Umxholo
- Abasetyhini banendlela encinci yokukhetha ubudala xa kuthelekiswa namadoda
- Amadoda athambekele ngakumbi kumaqabane achume kakhulu
- Ukukhethwa kweminyaka kukhula ngokwahlukileyo kubo bobabini abesilisa nabasetyhini
Kuyinyani eqinisekisiweyo ngokwenzululwazi ukuba amadoda akhetha abafazi abancinci kunabafazi abadala ngaphandle kweminyaka yabo. Xa umsunguli we-Playboy, uHugh Hefner wazingqinga namantombazana amancinci, wayehlala egxekwa lihlabathi liphela. Ngoku, njengoko isifundo siqinisekisa ukuba singathi uHefner wayengenguye ophambeneyo emva kwayo yonke loo nto.
Amadoda amaninzi awavuli kakhulu kwaye avakala ngokucacileyo malunga neminqweno yabo yesini kunye nezinto abazikhethayo kodwa uphononongo lwakutsha nje oluqhutywa luyakuqinisekisa oko amadoda akhetha abafazi abancinci Nokuba badala kakhulu kubudala. Abafazi, kwelinye icala, bakhululeke ngakumbi kumntu osondeleyo kwiminyaka yabo okanye ngaphezulu kancinci. Batyekele ekukhetheni amaqabane ezesondo kwiminyaka yabo yamashumi amabini ngaphandle kweminyaka yabo.
Olunye uphononongo olupapashiweyo luthetha ngendlela ubudala obukhethwa ngayo ngamadoda bonyuka kwaye busanda njengoko bekhula. Oku kuthetha ukuba kuninzi kwiindlela zokutsala zamadoda ngaphandle kweminyaka. Amadoda ngokuqinisekileyo anepenchant, kunye nendawo ethambileyo yabasetyhini abanamashumi amabini kwaye amadoda akhetha abafazi abancinci phantsi kwazo zonke iimeko. Uphando oluqhutyelwe kule meko lubonise iziphumo ezibonisa ukuba abona bantu badala banomtsalane emadodeni buhlala bunjalo nokuba badala kangakanani. Oku kuthetha ukuba indoda eneminyaka engama-40 isafuna ukungena kubudlelwane nabasetyhini abakwiminyaka engamashumi amabini aneminyaka engama-22-23. Olu khetho aluyi kutshintsha nokuba indoda ingama-50 okanye ama-60.
Abasetyhini banendlela encinci yokukhetha ubudala xa kuthelekiswa namadoda
Inqaku lapapashwa kwiphephancwadi le-PsyArXiv apho iingcali zengqondo ezahlukeneyo kwiYunivesithi i-Abo Akademi eFinland zaqinisekisa ukuba abasetyhini banendlela encinci yokukhetha ubudala xa kuthelekiswa namadoda. Bakhetha amaqabane amalunga nobudala babo okanye unyaka okanye emibini ubudala hayi loo nto. Ukuba sithetha ngokuba kutheni lo mahluko mkhulu kwisini, singasebenzisa ithiyori yokuzivelela ukuze siyicacise njengombhali uJan Antfolk.
Amadoda athambekele ngakumbi kumaqabane achume kakhulu
U-Antfolk uchaza olu khetho esebenzisa umbono wokhetho lwendalo, oko kuthetha ukuba amadoda athambekele ngakumbi kumaqabane achume kakhulu. Uye wachaza ngelithi, abasetyhini kwiimeko ezininzi bakhetha ngakumbi ngokubhekisele kumaqabane abo abelana nawo ngesondo, uninzi lwamadoda alunakufumana amaqabane abo de babe bacacile kwaye babandakanyiwe ngokubhekisele kukhetho lwabo lwezesondo kunye nenkuthazo. U-Antfolk waphinda wachaza wathi yena neqela lakhe bakwazile ukugqiba ngesampulu yabantu abadala abangama-2600 ukuba amadoda anomdla kubafazi abancinci, nangona kunjalo; Umsebenzi wabo wesondo uhambelana nobudala babo. Oku kuthetha ukuba ukungqinelana ngokwesini kwamadoda amadala nabafazi abancinci akonelisi.
Ukukhethwa kweminyaka kukhula ngokwahlukileyo kubo bobabini abesilisa nabasetyhini
Umtsalane ngokwesondo kunye nokukhetha ubudala kukhula ngokwahlukileyo kubo bobabini abesilisa. Xa umntu obhinqileyo eqala ukuba mdala, bathambekele ekubekeni izikhokelo zeminyaka engqingqwa ngokwamadoda. Bafuna ukunqanda ukwenza izigqibo ngokungxama, ke utyekelo lwabo njengoko kuchaziwe apha ngasentla lubhekise emadodeni asondele kwiminyaka yabo. Baqala ukujonga ubomi ngokwembono ebonakalayo. Ngokuchasene noko, amadoda anikela ingqalelo encinci kuzo zonke iziphumo, ke bayaqhubeka nokuwela kunye nokutsaleleka kubo bobabini abadala nakwabasetyhini abancinci ngokokulunga kwabo. Iminqweno yesondo ikwadlala indima enkulu koku kwaye inkanuko yesini yabasetyhini ithanda ukunciphisa njengoko bekhula besaluphala. Ngelixa amadoda mhlawumbi ekonyusa uluhlu lweminyaka yabo njengendlela yokunyusa nokwandisa ithuba lokuthandana kwabo ngokwesondo.
Abasetyhini abaneminyaka yobudala engama-34 banokukhetha okanye baqwalasele amadoda aneminyaka yobudala engama-27 kunye nobudala obukhulu be-46 njengamaqabane abo obomi. Kwelinye icala, amadoda akwiminyaka yobudala engama-37 angathathela ingqalelo amaqabane aneminyaka yobudala ephakathi kwama-21 nama-49, kodwa enyanisweni, la madoda ayenamaqabane kuluhlu lwama-31 nama-36. Kuya kufuneka sikhumbule ukuba isifundo sijolise kuphela Inkalo yesondo ngaloo ndlela umdla wothando wabantu awuzange uthathelwe ingqalelo.