Umxholo
- 1. Yiba nokholo
- 2. Yiqonde ingxaki
- 3. Sebenza ngokwakho
- 4. Thetha omnye komnye
- 5. Linga ebhedini
- 6. Funani ixesha nobabini
- 7. Ukuzilolonga
- 8. Musa ukutyhola omnye
- 9. Zama ukucetyiswa
Ngaba umtshato wakho utshintshile ngokuhamba kwexesha? Ngaba uziva ngathi ufuna ukubuyisela umtshato wakho? Ngaba uziva ulahliwe kwaye ulahlekile?
Ewe, le meko yenzeka kubantu abaninzi, kodwa ayingabo bonke abazama ukwenza into ngayo. Abantu badla ukuyityeshela ngokufanelekileyo. Bakhetha ukwahlukana nabalingane babo kunokuba bajonge iindlela zokubuyiselwa komtshato.
Kuqhelekile ukuba umtshato uphulukane ne-zing phezu kwexesha. Umtshato, njengobomi, unamahla ndinyuka, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba sisiphelo sendlela.
Ke, ungawuvuselela njani umtshato wakho?
Ukuba ubusazibuza ukuba uza kuwubuyisela njani umtshato, sukujonga phambili. Kweli nqaku unikwe amanye amanyathelo okuphinda uphinde wonwabe kwaye uchulumancile emtshatweni wakho obukade unawo.
Funda kunye neengcebiso ezibalulekileyo malunga nokubuyiselwa komtshato.
1. Yiba nokholo
UThixo uyawubuyisa umtshato ukuba unokholo kuye. Ukuba unale nkolelo, ungathatha uncedo lomthandazo wokubuyiselwa komtshato okanye umthandazo womtshato onengxaki, okanye uthethe 'nokubuyisela iinkonzo zomtshato' ezincedisa ekubuyiseni imitshato.
Kodwa, ukuba awungomKristu okanye awukholelwa kuThixo, ubuncinci unokukhetha ukuba nokholo kwaye ukholwe kwisiphumo esihle sayo nayiphi na imeko.
Konke okufuneka ukwenze kukubeka imizamo ethembekileyo kwinkqubo yokubuyisela ubudlelwane okanye ukubuyisela umtshato wakho.
Ke, musa ukuwuncama umtshato wakho kwaye usebenze kuwo ngokwenza umgudu onyanisekileyo. Eli linyathelo lokuqala ekufuneka ulithathile kwicala lokubuyiselwa komtshato.
2. Yiqonde ingxaki
Yonke ingxaki inesisombululo, kodwa ukusombulula ingxaki, kufuneka kuqala uyifumane. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba yintoni ebangela ingxaki emtshatweni wakho.
Ungathandabuzi ukuthatha uncedo kubahlobo bakho abasondeleyo okanye kusapho ukukunceda kwimicimbi yakho okanye ukukukhokela xa kunokwenzeka ukuba ungazifumani ngokwakho ingxaki yengcambu.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ungenelelo lomntu wesithathu lunokukunceda ufumane umbono ongakhethi cala kwimicimbi yakho ehleliyo.
Unokuthathela ingqalelo ukuthatha uncedo lomcebisi oqeqeshiweyo okanye ugqirha oza kukunceda ufumane iingxaki zakho kunye nokuzisusa kumbindi.
3. Sebenza ngokwakho
Ayilunganga into yokuba liqabane lakho kuphela elingalunganga, okanye iqabane lakho kufuneka ibe lilo eliza kuqalisa inkqubo yokubuyiselwa komtshato.
Kunokubakho iimeko zoxhatshazo ngokweemvakalelo okanye ngokwasemzimbeni, apho iqabane lakho linokuba netyala ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa, kuninzi lwamanye amatyala, umtshato awunakuqhawulwa kuba elinye lamaqabane liwenza mandundu. Nobabini kufuneka ukuba nenza into engalunganga.
Amaxesha amaninzi, umlo olula uguqulwa ube ngumdlalo ongathandekiyo wezenzo kunye nokuphendula.
Kubalulekile ukuba ume endaweni ethile, uhlalutye, kwaye usebenze ngokwakho ngaphambi kokuba ulindele into kwiqabane lakho. Ke, zama ukubona into oyenzayo engalunganga kwaye uzame ukuyilungisa ukuze wakhe umtshato kwakhona.
4. Thetha omnye komnye
Akunakwenzeka ukuba uyazi into engathandwa liqabane lakho kuwe, okanye udlulise iqabane lakho ongakuthandiyo ngabo ukuba awuthethi.
