Umxholo
- Imikhwa emibi ichaphazela ukukhula kwengqondo yomntwana
- Iindlela zokwenza umntwana wakho abe nethemba kunye nethemba
- 1. Yamkela utshintsho ngokuqinisekileyo
- 2. Lwamkele utshintsho ngokuzithemba
“Awunakho ukutshintsha iimeko, amaxesha onyaka, okanye umoya, kodwa ungazitshintsha. Nantso into onayo ”-UJim Rohn.
Umzekelo -
Ehlathini, isilwanyana esikhulu sasibotshelelwe ngentambo encinci emlenzeni wakhe wangaphambili. Inkwenkwana yamangaliswa kukuba kutheni indlovu ingayophulanga intambo kwaye yazikhulula.
Umnqweno wakhe waphendulwa ngokuthobekileyo ngumqeqeshi wendlovu owacacisa inkwenkwe ukuba xa iindlovu zisebancinci zazisebenzisa intambo efanayo ukuzibopha, kwaye ngelo xesha, zanele ukuzibamba ngaphandle kweketane.
Ngoku emva kweminyaka emininzi basakholelwa ukuba intambo yomelele ngokwaneleyo ukuba inokubabamba kwaye zange baphinde bazame ukuyaphula.
Enye yeengcebiso ezibalulekileyo zobuzali apha kukufundisa umntwana wakho. Njengendlovu ebotshelelwe ngentambo encinci, sikwabanjelwe kwiinkolelo zethu esele sihleli kunye nokucinga okungasoloko kuyinyani kwaye kunokutshintsha ixesha elithile.
Imikhwa emibi ichaphazela ukukhula kwengqondo yomntwana
Imikhwa emibi iya kuba negalelo ekuchaphazeleni ukukhula kwabo ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasengqondweni.
Imikhwa emibi enjalo ibandakanya-
- Ukukhetha,
- Ukuncancisa ubhontsi,
- Ukugaya amazinyo,
- Ukukhotha imilebe,
- Intloko,
- Ukujija iinwele / ukutsala
- Ukutya ukutya okungenamsoco,
- Ukubukela umabonwakude kakhulu, okanye
- Ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kwiscreen kwiikhompyuter, kwiilaptops, ukudlala imidlalo yevidiyo,
- Ukuxoka,
- Sebenzisa intetho etshabhisayo, njl.
Njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, le imikhwa idala impembelelo ebonakalayo kuphuhliso lwabo lomzimba kunye nolwengqondo.
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana bethu bakhululekile kubomi babo kangangokuba nayiphi na indlela yolungelelwaniso oluncinci kwinkqubo yabo yemihla ngemihla ibenza ukuba 'bangonwabi'. Bayayithanda indlela izinto eziyiyo, nokuba iyacaphukisa.
Ngethamsanqa, xa umncinci, utshintsho kulula ukwamkela, ulungiselele kwaye ujongane nalo. Ukufundisa abantwana indlela yokuziqhelanisa neemeko akukho lula. Kodwa zikho iindlela zokubanceda ukuba bamkele utshintsho ngokuqinisekileyo-
- Benze bazi malunga nesiphumo.
- Mababe bajongane nokusilela kwabo, ukwaliwa, uloyiko, njl njl.
- Sukuba nexhala lokuba abanye bazothini. Ingxaki yabo, hayi eyakho.
- Baqeqeshe ngendlela yokuhlalutya imeko eguqukayo kunye nokufumana isisombululo esifanelekileyo.
- Libala elidlulileyo kwaye ujonge kwikamva.
Utshintsho kuphela kokungafaniyo rhoqo kubomi bethu.
Ke kufuneka kwaye sibancede ukuba balwamkele utshintsho njengoko luyinkqubo yokufunda eqhubekayo, eqhubekayo nephindaphindayo.
Iindlela zokwenza umntwana wakho abe nethemba kunye nethemba
Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa eziqinisekisiweyo esinokuzifundisa abantwana bethu ukuba balwamkele utshintsho ngokwenzuzo-
1. Yamkela utshintsho ngokuqinisekileyo
Ukwamkela utshintsho kuthetha ukuba ungumfundi olungileyo ofuna ukukhula, zama izinto ezintsha, ufune ulwazi oluthe kratya kwaye uyeke okubi kulunge. Lwamkele utshintsho kwaye ufunde ukwamkela izinto ongenakuzitshintsha okanye uzame ukutshintsha izinto ongenakuzamkela.
