Umxholo
- Uloyiko lokutshata ne-narcissist
- 1. Ukungazi
- 2. Ithemba
- 3. Usapho olupheleleyo
- 4. Ukungazithembi
- Iziphumo zokutshata narcissist
- 1. Ubulolo
- 2. Ubuhlobo bobuxoki
- 3. Ukunciphisa ukuzithemba
- 4. "Yinto yonke eyimpazamo yam"
- 5. Uloyiko
- Ixesha lokuthetha-Kwanele ngokwaneleyo
Ukutshata nomntu esimthandayo kufanele ukuba kuthethe ukonwaba nokuthuthuzeleka kodwa xa yonke into ijika ibe bubuxoki xa umntu obucinga ukuba angakulethela ulonwabo uye abonakale eyi narcissist- uyathetha okanye uyathula? Emva kweentsuku okanye iiveki ezimbalwa utshatile kwi-narcissist, uyakubona ukuba iqabane eligqibeleleyo liyajika libe sisilo ngaphakathi, ngoku akukho kubuya mva, kuya kufuneka ujongane neziphumo zokutshata nomntu nge-NPD.
Uloyiko lokutshata ne-narcissist
Uninzi lwexesha, iqabane le-NPD alizukubonisa imibala yabo yokwenyani de babe sele betshatile kwaye bafumene ukuvunywa ngumntu wonke okujikeleze nosapho lwakho.
Okulusizi kukuba, zininzi kakhulu iimeko ezinje kodwa uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo bahlala bethe cwaka kwaye banyamezele nje ubomi kunye narcissist. Nokuba unayo yonke imiphumo yokutshata ne-narcissist, abanye abatshatileyo basakhetha ukuhlala emtshatweni-ezi zezinye zezizathu eziphambili zokuba kutheni.
1. Ukungazi
Ukungazi kakuhle i-NPD kuya kubangela uloyiko kunye nokungaqiniseki. Ngaphandle kolwazi okanye ukuqonda malunga nokuphazamiseka kobuntu, umntu ngekhe abe nombono wento abajongana nayo.
2. Ithemba
Esinye sezizathu zixhaphakileyo kukubamba ngethemba lokuba amaqabane abo aya kutshintsha. Uninzi lwexesha, abatshati be-NPD baya kuhlala bethembisa ukuba bazokuphuma kuyo nayiphi na imeko enzima kubo.
Banokukhohlisa, baxoke, kwaye babonise utshintsho ukuba kunyanzelekile, ukuze bakholelwe-kuphela ukubuyela kubuntu babo bobuchwephesha xa yonke into ilungile kwakhona.
3. Usapho olupheleleyo
Okulusizi kukuba, xa ucinga ngokuqhawula umtshato oko kuya kuthetha ukuba uya kuba nosapho oluqhekekileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha, kunzima kakhulu ukuyeka ithuba lokuba nosapho olupheleleyo nokuba utshatile kwi-narcissist.
4. Ukungazithembi
Ixesha elingaphezulu, ngokukhohlisa iqabane elithandanayo- elinye iqabane linokuziva lingafaneleki kwaye linokubonisa ukungazithembi ngelixa likholelwa kwinto ethethwa liqabane elithandanayo. Awusakholelwa kubuchule bakho nakubuntu bakho ngokubanzi. Ekugqibeleni, uya kuphulukana nesidima sakho kwaye uvalelwe kulwalamano oluhlukumezayo.
Iziphumo zokutshata narcissist
Ngelixa siqonda ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukutshata nomntu ozibuza into engeyiyo, asibubonanga ngokwenene ubunzulu besiphumo saso nokuba sonakalisa kangakanani ukuba sesinye isiqingatha se-narcissist. Nazi ezinye zeempembelelo eziphambili zokutshata nomntu ophethwe yi-NPD.
1. Ubulolo
Isizungu somtshato esihambe gwenxa sesinye sezona ziphumo zibuhlungu zokutshata nomntu ongathandani naye. Ungonwaba njani xa umntu omnye ekufanele ukuba akuxhase agqibe ngokulawula kungekuphela nje ubomi bakho kodwa kwanendlela abanye abantu abakubona ngayo kunye nomtshato wakho?
