Umxholo
- Ngaba uyindoda yokwenene? Ngaba ulandela umthetho wokuthandana ngaphambi komtshato? Okanye ibhombu yothando?
- Ngaba lo yayingumcimbi wesiqhelo wokuthandana ngaphambi komtshato? Okanye ngaba luthando lokuqhushumisa?
- Amagama ebhombu othando
- Ke ukuthandana okuqhelekileyo kujongeka kanjani?
- Uthando lweebhombu, xa uzama ukuseta imida uya kwenza enye yezi zinto zimbini:
- Uthando lweebhombu ngabakhohlisi
- Uthando lweeBombers alukhuselekanga ngendlela emangalisayo
Ke uphume ngomhla wokuqala, kwaye njengoko ulinde umhla wakho ukuba ungene kwindawo yokutyela, ungenelela ngesixa esikhulu seentyatyambo ezibomvu ezingama-24.
Ingcamango ihamba ngokukhawuleza engqondweni yakho, ekugqibeleni wadibana nendoda yangempela. Ngubani oneklasi, isimilo kunye nokunye?
Ngaba uyindoda yokwenene? Ngaba ulandela umthetho wokuthandana ngaphambi komtshato? Okanye ibhombu yothando?
Kule minyaka ingama-28 idlulileyo, umbhali wokuqala othengisa kakhulu, umcebisi kunye nomqeqeshi wobomi uDavid Essel ebenceda abantu kwihlabathi lokuthandana baqonde umohluko phakathi kokuthandana nokuthanda ukuqhushumbisa.
Apha ngezantsi, uDavid uchaza umahluko, obaluleke kakhulu ukuba ufuna ukuqiniseka ukuba ukwilizwe lokuthandana nomntu onyanisekileyo, othembekileyo noyinyani.
“Kwiinyanga ezininzi ezidlulileyo umxhasi wam wandibiza ndonwabile. Senza iiseshoni zethu ngomnxeba njengoko wayehlala kwindawo eyahlukileyo yelizwe, kwaye ndaye ndamnceda ukuba aphumelele ubudlelwane beminyaka esi-8, obabumenze buhlungu.
Njengoko ndisenza kubo bonke abathengi bam, ndincoma emva kobudlelwane obude obunje, ukuba ungabi ngumhla weentsuku ezingama-365 zilandelelana. Njengendlela yokufumana isiseko, ugxile, ukhuphe ingqumbo kwaye wonwabe ebomini njengomntu ongatshatanga.
Ngelixa kuphela iinyanga ezisithoba zidlulile, wayekulungele ukubuyela kwilizwe lokuthandana. Kwaye wayefuna ukundixelela ngayo yonke le ndoda ingummangaliso awayesandula ukudibana nayo.
Waqhuba waya endlwini yakhe, ukuya kudibana ezitalatweni ngenxa yekofu, phantse iiyure ezi-2 zokuqhuba, ukuze achithe imizuzu eli-15 naye ephunga ikofu.
Wayechukumisekile ukuba wayekulungele ukuyenza loo nto kwasekuqaleni.
Njengoko babenekofu kwaye bencokola, wayeka izicwangciso zokumbona yonke imihla kwiintsuku ezintlanu ezizayo. Eyona nto yayiziva ingaphaya kwamandla kodwa wayenemincili yokuba nendoda eyayifuna ukuba naye kakubi.
Emva koko waqala imigca eqhelekileyo yokuthandana, “Amehlo akho mahle ngaphezu kwawo nawuphi na amehlo endakha ndawabona. Uncumo lwakho luyakhazimla. Andizange ndadibana nomntu obhinqileyo obukrelekrele ngolu hlobo.
Njengoko wayelele phezu kwezincomo, wayevuya kakhulu, ephantse ukuba ngumntu, ukuba indoda ibe nobubele kwaye ibe nobubele kwaye ngakumbi.
