Umxholo
- 1. Ulwaluko - Ukuqalisa
- 2. Uvavanyo - Ukwazi enye
- 3. Ukomeleza - Ukukhulisa iimvakalelo
- 4. Umdibaniso -Ukuqala kwento engaphezulu
- 5. Ukudibanisa - Ukomeleza ubudlelwane
- Yise kude
Sijikelezwe bubudlelwane obuninzi kwasekuqaleni kobomi bethu, akunjalo? Oku kubonisa ngokucacileyo ukuba ubudlelwane yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yobomi bethu. Nokuba ziyimfuneko ngokweemvakalelo okanye zezomzimba, sinolwalamano oluninzi losapho kunye nolungelolusapho ukuzizalisekisa.
Ubudlelwane bethu bebhayoloji buyintsikelelo kuba akukho mfuneko yokuba sibuphuhlise; Nangona kunjalo, olunye ubudlelwane budinga ixesha kunye nomzamo wophuhliso.
Ubudlelwane kwezothando buhamba ngamanqanaba amaningana ophuhliso lobudlelwane ngaphambi kokuba uthando lokuqala kunye nokutsala kujike kube kukuzibophelela kunye nokudibana okungapheliyo. Ayilulo lonke ubudlelwane obungena kuwo onke amanqanaba ophuhliso lobudlelwane. La manqanaba ayonto ngaphandle kwendlela abantu abachonga ukuba bafuna ukuba nabani na ngokwenyani, ogqithisa ngaphaya kwendlela omnye umntu kwaye aziphathe ngayo.
Nazi izigaba ezi-5 zophuhliso lobudlelwane ezinikezwe nguMark Knapp.
1. Ulwaluko - Ukuqalisa
Eyokuqala kuluhlu lwamanqanaba ophuhliso lobudlelwane kukuqalisa, apho kugxilwe khona kukwenza umbono oqinisekileyo. Abantu bayazana kweli nqanaba kwaye bathetha ikakhulu ngezinto ezilungileyo malunga nabo.
Omabini la maqela azama ukuza njengabantu abahlekisayo, abaphumeleleyo, kunye nabathobekileyo ukuze baphumelele.
Ukuqalisa linyathelo elikhohlisayo kuba ithatha isigqibo sokuba ngaba abantu ababini bayahambelana ngokwaneleyo ukuphuhlisa ubudlelwane okanye hayi. Xa ukwinqanaba lokwaluka, zama ukunqanda ukuqhayisa njengoko kuya kubeka omnye umntu.
2. Uvavanyo - Ukwazi enye
Akukho mntu ufuna ukutsiba kubudlelwane kwaye ubeke emngciphekweni impilo yabo yengqondo kunye nokusebenza kweemvakalelo, akunjalo? Ukuthintela ukungxama okunjalo, kungcono wenze uvavanyo oluncinci, yile nto inqanaba lesibini lokuphuhliswa kobudlelwane limalunga noko.
Kukho okunye ukwazana ngakumbi, kwaye abantu baqala ukuhlalutya omnye komnye ngokusondeleyo.
Badibana rhoqo kwaye bathatha amanyathelo acothayo kodwa aqinisekileyo omnye komnye. Kukubonana nje emathekweni okanye ngaphezulu kwekofu kube kanye ngeveki. Oku kunika bobabini abantu ikhefu omnye komnye, kwaye baya kucinga malunga omnye nomnye ngokucacileyo. Omabini la maqela ayathanda ukuvavanya izinto ezinje ngokufana, ukusondela, kunye nokuzazi ngexesha lokulinga.
3. Ukomeleza - Ukukhulisa iimvakalelo
Ukomeleza lelinye lawona manqanaba anobuqhetseba ophuhliso lobudlelwane okoko abantu baqala ukufumana imali ngokweemvakalelo. Babelana ngeenkcukacha zabo zexesha elidlulileyo kunye nezicwangciso zekamva ezivumela omnye ukuba abone nzulu kuzo.
Eli linqanaba eliphezulu lobudlelwane, apho yonke into ibonakala intle, kwaye kukho olu lonwabo lukhulu.
Abantu bakufumanisa kunzima ukuhlala kude omnye komnye kwaye baqhubeke becinga ngendlela yokukhulisa ubudlelwane ngakumbi.
Ukuzibophelela kuqala ukukhula kwinqanaba lokuqinisa ngokunjalo. Abantu baqala ukubona amacala amnyama omnye komnye kweli nqanaba kwaye bazama ukusombulula naziphi na iimbambano ezivelayo.
Kukho umzamo osebenzayo wokucombulula iingxaki nokwenza ubudlelwane busebenze kuba konke kuyinto entsha. Abantu baqala ukubuza uhlobo lobuhlobo abaya kulo kwaye balindele ntoni kubo.
4. Umdibaniso -Ukuqala kwento engaphezulu
Umdibaniso linqanaba elihle kuba abantu baqinisekile ngobudlelwane babo kwaye banethemba lokulenza lisebenze. Baye basusa nakuphi na ukungathandabuzeki kwaye bayazi ukuba bafuna ntoni omnye komnye kwaye bazibonelela ngokwabo. Yincopho yothando nemfesane kumanqanaba okuphuhliswa kobudlelwane bezothando.
Kukho unxibelelwano olomeleleyo kweli nqanaba, kwaye abantu bajonge ukuzibophelela ngexesha lokudityaniswa.
Kuya kufuneka, nangona kunjalo, babe nolwazelelelo kwaye bathethe nzulu malunga nethemba elizayo lobudlelwane babo.
5. Ukudibanisa - Ukomeleza ubudlelwane
Ukubopha kukugqibela lelona nqanaba phakathi kwamanqanaba okuphuhliswa kobuhlobo bothando okoko abantu befumana ukuba semthethweni ubudlelwane babo kweli nqanaba. Amaqabane atshatayo kwaye athathana phambi kwabahlobo babo kunye nosapho ukuqinisekisa ukudibana okuqinileyo.
Kweli nqanaba lokukhula kobudlelwane, phantse akukho kungqubana okoko kusonjululwe kumanqanaba angaphambili, kwaye abantu bahlala bethembele kubudlelwane babo.
Ukubopha iqhina kwimeko yobudlelwane bezothando kunye nokomeleza iqhina kwelona nqanaba linzulu kwimeko yobudlelwane beplato yintsika yeli nqanaba.
Yise kude
Onke la manqanaba ophuhliso lobudlelwane ayadibana kwaye kufuneka athathwe ngokungathí sina kuba anceda ukuba ungene kubudlelwane obunentsingiselo. Abantu abathanda ukulumkisa umoya kwaye bakhawuleze ukuya kubudlelwane kufuneka bacothe kwaye babone izinto ngokufanelekileyo.
Umtsalane kunye nokusondelelana kubaluleke kakhulu ekwenzeni amanqanaba ophuhliso lobuhlobo obusulungekileyo kwaye onwabise ngakumbi. Gcina umdla unomdla kwakhona xa usakhela ubudlelwane obutsha ukuze wazi izinto ezincinci malunga nezinye ezenza ubudlelwane bomelele.