2. Lwamkele utshintsho ngokuzithemba
Ngokubambisana nokubafundisa ukwamkela "utshintsho", kubalulekile ngokufanayo ukubaqeqesha ukuba bavume 'imiceli mngeni' ngokuzithemba-
"Eyona nto ibalulekileyo abazali abanokuyifundisa abantwana babo yindlela yokuphila ngaphandle kwabo" - UFrank A. Clark.
Umzekelo 1 -
Ndiqinisekile ukuba sonke kufuneka ukuba seva malunga nebali le "cocoon kunye nebhabhathane". Uncedo oluncinci oluvela komnye umntu lwenze kwalula ukuba ibhabhathane liphume kwikhokho kodwa ekugqibeleni alizange likwazi ukubhabha kwaye lasweleka kungekudala.
Isifundo 1 -
Esona sifundo sinokusabelana nabantwana bethu apha kukuba iinzame eziqhubekayo ezivela kwibhabhathane lokushiya iqokobhe lazo zavumela ukuba ulwelo olugcinwe emzimbeni wabo luguqulwe lube ngamaphiko omeleleyo, amahle kwaye makhulu, esenza ukuba umzimba wabo ukhanye.
Ke ukuba (abantwana bakho) bafuna ukubhabha, qiniseka ukuba bafunda ukujongana nemiceli mngeni kunye nokuzabalaza ebomini ngokuzithemba.
Umzekelo 2 -
Kudala-dala ixhegwazana elikwidolophu encinci laphulukana newotshi yalo kwifama yalo. Wazama kakhulu ukuzifumana kodwa watsho phantsi, ekugqibeleni wagqiba kwelokuba athathe uncedo kubantwana balapha nanjengoko iwotshi yakhe yayikhethekile kuba yayiphiwe ngunyana wakhe.
Uye wanikezela ngebhaso elinomdla kumntwana oya kumfumana. Abantwana abonwabileyo bazamile kakhulu ukufumana iwotshi kodwa emva kweenzame ezininzi ezingaphumelelanga uninzi lwabo lwadinwa, lwacaphuka lwanikezela.
Inenekazi elidanileyo nalo laphulukana nalo lonke ithemba.
Bakuba bemkile bonke abantwana, wayesele eza kuvala umnyango xa intombazana encinci yacela ukumnika elinye ithuba.
Emva kwemizuzu, intombazana encinci yayifumana iwotshi. Eli nenekazi limangalisayo labulela laza lambuza ukuba uyifumene njani le wotshi? Ubuye ngobumsulwa kwakhona ukuze afumane umkhombandlela kwisandi esikhawulezayo sewotshi ekulula kakhulu ukuyimamela ethe cwaka.
Eli nenekazi alizange nje livuze lona kodwa lancoma ubuhle balo.
Isifundo 2 -
Ngamanye amaxesha nokuba uphawu oluncinci lwanele ukusombulula obona bunzima bukhulu ebomini. Kuliwonga ukukhankanya umntu endimthandayo okhuthazayo oye watsiba waya kubukhulu kwaye woyisa eyona mpazamo inkulu kunye nesithintelo ebomini.
Umzekelo 3 -
UHelen Keller, umbhali waseMelika, umgqugquzeli wezopolitiko, umhlohli kunye nomkhokeli wabaKhubazekileyo kubantu abakhubazekileyo wayesisithulu kwaye engaboni.
UHelen Adam Keller wazalwa njengomntwana osempilweni; nangona kunjalo, eneminyaka eyi-19 iinyanga, wachaphazeleka sisifo esingaziwayo, mhlawumbi i-scarlet fever okanye i-meningitis eyamshiya engeva kwaye engaboni.
Isifundo 3 -
Kumfazi obukhali kunye nokuzimisela, imiceli mngeni ziintsikelelo ezifihlakeleyo. Waba ngumntu wokuqala ongevayo nongaboniyo ukufumana isidanga kwiBachelor yoBugcisa eRadcliffe.
Wayengu-co-founder we-ACLU (i-American Civil liberties Union), wakhankasela i-Women's Suffrage, amalungelo abasebenzi, i-socialism, i-antimilitarism kunye nezinye izizathu. Ngexesha lokuphila kwakhe, wayefumana amabhaso amaninzi kunye nempumelelo.
Kuyakhuthaza ngokwenene! Abaphumeleleyo njengaye kunye nohambo lobomi obukhuthazayo banceda umntwana wethu ukuba oyise imiqobo, asombulule iimbandezelo kwaye afumane uloyiso.
Esinye sezicatshulwa zakhe ezilungileyo, "Xa omnye umnyango wolonwabo uvaleka, omnye uvula, kodwa amaxesha amaninzi sijonga ixesha elide kumnyango ovaliweyo kangangokuba asiyiboni le sivulelwe yona".