Kwaye xa emxelela, ukuba uzimisele ukuya kuqesha kubo bobabini isithuthuthu ukuba bakhwele ngaselunxwemeni. Kwaye ukuba angakhe abe nento engalunganga endlwini yakhe, angathanda ukungena aze ayilungise ngaphandle kwentlawulo kuba luhlobo lomsebenzi awenzayo.
Kwaye ukuba ebengaxakekanga kule veki ilandelayo wayefuna ukuseta eminye imihla kunye nezinto ezimnandi abanokuzenza kunye. Wayephethwe luvuyo.
Ngaba lo yayingumcimbi wesiqhelo wokuthandana ngaphambi komtshato? Okanye ngaba luthando lokuqhushumisa?
Kwezi veki zimbalwa zizayo, nangona bendimcebisile ukuba anciphise ixesha alibonayo le ndoda, wayenomdla wokuzimisela ukwenza nantoni na nayo yonke into awayeyicela ngomzuzu.
Ngexesha leseshoni zethu, ndamxelela ukuba alumke, nokuba wayenendlu enemigangatho emibini ukuba xa emcela ukuba abeke amanye amabali angama-40 ngaphezulu angayiqala iprojekthi yokwakha ngosuku olulandelayo.
Ndandihleka, naye, kodwa ndizama ukuzisa inqaku ekhaya: oku akuqhelekanga kuhlaziyo lwehlabathi.
Kwaye emva koko, ilizwe lakhe liphela lawa phantsi.
Xa wayeqala ukuziva ukuba woyisiwe bubukho bakhe kwaye walandela icebo lam lokumxelela ukuba angambona kwiintsuku ezimbalwa enyangeni, waqala wamngxolisa.
Amagama ebhombu othando
“Ngapha koko, ndikwenzele, ngoku ubuya umva? Umfazi omkhulu uyayixabisa yonke into endiyenzayo, kwaye ufuna ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nam. Andiqondi ukuba ungabulela ngantoni ngayo yonke into esele ndiyenzile. ”
Lawo ngamazwi ohlaselo lothando.
I-bummer yothando ayikhuselekanga ngokumangalisayo. Ukufihla ukungazithembi kwabo, bayaligqiba iqabane labo, okanye into endinokuyithetha lixhoba labo, ngezipho, ukuncoma nangaphezulu.
Izenzo zenkonzo?
Owu Thixo wam, baya kwenza nantoni na ukukhonza ixhoba labo elitsha, ukubatsalela kwiwebhu yeemvakalelo kunye neyomzimba abayilukayo njengoko bebeka ikhonkco eyahluke kakhulu kunokwenza amadinga okuthandana.
Ukwenza icace, abasetyhini banokwenza oku ngokunjalo. Kwiminyaka eyadlulayo ndikhumbula ndithandana nomfazi owaphuma wayokundithengela iimpahla, washiya izidlo zam endizithandayo eofisini yam, wenza ikeyiki yam endiyithandayo. Wayebeka ikhonkco kum, kwaye kwithuba elithile, lisebenza.
Ke ukuthandana okuqhelekileyo kujongeka kanjani?
Ndicinga ukuba kulungile ukuba umntu ufuna ukuthenga iintyatyambo zomhla wakhe ngosuku lokuqala, kodwa ehamba kwindawo yokutyela eneeroses ezingama-24, okanye iiroses ezingama-48, okanye omnye wabathengi endibancedileyo ukuba kude neziqhushumbisi ezininzi, wathumela I-limo yokumthatha, wayengekho kwi-limo, eneentyatyambo ezili-128 ngaphakathi.
Uthando oluchanekileyo lokuqhushumisa ibhombu.
Kwilizwe lokuthandana, indoda ekhuselekileyo ayinakuze yenze izinto ukuzama ukuseta ikhonkco kwaye iphumelele umfazi. Akunjalo, Ngaba umfazi uza kuphuma kwindlela yakhe ukuzama ukuseta ikhonkco nendoda anomdla kuyo.
Kwaye emva koko sijonga le mpendulo ingentla yomntu xa umthengi wam eqala ukubuyela umva kwaye wabeka imida, waphulukana nayo.
