Umxholo
- Idabi elishushu lokuphambanisa izimvo zakho ezichaseneyo
- Sihlala njani kulo mjikelo?
- Ke yintoni esitshixo sokutshintsha apha?
- Masenze into eyahlukileyo
- Impendulo yakho ibambe eso sitshixo
Nokuba ndithini, ihlala ijika ibe yingxabano okanye umlo omkhulu, ndidiniwe kwaye ndidiniwe kukulwa. Ndilahlekile kulwalamano lwam ”
-Angaziwa
Ubudlelwane ngumsebenzi onzima.
Sizifumana sisoloko sifuna impendulo eyiyo. Sichitha iiyure kwi-intanethi sikhangela isitshixo kwiingxaki zethu, simamela kwaye sizama ukulandela iingcebiso zabahlobo bethu, sifunda zonke iincwadi zokuphucula ubudlelwane, kodwa okwangoku sisabambekile kumjikelo ombi wokulwa neqabane lethu.
Into yokuqala endinokuyithetha kukuba le yinto eqhelekileyo. Xa ndibona izibini ziseseshini, umbuzo omkhulu ophakamayo ngulo, "ndiyeke njani ukulwa kunye nokuxabana neqabane lam kwaye ndiphucule unxibelelwano lwethu lomtshato?"
Idabi elishushu lokuphambanisa izimvo zakho ezichaseneyo
Uninzi lwezi zibini zizifumana ziphikisana ngezinto ezingenangqondo kwaye azifumani ndlela yokuphuma kulo mjikelo.
Ke ngoku "ukulwa" okanye "ukuphikisana" kujongeka njani? Ndihlala ndiyichaza njengemfazwe engapheliyo, evuthayo yokutshintshiselana okanye yokutshintsha izimvo zakho ezichaseneyo.
Umjikelo ongapheliyo wempikiswano unokukwenza uzive uludwe lweemvakalelo ezinje: umsindo, ubuhlungu, ukudana, ukudinwa nokudinwa.
Ngexesha ndibona ezi zibini zidiniwe kwaye zinqwenela ukufumana isisombululo kule mfazwe ingapheliyo.
Sihlala njani kulo mjikelo?
Ngaba le yindlela yokuziphatha esiyifundileyo okanye sayibona ikhula kwaye mhlawumbi asazi ngcono? Ngaba yindlela yokuzikhusela kubudlelwane ngenxa yokoyika ukushiywa? Ngaba sibambe ingqumbo kwaye senziwe okwesibini ukubuzwa malunga nantoni na?
Ewe, into endinokuyithetha kukuba kuthatha abantu ababini ukuba babambeke kulo mjikelo.
Inye into ebalulekileyo andinakukwazi ukuyigxininisa ngokwaneleyo kwizibini ezikwiseshoni kukuba omabini amaqabane anenxaxheba kwingxabano. Ukubeka ityala kumntu omnye akusayi kusombulula ukungavisisani okanye kukufundise ukwenza izinto ngokwahlukileyo. Ke into endiqhele ukuyenza kukuqala ngokunceda esi sibini siqonde ukungavisisani, ukuphikisana kunye nokulwa kubandakanya omabini amaqabane!
Masithi sonke kunye. Ithatha omabini amaqabane.
Ke yintoni esitshixo sokutshintsha apha?
Amagama amabini. Impendulo yakho. Ngaba ukhe wazama ukuphendula ngokwahlukileyo xa iqabane lakho liqala ukunyusa ingxabano?
Impendulo yethu yokuqala inokuba kukulwa okanye ukubhabha. Ngamanye amaxesha sinentambo nje ngale ndlela.
Sifuna ukubaleka ungquzulwano okanye silwe umva. Kodwa ngoku makhe siqale ukucinga ngokwahlukileyo. Umzekelo, iqabane lakho liza ekhaya kwaye likhathazekile kuba ulibale ukuhlawula irente yenyanga ephelileyo. Iqabane lakho liqala ukuphakamisa ilizwi lazo kwaye likudibanisa malunga nemirhumo yasemva kwexesha, kwaye indlela abadane ngayo kuwe.
Impendulo yakho yokuqala isenokuba kukuzithethelela. Mhlawumbi unesizathu esivakalayo sokuba ulibele ukuhlawula irente. Mhlawumbi ukukhomba ngomnwe kukukhathaza ngandlela thile kwaye ufuna ukukhomba umnwe kubo. Le yindlela esiqhele ukusabela ngayo ngokuchanekileyo?
Masenze into eyahlukileyo
Masibone indlela impendulo yakho enokuthi inyuse ngayo ukungavisisani okanye impikiswano. Masizame ukuthetha into ebesingazukuyithetha njenge “Sithandwa, unyanisile. Ndimoshile. Masihlise umoya sifumane isisombululo kunye ngoku ”.
Ke okwenzekayo apha kukuphendula kwakho ngendlela yokuba uzolise iqabane lakho phantsi kwaye uyeke imeko.
Impendulo yakho ibambe eso sitshixo
Nokuba ngubani olungileyo nongalunganga, sinakho ukuphendula kwaye sisabele ngendlela yokuthomalalisa iqabane lethu kwaye sincede ekusasazeni imeko phambi kokuba iqhushumbe ebusweni kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe siphucule unxibelelwano lwethu lomtshato.
Ukuba omabini amaqabane aqala ukuqaphela indlela abaphendula ngayo ngexesha lempikiswano okanye ingxabano kwaye aqala ukwenza olu tshintsho luncinci kwimpendulo yabo nakwimpendulo kwiqabane lakho uya kuqala ukubona ungquzulwano oluncinci, ukuphikisana kunye nokulwa kubudlelwane.
Ukuqukumbela, kwixa elizayo xa ujongene nengxabano, khumbula la magama mabini: Impendulo yakho.