Umxholo
Ndiyakuvuyela! Uthe ewe kulowo umthanda kakhulu, kwaye ngoku uceba umtshato wamaphupha akho! Wena nomlingane wakho wexesha elizayo niya kuchitha iinyanga ezimbalwa ezizayo ukulungiselela esinye seziganeko ezibaluleke kakhulu ebomini bakho (kwaye ngethemba lokuba ngumtshato omnandi nozukileyo!). Ngelixa kulula ukubanjwa kukucwangciswa kunye nokuqeshwa, ungalibali elona candelo libalulekileyo lolona suku lubalulekileyo ebomini bakho. Ewe, iintyatyambo, ilokhwe, indawo ekuyo, ukuthanda izinto, isidlo sangokuhlwa, kunye nomculo zibalulekile. Kodwa "olona suku lubalaseleyo" ziiyure ezingamashumi amabini anesine kuphela zetheko. Umtshato wakho, kwelinye icala, ungunaphakade. Olu suku lunye luyathemba ukuba luza kuba yiyo yonke into olindele ukuba ibe yiyo, kodwa ungalahleki ekucwangcisweni kwaye ulibale ukulungisa intliziyo nengqondo yakho ukuba yintoni eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu: ukuhamba ubomi bakho bonke ecaleni kwalowo umthandayo.
Ukumdumisa ukumkanikazi
Njengomtshakazi oza kubakho, zininzi iinguqu ezitsha nezinomdla eziza kwenzeka. Ayizukuba ngumgcini nje kuphela wekhaya ngoku, kodwa uyakuba yinxalenye yeyunithi. Indima yakho "njengendlovukazi yokudanisa" iya kuba kukunceda wena neqabane lakho ukuba nitshintshe inyathelo elikhawulezileyo. Njengesibini kuya kufuneka nifunde indlela yokudanisa omnye nomnye kwi-duet yeentlobo. Kuya kufuneka ngamnye azi amanyathelo omnye kodwa abe nakho ukulungelelanisa loo manyathelo kumdaniso ogudileyo nolulwelo. Kwelinye icala, nangona kunjalo, uya kufuna ukuba ngabantu abaqhuba ii-solos zakho. Le ayisiyonto imbi. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ubudlelwane obomeleleyo nobusempilweni kubandakanya abantu ababini abazimeleyo abazimiseleyo ukuba yiyunithi enye esebenza kunye. Iya kuba ngumceli mngeni ukuyithatha, kodwa yinto enye, wakuba ufundile, kufana nokukhwela ibhayisekile. Kuya kuza nje ngokwendalo.
Nika kwaye uthathe
Umtshato ungokunika nokuthatha ngokulinganayo. Kumfazi, oku kudla ngokuthetha ukuba ukunikela kwethu kuza ngohlobo lokutya, lokuhlamba impahla, lokunikela ingqalelo, kunye nolwalamano lomzimba. Ukunikela kwethu akuphelelanga kwezi zinto, kodwa zezi zezona zifunwa rhoqo. Ukubuya, uya kunikwa ingqalelo kunye nexesha, kokubini neqabane lakho kunye nangaphandle. Amanye awona maxesha makhulu okuba ngumfazi iya kuba yileyo uhlala wedwa kwaye wonwabele wedwa kunye noxolo lobambiswano. Umtshato ophilileyo kufuneka ungabikho kokuthandabuza okanye ukuziva unetyala xa omnye okanye bobabini bekhetha ukuchitha ixesha bekude komnye. Eli xesha lokwahlukana akufuneki lidlule ixesha kunye, kodwa umntu ngamnye kufuneka azive ekhululekile ukubandakanyeka kwimicimbi engaphandle komtshato.
Iyacetyiswa - Ikhosi ekwi-Intanethi yangaphambi komtshato
Iminqweno ayinakho iinkonkxa
Kuyimpazamo enkulu ukulindela impendulo kwangoko ukuba ubuza iqabane lakho umbuzo 'onokuthi' kunokuba ubuze umbuzo 'wentando'. Umbuzo 'onokuthi' ngumbuzo onokuthi ubuze kuwo ukuba akukho nto anokuyenza. Ngokucacileyo, ukuba uyabuza, banako ukusebenza ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasengqondweni. Endaweni yokuba uyiyekele kumabona-ndenzile, cacisa isicelo sakho usebenzisa ingxelo 'yokuthanda' kunengxelo ethi 'unako'. Olu tshintsho lulula kulwimi alunakuphucula kuphela amandla akho okunxibelelana neqabane lakho, kodwa linokutshintsha nendlela ezamkelwa ngayo izicelo zakho. Endaweni yokuziva unyanzelwe okanye unyanzelekile ukuba wenze into ethile, iqabane linokuziva ngathi linikwe ukhetho ... Nokuba ayiyiyo loo nto!
Ntombazana enxunguphele
Njengomfazi, kusenokwenzeka ukuba uchithe ixesha elininzi lobomi bakho uzimele kwaye ukulungele ukuzikhathalela. Njengomfazi, ngoku uza kuba nabantu ababini okanye ngaphezulu oza kubanyamekela (kuxhomekeke ekubeni ukhetha ukuba nabantwana okanye hayi). Oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka ubengowesifazane ogqwesileyo (nangona ulunge kakhulu mhlawumbi). Endaweni yoko, oku kukunika ithuba lokudlala intombi kwintlupheko. Kwakukho ixesha kubudlelwane bakho xa wawuziva ukhukulisiwe ziinyawo zakho ngumyeni wakho. Kutheni ungavumeli loo mvakalelo iqhubeke ngokunika iqabane lakho ithuba lokuba likukhusele? Ewe, njengomfazi owomeleleyo ozimeleyo, ngokuqinisekileyo uyakwazi ukuphatha ezo zinto wedwa. Kodwa inokwenza ubudlelwane bakho bulungile ukwenza umkhwa wokuvumela iqabane lakho ukuba lidlale indima yeNkosana ehlangulayo rhoqo emva kwexesha.
Elona cebiso lililo lokuba umtshakazi acwangcise umtshato awuchithe iminyaka ephupha, ilula: jonga kwikamva kunokujolisa onke amandla akho ngosuku olunye. Umtshato wakho uhlala ixesha elifutshane, kodwa umtshato wakho uphila ixesha elide.