Umxholo
- 1. Bayakuthanda ukuba ngaphandle komgaqo
- 2. Abakhathali ngendlela oziva ngayo
- 3. Benza njengomphathi
- 4. Bazithembile kakhulu
- 5. Banomtsalane
- 6. Bacela umngeni kuwe ngonaphakade
- 7. Baphulukana nomdla ngokulula
- 8. Ukunqongophala kokuthembeka
- 9. Baziva benelungelo lokuphathwa ngendlela ekhethekileyo
- 10. Bathanda ukwenza impazamo kububele bakho ngenxa yobuthathaka
- 11. Banomona ngabanye
- 12. Batyekele ekukopeni
- 13. Abavumi ukuba baphosisile
- 14. I-narcissist inokwenza nantoni na ukuze ifumane "ukuthandwa" ngabantu
- 15. Incoko zihlala kwicala elinye
AbakwaNarcissist ngabo banomdla ogqithisileyo kwiziqu zabo. Bathandana kakhulu nobuntu babo kangangokuba bathanda ukungabahoyi abantu ababangqongileyo. I-narcissist yangcwatywa eyinyani yokuzibonakalisa kwayo ekuphenduleni ukwenzakala kwangoko kwaye yayitshintsha ngoqoqosho olunobunkunkqele.
Enye into malunga ne-narcissists kukuba banomdla; zinomtsalane, ziyanyanzela, zintle kwaye azizibambi kwizincomo ezilungileyo. Ke ukuba nayiphi na le miqondiso yokuba uthandana narcissist iyavela, nceda uqhubeke ngononophelo olukhulu:
1. Bayakuthanda ukuba ngaphandle komgaqo
AbakwaNarcissists bayakonwabela ukuba ngabo abangabandakanywa kumgaqo ngokubanzi. Ukuba unomgaqo obekiweyo okanye umyalelo, bajonge izizathu zokophula imithetho kunye nemiyalelo ebekiweyo. Ukuba ulwalamano nomntu oziva ephezulu, kwaye ekholelwa ukuba ungaphezulu komthetho, babaleke.
2. Abakhathali ngendlela oziva ngayo
I-Narcissists ayikhathali nokuba uziva wonwabile okanye ulusizi. Baxhalabele indlela abavakalelwa ngayo. Baxhalabile. Bakho nje ngenjongo yokusebenzela umfanekiso wabo omkhulu; Kunzima kubo ukuba baqonde ukuba iimvakalelo zikhona, okanye banenkathalo ukuba kukho into eyenzakeleyo.
3. Benza njengomphathi
Banika izikhokelo kwaye babeke iliso kuyo yonke into oyenzayo. Bahlala beziva ngathi bakulawulo lwakho kwaye akukho nto inokwenziwa okanye kuthethwe ukutshintsha into abazimisele ukuyenza. Nokuba bangaphantsi, awungekhe ubalawule okanye ubanike iiodolo.
4. Bazithembile kakhulu
Inqaku elinye elibalulekileyo lokuba uthandana narcissist kukuba bathambekele ekuzithembeni kakhulu ngemicimbi. Bathatha umngcipheko omkhulu kwaye aboyiki nto ibafumana imihla.
5. Banomtsalane
Kuyinyani eyaziwayo ukuba i-narcissist intle kakhulu okanye intle. Ziyathandeka kwaye zithandeka ezenza ukuba abantu bafune ukuthandana nabo kwindawo yokuqala.
6. Bacela umngeni kuwe ngonaphakade
Ukuthandana narcissist ngokusisiseko luthotho lweencoko ezingapheliyo apho uveza uluvo kwaye bakhawuleza bayitsibe. Bacinga ukuba bangaphezulu kwaye babonisa indlela yokuphelisa iingcinga kunye neminqweno yakho.
7. Baphulukana nomdla ngokulula
AbakwaNarcissist babonisa indlela abazimisele ngayo nabanakho ngayo ukuya kugqithiso ukuze ube ngowabo. Nje ukuba bafumanise ukuba uyathandana nabo, bathambekele ekukruqukeni kwaye baphulukane nomdla kulwalamano.
8. Ukunqongophala kokuthembeka
Enye indlela yokuchonga i-narcissist kukumlinganisa okanye isenzo sakhe ngokuchasene namagama akhe. Awunakuze uxhomekeke kwii-narcissists, zihlala ziphoxa izinto ozicwangcisileyo. Abawagcini amazwi abo.
9. Baziva benelungelo lokuphathwa ngendlela ekhethekileyo
AmaNarcissist ahlala elindele ukuphathwa ngendlela ekhethekileyo kwabanye. Bahlala bathanda ukubhabha kwiklasi yeshishini nangona ingengabo abahlawulayo. Abakuthandi ukuphathwa ngokulinganayo; bahlala befuna ukubangaphezulu kwabanye.
10. Bathanda ukwenza impazamo kububele bakho ngenxa yobuthathaka
Nanini na xa ubongoza kwi-narcissist, xa ufumana ububele, intsingiselo iba yiyo. Baqhubeka nokuthetha nokuqhayisa ngendlela abakulungele ngayo kwaye bakulungele ukunqumla ebomini babo ngaphandle kokuzisola.
11. Banomona ngabanye
AbakwaNarcissists nabo bathanda ukuba ngamaqabane anomona kakhulu kuba, bacinga ukuba, ulwandiso nje kunye nomthombo wonikezelo lwe-narcissistic, ekufuneka belugcinile kwaye baphantsi kolawulo lwabo.
12. Batyekele ekukopeni
Kuba basebenza njengomphathi wakho, baziva ukuba akukho ndawo banokubalekela kuyo, ibanika ukupasa simahla ukukopela. Basenokungaze bazisole emva kokuba bekukhohlisile.
13. Abavumi ukuba baphosisile
Kuhlala kunendlela elungileyo kunye nendlela engalunganga yokwenza izinto. Ngokwendalo, ii-narcissists zicinga ukuba le nto bayenzayo ilungile ngelixa indlela yakho yokwenza izinto ingalunganga. I-narcissist iya kukugculela esidlangalaleni okanye nabani na onobuganga bokwenza into engathanga ngqo kuye.
14. I-narcissist inokwenza nantoni na ukuze ifumane "ukuthandwa" ngabantu
I-narcissist yeyona iya kuhlala ihlaziya ixesha labo le-instagram kunye ne-facebook. Bayazithanda kwaye baya kuthandana ukuba nabanye bayabathanda. Bavame ukufuna ukufumana ukuthanda i-instagram kunye nezimvo.
15. Incoko zihlala kwicala elinye
I-narcissist iya kuhlala inganomdla kwinto oyithethayo. Bavakalelwa kukuba iingcinga zabo kunye nembonakalo kufuneka yoyise eyakho ke balahle nantoni na ozama ukuyithetha okanye ukungqina ngayo.