Uthando lweebhombu, xa uzama ukuseta imida uya kwenza enye yezi zinto zimbini:
- Bayakukhathazeka. Kwaye zama ukusebenzisa iintloni kunye netyala ukubuyela kwiwebhu yabo.
- Ziya kuphela nje. Umdlalo uphelile kubo, babanjiwe, kwaye xa umda kunye nemida ibekwa kwibhombu, banokuvele banyamalale ngonaphakade.
Umntu ophilileyo, xa iqabane lakhe elinokubakho lisithi bafuna indawo ethe kratya, uya kuyiqonda ngokupheleleyo loo nto, abuye umva, kwaye anike umntu ithuba lokuphefumla ukuze abone ukuba ingaba ubudlelwane bufanelekile na.
Uthando lweebhombu ngabakhohlisi
Uthando lweebhombu ngabakhohlisi. Ukungaqiniseki. Kwaye baya kwenza nantoni na nayo yonke into abanokuyenza ukuzama ukukufaka ebhedini okanye ukuzama ukuba uzibophelele kubo ngemihla emininzi ngaphambi kwexesha.
Omnye wabathengi bam, uthathe isigqibo sokubuyela umva aqale ukuthandana nomfana awayekunye naye kwiminyaka eyadlulayo, nangona ubudlelwane babuzaliswe sisiphithiphithi kunye nomdlalo weqonga kangangeminyaka esibhozo ababethandana nayo ngaphambi kokudendwa.
Kwaye wenza ntoni isoka lakhe langaphambili ukuzama ukuseta umlo ngeli xesha?
Wamthumelela umyalezo othi nantsi i-ajenda yakhe: ukuchitha iintsuku ezintathu kunye kwindawo yolwandle kulwandle, elandelayo ukuya eJamaica iintsuku ezine, kwinyanga elandelayo ukuya emtshatweni eCanada womnye wabo babehlala naye ekholejini. , kwaye inyanga elandelayo ichitha iKrisimesi kwisiXeko saseNew York.
Ukuba abahlobo bam bathanda-ukuqhushumisa.
Ukuba ufuna uncedo, kwaye awuqinisekanga ukuba umntu othandana naye uyibhombu yothando, funda kwakhona le mizekelo ingentla.
Abantu abakhuselekileyo, abasempilweni akufuneki bakuphumelele ngezipho, ukuncoma okuqhubekayo nokunye. Bathembele kwinkqubo. Bomelele, baphakathi kwaye bonwabile ngaphandle kokuthandana nabani.
Ibhombu yothando? Ngokuchasene noko.
Uthando lweeBombers alukhuselekanga ngendlela emangalisayo
Bazithembile ngendlela emangalisayo. Bafuna ukuthenga indlela yabo entliziyweni yakho. Lawula indlela yabo eya entliziyweni yakho okanye uncoma indlela yabo eya entliziyweni yakho okanye nangakumbi, cwangcisa iinyanga ezimbini ezizayo, kwaye ngaphambi kokuba wazi ukuba unobudlelwane obugcweleyo kunye nokuqhushumba kothando.
Yehlisa isantya.
Akukho sidingo sokungxama kwaye uzibophelele nakubani na, thatha ixesha lakho, kwaye ufumane uncedo lobuchwephesha ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba uza kungena emanzini angcolileyo kwilizwe lokuthandana.
Umsebenzi kaDavid Essel uye wavunywa ngabantu abafana noWayne Dyer ongasekhoyo, kwaye nosaziwayo uJenny McCarthy uthi "uDavid Essel yinkokeli entsha yentshukumo yokucinga eyakhayo."
Incwadi yakhe ye-10, enye yeyona nto ithengiswa kakhulu, ibizwa ngokuba yi “focus! Bulala iinjongo zakho ... Isikhokelo esiqinisekisiweyo sempumelelo enkulu, isimo sengqondo esinamandla nothando olunzulu.