Umxholo
Kubonakala ngathi ngakumbi nangakumbi iintsapho ziya zixubana. Kukho eminye imitshato ephela kuqhawulo-mtshato, ebangela umanyano lwabantu ababini abatsha abasele benabantwana babo.
Oku kuya kuba yinto eqhelekileyo kuluntu lwethu, into emangalisayo. Nangona kunjalo, zithini Ukulunga kunye nokuxhalaba kokuhlala kusapho oludibeneyo?
Eli nqaku ligxininisa kwiintsapho ezidibeneyo kunye nezinto ezingalunganga, kwaye uzame ukucacisa kwiingxaki zosapho ezixubeneyo kunye nokudibana kosapho ngokudibanisa umzekelo.
Iintsapho ezihlanganisiweyo- zilungile okanye zimbi?
Ezinye iintsapho ezixubileyo zisebenza zilungelelene kwaye zidityanisiwe ngelixa ezinye iintsapho ezixutyiweyo zixokozela kwaye zahlulwe. Ndonwabe ngokusebenza nazo zombini ezi ntlobo zeentsapho ezidityanisiweyo, kodwa ngesiqhelo ndifumana iintsapho ezinesiphithiphithi nokwahlukana.
Oku kuye kwandinceda ukuba ndiqonde izibonelelo zokuhlala kusapho oludibeneyo kunye nayo Iziphumo ezibi zeentsapho ezidibeneyo.
Nangona kunjalo, beza kunyango ukuzama ukuba banxibelelane kwaye badibane. Kodwa ngubani unobangela wesiphithiphithi kwezi ntsapho zidibeneyo.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba umzali omtsha kusapho oludibeneyo abe ngqongqo okanye angabambeki? Okanye ngaba abantwana abatsha baninzi kakhulu ukuba bangabamba? Okanye kusenokwenzeka ukuba kukho amaqela amaninzi kakhulu achaphazelekayo aphikisana neenzame zolu sapho ludibeneyo lokuphumelela.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqonde omabini amacala osapho oluxubileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba kukunxibelelana gwenxa kunye nokulindelwa okungenangqondo kuzo zombini iziphelo. Usapho oluza engqondweni lolunye kunye nomama ononyana kwaye waqala ubomi obutsha kunye neqabane lakhe.
Umzekeliso
Oku usapho oludibeneyo iye yafumana iindawo eziphakamileyo kunye nezantsi. Okwangoku, izinto zihamba kakuhle. Ngale ntsapho, umba ububaninzi kakhulu amaqela abandakanyekayo. Lo mama ebephakathi konyana wakhe kunye neqabane lakhe ngamanye amaxesha.
Kukho amaxesha apho unyana wakhe ahlangana kunye neqabane lakhe elitsha kunye namaxesha apho angamamkeliyo. Xa unyana wakhe wayemncinci kwakungcono.
Uya kuthetha kwaye axhome iqabane elitsha lomama, kodwa ixesha unxibelelwano lwakhe lilinganiselwe kwaye ukuba uceliwe ukuba athathe inxaxheba kwizinto nomama kunye neqabane lakhe elitsha izinto azipheli kakuhle. Iminyaka emine edlulileyo umama wagqiba ekubeni nomntwana.
Ekuqaleni, unyana wakhe wayengonwabanga, emva koko wafudumala kulo mbono, kodwa ngoku yena nomntwana omtsha abavani. Uya kuchaza ukuba ebengafuni umntakwabo kwaye ayinguye umntakwabo ncam. Lo mama uhlala ebambekile embindini.
Olu sapho luye kwi-roller coaster, umbuzo ngowokuba kutheni. Ndaye ndaqonda ukuba olu sapho lunamanye amaqela abandakanyekayo ekuphembeleleni izinto.
Unyana wayenonxibelelwano necala likayise wosapho kwaye babengonelisekanga ngunyana onomzali omtsha womzali. Oku kubangela imiba hayi eyomama kunye neqabane lakhe elitsha kuphela kodwa nosapho lonke oludibeneyo.
Njengomphathiswa, kubalulekile ukuba kungeniswe lonke usapho. Kunganzima kakhulu ukwenza ukuba unyana avule, kodwa ukuba kukho imfuneko unokufumana iingcebiso. Kuya kubalulekile ukuba umama kunye neqabane lakhe elitsha babekho kwiphepha elinye.
Ukuba kwiphepha elifanayo kunzima kakhulu kumaqabane. Umama unokuba netyala lokuba nolwalamano olutsha kunye nomntwana omtsha kwaye anikezele kunyana wakhe. Ukungabikho kwiphepha elinye kunokubangela ukuba abantu abatshatileyo bajongane nemiceli mngeni emininzi kwaye bazive bengakhuselekanga kwaye bengonwabanga kubudlelwane.
Isiphelo
Iqabane elitsha kufuneka liqiniseke ukuba liyazibandakanya kwaye lizame ukubakhona emntwaneni, lingabonisi umohluko eluthandweni nasekuxabiseni umntwana ozelweyo ngokuchasene nomntwana ofunyenwe ngokudibanisa iintsapho.
Ekugqibeleni, naluphi na usapho oludibeneyo kufuneka luqonde ukuba lunokuba nzima kwaye kuyakubakho amahla ndenyuka. Abanye Iintsapho ezixutyiweyo zidibanisa ngokukhawuleza nangokugudileyo kunabanye.