, ii-narcissists zibuthathaka kwaye zibuthathaka. Zininzi izizathu ezibangela ukuba umntu akhule abe yinto enye xa zizonke, obo buntu bufuna ukuvunywa, uthando nokwamkelwa.
Uyintoni kanye kanye utata woburharha?
Ukuba ngumzali ongapheliyo we-narcissistic kuqhelekile kunokuba sicinga.
Utata ongumzali okanye umzali unokuchazwa njengomntu ozondlayo, obawayo, kunye / okanye othatha ingcinga yokuba nokhuphiswano nenzala yakhe. Enye yemicimbi exhaphakileyo anokuthi yoyike utata we-narcissist lixesha lokuba umntwana wakhe azimele.
Ingcinga yokuba lo mntwana akasabafunisi okanye umntwana angazimela yedwa kwaye unoluvo lwakhe lusoyikiso.
Okulusizi kukuba, ngelixa ootata abaninzi befuna ukuba abantwana babo baphumelele kwaye baphumelele, ootata abathanda uburharha banyanzelisa imithetho kunye nolindelo ukuba bangamncedi umntwana kodwa bazalisekise. Ujongana njani notata ongumntu othanda ukuxhaphaza xa sele ukhulile? Ubeka njani imida apho angabinakho ukukulawula okanye ubomi bakho?
Elona candelo lidanileyo kukufumanisa ukuba yintoni onokuyenza ukuze ungafani naye.
Iimpawu zokuba ukhuliswa ngumzali we-narcissist
- Ngaba ukhulele kwikhaya apho kubaluleke kakhulu ukongama?
- Ngaba unelungelo elithile lokuba wazalwa ungaphezulu lee kunaye nabani na? Ootata abenza ukuthanda kukaNarcissistic baya kudlulisela le ngqondo kubantwana bakhe.
- Ngaba utata wakho uzama ukukukhohlisa? Ngaba utata wakho uhlala ekukhumbuza ngendlela ongenambulelo ngayo xa enomsindo okanye ekhathazekile? Ngaba ubutyhola ngezizathu zokuba usapho lwakho lube neengxaki?
- Ukhe wathelekiswa nabanye abantwana kwaye utata wakho ukwenze waziva ungaphantsi?
- Ngelixa ukhulayo, ngaba ukhe uyive imvakalelo yokufumana into kumzali wakho ukuba awusenalo ilizwi lakho?
- Ngaba iimfuno zikayihlo ziza kuqala phambi kwakho nentsapho yakho? Ngaba uziva ngathi awuyonxalenye yezinto eziza kuqala kuye?
Abazali beNarcissistic kunye nomntwana osele ekhulile womzali we-narcissistic (NP / ANP)
Ukuba le yimeko eqhelekileyo emva koko ukhuliswa ngutata okanye umzali ongathandekiyo. Ngaphandle kwayo yonke imiqondiso, iziphumo zabazali abathandanayo abakhulisa abantwana kunzima kakhulu ukujongana nazo.
Ukujongana nomcimbi sisiqalo senkqubo. Kufuneka sazi ukuba kwenziwe ntoni na kwaye kunayiphi imiphumo emntwaneni. Makhe sijonge phambili.
Ootata / Abazali baNarcissistic
- Abanaxesha lokukhathalela abantwana babo-abanalo uvelwano kwaye abayikhathalelanga neemvakalelo zomntwana wabo.
- Siza kujongana nokuphathwa gadalala xa ukwiimeko ezinzima
- Ayikhathali nokuba kwenzeka ntoni xa abantwana babo bekhulile kwaye bayakwala naliphi na ingcebiso enxulumene nokusombulula iingxaki zosapho
I-ANP okanye umntwana okhulileyo katata othanda ukuthandana
- Soloko uzibek 'ityala xa kukho into engahambi kakuhle.
- Awunakuba nawo amandla okuvakalisa izimvo zabo
- Baziva bengento yanto kwaye bengenathemba
Ujongana njani notata olilisayo
Ukuba ungumntu ozaziyo ezi meko kwaye uqhelene nefuthe lokuba nomzali we-narcissist- ukwenza oku kunye nokuthatha eso sigqibo sokutshintsha sisigqibo esomeleleyo onokuze usenze.
Amathuba kukuba uvaliwe ukuze uziveze ixesha elide. Yenze ngoku. Yima kwaye wazi ukuba uyakwazi ukuthatha izigqibo ngokwakho.
Ayilotyala lakho kwaye ayisokuze ibekho. Khumbula oku kuba xa uqala ukujongana nomcimbi, umzali we-narcissist uya kuzama ukuziphindezela ngetyala. Ungayivumeli ikufumane.
Yamkela inyani yokuba uyihlo narcissist okanye umzali wakho akazukutshintsha. Endaweni yoko, zininzi iindlela anokuzisebenzisa ukwenza ukuba izinto zimsebenzele. Yima phantsi.
Unokuba namava okuqala kodwa kuhlala kulungile ukufunda ngakumbi malunga nokuphazamiseka kubuntu. Ngale ndlela, umzali wakho ongathandekiyo akanakusebenzisa amaqhinga kuwe. Ukufuna ingcebiso ukuba kunokwenzeka ikwayindlela elungileyo yokuba womelele. Ayisoze ibe luphawu lobuthathaka ukucela uncedo ngakumbi ukuba lolwakho uphuculo.
Ungaziva unomsindo kwaye kuqhelekile kodwa ukufunda malunga nokuba umzali wakho unengxaki yobuntu njani kwaye mhlawumbi ubona umbono wento eyenzekileyo, kutheni le nto waba yile ndlela kwanele ukumxolela umntu. Nangona, ukuxolela kukude nokukhetha ukuhlala kwindawo enetyhefu.
Qhubeka-ube ngumntu wakho kwaye uchume.
Kulabo bafuna ukwazi ukuba bajongana njani notata we-narcissistic - la manyathelo akukho lula. Ngapha koko, ukuhlala nayo kunokukuthintela ekubeni ukhule njengomntu wakho. Nangona, ubomi bunendlela yabo yokuvavanya ukuba unganyamezela kangakanani kwaye unomnqweno wokutshintsha kunye nenkuthazo yokuba ube ngumntu ofuna ukuba nguye kwanele ukuzama.