Umxholo
- Indlela oziphethe ngayo ngoku ibonisa imeko apho ukhulele khona
- Izizathu eziqhelekileyo zokwahlukana
- Iimvakalelo
- Okomzimba
- Isini siphuhliswa njani
- Utata umfanekiso
- Ingcebiso
- Izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka
- Izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka kwiimvakalelo
Iimpawu zokuziphatha esakuzuz 'ilifa kunempembelelo enkulu kulwalamano lwethu. Ayinamsebenzi into oyenzayo ukwenza ulwalamano lwakho lusebenze. Eli nqaku liza kukunceda uqonde umahluko phakathi kokuziphatha komzimba kunye neemvakalelo kunye nefuthe lazo kubudlelwane bethu.
Indlela oziphethe ngayo ngoku ibonisa imeko apho ukhulele khona
Kwasekuqaleni kweminyaka yama-70s uGqirha John Kappas waqala ukuphuhlisa ithiyori yakhe yezokwabelana ngesondo ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni kuba ekuqaleni yayimodareyitha enye indlela yokuziphatha eyamkelweyo njengesiqhelo ngabacebisi bosapho. Ithiyori yeemvakalelo kunye nePhysical ithi isimilo somntu sangoku sibonisa imeko akhulele kuyo.
Abongi bethu bokuqala kunye nabesibini (ngesiqhelo, umama notata) basinika imodeli yokuziphatha esifunda kuyo. Kuya kusinceda kakhulu ukuba samkele zombini iindlela zokuziphatha ezichanekileyo ukuze senze ubudlelwane busebenze. Funda ukuba nesini sakho, zama ukungasitshintshi. Khumbula, isini kukuziphatha kunye nokuziphatha kunokuguqulwa.
Ukubuza umxhasi wesini ngokweemvakalelo, "Kutheni ungafuni ukwabelana ngesondo neqabane lakho?" Imvakalelo iya kuthi ibonise ukuba indlela aziphethe ngayo "ayilunganga" kwaye uzabalaze ngalo mbandela okanye ayeke ukuqhubeka nokufumana iingcebiso ukunqanda ukujongana nomcimbi. IiPhysicals kunokwenzeka ukuba zifune ukucebisa ngobuhlobo kwaye zihlala kufuneka zirhuqe amaqabane azo ngokweemvakalelo kwiofisi yonyango.
Izizathu eziqhelekileyo zokwahlukana
Izizathu ezintathu eziqhelekileyo zokuqhekeka kobudlelwane:
- Unxibelelwano
- Ngesondo
- Imali
Iimvakalelo
Kuba iimvakalelo azikuthandi ukungqubana okungqwabalala, bahlala betyhala ngokwasemzimbeni ukuze bayiphelise. Iimvakalelo ziya kuziva zikhululekile xa sele kugqityiwe. Ibavumela ukuba bazive bekhululekile ukuba bangobani ngaphandle kwempembelelo yeqabane lomzimba. Baya kuhamba ngamanqanaba okuphulukana ngokukhawuleza. Baya kulungelelanisa utshintsho ngokukhululeka okukhulu kwaye bayeke izinto ezingcono kunokwenyama.
Bahlala betshintsha ubudlelwane ngaphambi kokuba buphele. Oku kuvumela ukuba babe nesibindi kunye nenkuthazo yokuphuma kubudlelwane. Ukuba abanabo ubudlelwane obutsha obulindileyo, abanakushiya obudala. Ukuba ngesiquphe abangatshatanga, baya kuhlala phantsi kwaye vumela okwenyama kuze kubo. Baza kuzenza bafumaneke kwimizimba elandelayo. Iimvakalelo ziyala ukuzibeka kwindawo yokwaliwa. Yeyiphi ipesenti ephezulu yemvakalelo yokucinga eya kwenzeka, ayizukubakho.
Okomzimba
Kunqabile kakhulu ukuba umzimba uzive ukhululekile ukuphelisa ubudlelwane. Umzimba usebenza kwisiseko sokuchukumisa kunye nothando kwaye xa ubudlelwane buphelile; Imvakalelo yokuziva ukwaliwa emizimbeni yabo kunokuba kubenzima kwaye bangeva intlungu ngokwasemzimbeni. Baya kucinga ukuba kukho into "engalunganga" kubo, ngokungathi basilele eluthandweni. Banokuqhubeka nokubambelela kubudlelwane nangona iphelile kwaye babone ithemba naphina apho bangalifumana khona. Banokuhlala kwinqanaba lokukhanyela iminyaka. Uloyiko lokwaliwa luyanda.