Ukutshata ne-narcissist kuthetha ukuba sisibini "esigqibeleleyo" ngaphandle kodwa ngokuchaseneyo ngqo xa kungekho mntu.
Umntu ocinga ngesiqu sakhe yedwa akanakuze anike uthando, imbeko nolonwabo kwabanye nakwabanye abantwana.
2. Ubuhlobo bobuxoki
Olunye lweempawu eziqhelekileyo zokutshata nomntu one-NPD kukuba uya kuhlala kubudlelwane bobuxoki. Xa uphuma nabanye abantu, banokuba nomona ngendlela onenkathalo ngayo, osisilumko, kwaye onwabe ngayo usapho lwakho- ungazi ukuba lwahluke njani kwinyani.
Konke oku kukwenza umboniso, ukwazisa umhlaba ukuba bukhulu kangakanani ubomi bakho, umangalisa kangakanani iqabane lakho elingumlingisi kwaye ube liziko lokutsala nokuba yinyani na okanye hayi.
3. Ukunciphisa ukuzithemba
Elinye iqhinga eliza kwenziwa ngunokresa ukulawula amaqabane abo kukubonisa ukuba abanokwazi kangakanani amaqabane abo. Ukugxeka onke amashwa, zonke iimpazamo kunye nayo yonke imeko engabancediyo, ixesha elongezelelekileyo liyangena kwaye lenze elinye iqabane lizive lingenaxabiso.
Iminyaka yolu hlobo lokuphathwa gadalala kwengqondo inokubamba elinye iqabane lokuzithemba nokuzithemba ukuya kwinqanaba lokuba umsebenzi olula woku-odola kukutya okukhawulezayo kunokubonakala ngathi ngumsebenzi osongela imithambo-luvo esoyika ukuba unokwenza enye impazamo.
4. "Yinto yonke eyimpazamo yam"
Kutheni ngempazamo ukupheka ukutya malunga nokulibala ukuhlawula amatyala akho ngexesha okanye kwanaxa iqabane lakho elikhohlakeleyo liphulukana nomsebenzi- lityala lakho lonke? Jonga ukuba umntu otshatileyo ophethwe yi-NPD unokujika yonke imeko ibe lithuba lokukusola nokukuhlazisa? Ayidinisi le?
Ixesha elingaphezulu, oku kuyakubangela imeko yengqondo apho uziva ngathi yonke into engahambi kakuhle sisiphoso sakho sonke.
5. Uloyiko
Xa uzama ukuthetha neqabane lakho kodwa yonke into ijika ibe yingxabano xa uzama ukulalanisa kodwa ugqibela ngokuba ngumntu ombi okanye xa uzama ukuba ufuna ukuqhawula umtshato kwaye yonke into ijika ibe nobundlobongela kunye nokuhlukumeza.
Ngamanye amaxesha oku kujika nje kukoyikeka de ube nexhala xa umntu otshate naye efika ekhaya okanye ezama ukukuthethisa. Uloyiko olungekho mthethweni lokuhlala nomntu oxhaphaza yonke into libali langoku elothusayo.
Ixesha lokuthetha-Kwanele ngokwaneleyo
Kuyaqondakala ukuba usoyika ukwenza imilo ngakumbi xa kukho abantwana kodwa ukuba awukwenzi ngoku, nini? Kwanele kwaye kufuneka wenze ukuma kwaye uqale ukuzihlalela wena nabantwana bakho. Funa uncedo kubantu obathembileyo, uqokelele ubungqina kwaye uqine. Yiba nesibindi sokujongana nenyaniso kwaye wenze ukuma.
Ngokwamkela ukuba utshatile kwi-narcissist, uyayamkela into yokuba lo mntu unesiphazamiso kubuntu kwaye kwikamva elingcono, unokuzama ukubanceda kodwa ukuba akunakwenzeka kuya kufuneka uphume uqhubeke. Kuya kuba nzima ukubuyela kolu lwalamano kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ayinakwenzeka. Zininzi iindlela zokujongana nomntu one-NPD kunye namaqela amaninzi enkxaso okanye i-Therapist ekulungele ukukunceda kwaye ikuncede ukuba ume kwaye uqhubeke.