Incoko iyodwa sisisombululo, kwaye ukuba ukuthetha kuphucukile, kungakhokelela kwizisombululo.
Xa nithetha omnye komnye, iingxaki zibekwa ekuhleni kwaye zilungele ukusonjululwa. Ukuba unoloyiko ekuqaleni, inokuba ngumbono olungileyo ukubandakanya umlamli ukuba akuncede uqale ngencoko.
Ukwazi ngakumbi malunga nendlela yokufumana ulonwabo emtshatweni wakho, bukela le vidiyo ilandelayo.
5. Linga ebhedini
Omnye wababulali abaqhelekileyo bomtshato ophilileyo uyadika isini.
Ukunqongophala komnqweno wokusondelelana ngokwasemzimbeni kunokuba ngenxa yabantwana okanye umthwalo womsebenzi okanye ubukho bamanye amalungu osapho endlwini. Nokuba siyintoni na isizathu, izibini ziyaphulukana nothando lwazo ngexesha, kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo leyo.
Kungenxa yoko le nto kufuneka usebenze kwimikhwa yakho yokwabelana ngesondo ukwenza ixesha lokulala libe mnandi. Ukulinga kuhlala kungumbono olungileyo.
Zama ukudlala indima, iindawo ezahlukileyo kunesiqhelo, okanye ufumanise ukuba uthanda ntoni iqabane lakho kwaye ubothuse.
6. Funani ixesha nobabini
Ukuba unabantwana, kunzima ukuzenzela ixesha. Ukusebenza rhoqo kunye nokunyamekela abantwana kubulala uvuyo lobomi. Ukuba awubonwabeli ubomi, awungekhe wonwabe emtshatweni.
Ke, nangona kunjalo, niyasebenza ngenxa yabantwana okanye iofisi okanye eminye imiba yosapho, qiniseka ukuba ufumana ixesha lenu nobabini.
Qasha umntu ogcina umntwana okanye ufumane isisombululo esahlukileyo kodwa nizenzele ixesha njengesibini. Yiyani epatini, ndwendwela i-motel, okanye nantoni na ekwenza wonwabe njengesibini.
Kwaye, ukuba aninako ukufumana ixesha lokuya kwimihla yothando, ubuncinci chitha ixesha elincinci kude, nje phambi komnye nomnye ngokuhambahamba okanye ngokupheka isidlo sangokuhlwa kunye, okanye ngokwenza nantoni na eniyithandayo nobabini .
7. Ukuzilolonga
Emva kwexesha elithile emtshatweni, amaqabane athambile ukuba alibale ngendlela abajongeka ngayo. Kuqhelekile, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo, kuninzi kakhulu ukuthanda kunokuba kujongeka nje.
Kodwa, ngokusebenza ngaphandle, awugcini nje ukugcina iqabane lakho linomdla kuwe; Ukuzilolonga kukwanceda ukugcina imeko yakho yeemvakalelo kunye nokuba sempilweni komzimba.
Ke, ukusebenza ngaphandle kuyinto enceda ukubuyisela imitshato kunye nempilo yakho. Ukuphumelela!
8. Musa ukutyhola omnye
Njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, kuthatha ezimbini ukuya kwi-tango, ke sukubeka ityala kuphela kwiqabane lakho kwiingxaki. Akukho nto iya kusonjululwa ngokusola, kodwa ukuqonda umba kunye nokusebenza ukulungisa.
Ukubeka ityala kuyenza mandundu imeko, kumenze omnye umntu abe novalo, kwaye kongeza iingxaki.
Ngapha koko, ukugxeka kuyakonzakalisa ngakumbi kunomnye umntu ngokukufaka nzulu kwiingcinga ezingalunganga ezonakalisa ulonwabo lwakho.
Ke, ukuba uza kubuyisela umtshato, thintela umdlalo obekek 'ityala!
9. Zama ukucetyiswa
Okokugqibela kodwa kungaphelelanga apho, zama ukucebisa. Unyango lwesibini ngoku luneentlobo zonke zokhetho ezifanelekileyo kwiimeko ezinje. Iingcali zonyango ziyayazi indlela yokwenza imitshato eqhekekileyo isebenze kwakhona ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zesayensi.
Kwakhona iiseshoni zokucebisa kwi-Intanethi ziyafumaneka ngabaphandi abanelayisensi. Unokukhetha iiseshoni zonyango ngolu hlobo kwikhaya lakho kwaye uqalise ngenkqubo yokubuyiselwa komtshato.