Banokuhlala bengatshatanga okwethutyana bade bazive bekhuselekile ukuthandana kwakhona. Baza kukhetha kulwalamano lwabo olulandelayo. Ukuba abakuyekanga ukwaliwa okwedlule, banokutsala omnye umzimba kuba ukhuselekile. Umntu wasetyhini ngokwasemzimbeni unokutsala indoda etshatileyo, nayo, kuba ikhuselekile. IiFiziks zithande ukuphinda iipateni zokwaliwa. Njengabagqirha, kufuneka siyichaze le nto kubathengi. Ukufundisa kuya kunceda ukubakhuthaza ukuba batshintshe iphethini. Ngaba baye basondela kulo becinga ukuba "Ndingayifumana njani le nto ndiyifunayo ngokukhuthaza omnye umntu ukuba andinike yona?"
Isini siphuhliswa njani
Ukuveliswa kolwazi; indlela esiziphatha ngayo kwaye sikuvakalise oko sikufundileyo. Sifumana isini sethu kumgcini wesibini, ngokubanzi ngoyise. Ayisiyiyo malunga nokuba ebeyintoni kanye kanye utata, kodwa ke, indlela umntwana amqonda ngayo utata, ngako oko, indlela utata ahambelana ngayo nomntwana nayo ibalulekile. Umgcini wesibini akasoloko engoyena tata. Nawuphi na umntu obalulekileyo kubomi bomgcini obalulekileyo unokuba ngumlondolozi wesibini womntwana. Ukuba umnakekeli wesibini ukwasemzimbeni, umntwana uyimodeli yesini ngokwasemzimbeni (ukusondela, uthando lomzimba, njl.
Ukuba umnakekeli wesibini unemvakalelo, umntwana uyimodeli yesini ngokweemvakalelo (ukusondelelana okuncinci, ukuthanda okukhoyo, njl.
Ukwabelana ngesondo komntwana kuhlala kumiselwe phakathi kweminyaka elishumi elinesithathu ukuya kwishumi elinesihlanu xa umntwana eqala ukuvukela. Khumbula; Yindlela umntwana aqonda ngayo ukuba ngumlondolozi wesibini omisela isini somntwana.
Utata umfanekiso
Ukuba inani likatata lingumzimba, okwangoku engekho, umntwana uya kuba ngokwesondo ngokweemvakalelo. Ukuba utata ngokwasemzimbeni akanakho ukunika uthando emntwaneni (okt intombi), loo mntwana uya kuba neemvakalelo. Ukuba umntu ongutata unemvakalelo kodwa uthatha isigqibo sokuchitha ixesha elininzi nomntwana, umntwana lowo uya kuba ngumzimba. Ukuba isini ngokwasemzimbeni sele simisiwe, ukwaliwa kuya kwandisa imeko yokoqobo. Ukuba isini asenzelwanga, ukwaliwa kuya kudala isini ngokweemvakalelo.
Ingcebiso
Ukufakwa kolwazi; indlela esifunda ngayo. Ukufumana iingcebiso zethu kumgcini okongameleyo, kudla ngokuba ngumama.
Izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka
Isakhiwo: Ufuna ukwamkelwa ngokusondela kwabanye.
- Ulwalamano
- Abantwana
- Abahlobo / Ukuzonwabisa
- Umsebenzi
Uloyiko oluphambili: Ukwala
Izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka kwiimvakalelo
Isakhiwo: Ufuna ukwamkelwa ngokufezekisa okanye ukufezekisa.
- Umsebenzi
- Izinto endizithandayo
- Ubudlelwane / uSapho
- Ubuhlobo (inkosikazi)
Uloyiko oluphambili: Ukuphulukana nolawulo
Ukusonga phezulu
Kubalulekile ukuba wazi iipateni ezimbini zokuziphatha ezingafaniyo zokuziphatha kunye nendlela ezibuchaphazela ngayo ubudlelwane babo. Inceda izibini ukuba zichonge ukuba zeziphi kwezi zimbini - ezemvakalelo okanye ezomzimba. Oku kuqonda kunokuxhotyiswa ukuseka isiseko esomeleleyo sobudlelwane kunye nomanyano olonwabisayo, oluhlala ixesha elide.