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- Izizathu zokuba abantu babandakanyeke kwimicimbi engekho mthethweni
- Umceli mngeni kukugcina uthando luvutha
- Eminye imitshato isenokuhlangulwa
Kwakungokuqeshwa kwakhe kokuqala. Umthengi wam oneminyaka engama-29 ubudala, UMickie (ayilogama lakhe lokwenyani, ewe) owayetshatile iminyaka emi-5 enonyana oneenyanga ezili-9 ubudala, wangcangcazela ukusuka entloko ukuya ezinzwaneni. Ukulila kwakhe kwakubuhlungu. UMickie wayesazi ukuba kukho into eyayingalunganga emtshatweni wakhe Ixesha ukusukela phakathi kokukhulelwa, xa wemkayo kuye ngokupheleleyo. Emva kokuzalwa kukaJohnnie, uTim wayebonakala engenamdla kuye, kwaye waqala ukuchitha ubusuku kude nekhaya. Emva koko kwahlwa kwaba bubusuku. Emva kwexesha ngobunye ubusuku xa umyeni wakhe elele, umxhasi wam wavavanya iitekisi zakhe, eziqinisekisa into ebicacile iinyanga.
Vula UJack kwaye UJulieIkhefu lasemva komtshato, uJack wavuka ngentsimbi yesi-3 emva kwento awayekholelwa ukuba ibiyimini enothando neyothando. UJulie wayengafumaneki. Esoyika, uJack wabiza idesika yangaphambili yendawo yokuhlala apho bahlala khona, kwaye wacela ukuba kukhangelwe ipropathi. Ngo-5 ekuseni, uJulie wabuyela kwigumbi labo, ecinga ukuba umyeni wakhe uza kulala. UJack wafuna inkcazo. Indoda kwisidlo sangokuhlwa yathandana noJulie, kwaye ngexeshana wayigqitha kuye, wabeka isitshixo segumbi lakhe esandleni sakhe.
UWillie wayeneminyaka engama-45 kwaye engazange atshate. Wayenothotho lobudlelwane bexesha elide kodwa xa wayecinezelwa ukuba atshate, wayehlala erhoxa. Nangona kunjalo, uWillie wayesoloko elangazelela ukuba nosapho kwaye nini UMarta Ukhulelwe, wacebisa. Kodwa ke, nangona wayemhlonipha uMartha kwaye eyithanda nentombi yabo, waziva elilolo kwaye engenanto ebomini babo kunye, efumana ulangazelelo olungenakuphepheka. UWillie wayeyisitabane, kwaye wayelususile olu lwazi kude nolwazi ngobomi bakhe bonke bobudala. Isindululo sendoda esisebenza nayo kuhambo lweshishini yamvusa kwisiqu sakhe sokwenyani. "Bendiguliswa yiminqweno endiyibona njengengxenye yento endiyiyo," wazityand 'igila kwiseshoni yakhe yokuqala nam, "kwaye ke ndibangcwabe."
Oku kungasentla kuyinyani kumava obomi kubonisa uninzi lwezizathu zokungathembeki. UTim wayemthanda ngokwenene uMickie. Nangona kunjalo, akazange azive ekwazi ngokwaneleyo ukuthatha uxanduva kusapho lwabo olutsha. "Ndaye ndanexhala kwaye ndisoyika xa ukukhulelwa kuya phambili," Ucacisele uMickie, emva kokuba emjoyine kunyango, apho waqonda khona ukuba waqala umcimbi wakhe ukubaleka uloyiko.
UJulie, okuphela komntwana, wayevela kwikhaya elinengcwangu, apho abazali bakhe babesilwa kwaye besela rhoqo, kwaye xa benxilile babembetha bemqalekisa. Ezimisele ukuba afundile, waphumelela imali yokufunda kwiyunivesithi yakhe yaseburhulumenteni, apho wadibana khona wathandana noJack, osapho lwaluchasene nolomfazi wakhe. Kwinyango, uJulie wajongana nokuba akazange azive elufanelwe luthando uJack kunye nosapho awalunika lona kwaye ukuma kwakhe kobusuku obunye yayililinge lokucaphukisa uJack kwaye amgxothe.
Oku kungasentla kubonisa ukuba ukubandakanyeka ngokwesondo ngaphandle komtshato, nokuba kungokuthandana okugcweleyo okanye ukunxibelelana okufutshane, sisikhalo soncedo. Uloyiko lukaTim lubonakalisa uloyiko koxanduva lwabantu abadala. Umahluko kumceli mngeni kaTim wenzeka xa elinye iqabane ligcina ubudlelwane obusondeleyo nabazali ngaphandle kweqabane, kwaye ukunqanda ukujongana nentlungu ebangwe liqabane kuqala umcimbi.
Izizathu zokuba abantu babandakanyeke kwimicimbi engekho mthethweni
Phakathi kwezinye izinto ezikhokelela kwimicimbi kukungazithembi ngokomsebenzi, ukungakwazi ukufumana intsingiselo yobomi, ukungazithembi ngokwezezimali, ukungakwazi ukuzibamba nokusombulula ngokwanelisayo ukungavisisani emtshatweni, ukoyika ukwaluphala, kunye nokungakwazi ukujongana nokwaluphala yeqabane, nokuba uthanda kangakanani. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuthandana kuthetha ukuba umntu uyaqonda ukuba umtshato uyimpazamo, kodwa akanaso isibindi sokutsho, kwaye ufuna elinye iqabane ukuba lenzakale okanye libe nomsindo kangangokuba likhokele kwisigqibo sokwahlukana nokuqhawula umtshato.
Umceli mngeni kukugcina uthando luvutha
Umntu akatshati kwaye uhlala enjalo. Kubudlelwane obuhle kunye nolwaneliseko lomtshato umntu ngamnye ukhula ngeendlela ezilungileyo nezineemveliso. Umceli mngeni kukugcina uthando luvutha ngokwamanqanaba ahlukeneyo kunye nemiceli mngeni yobomi bomtshato. Oku kuthatha ixesha, ukuzibophelela, nomsebenzi.
Eminye imitshato isenokuhlangulwa
UMickie noTim noJulie noJack babenakho ukusebenzisa iintlungu zokungcatshana ukuze baqondane kwaye baziqonde ngakumbi, kwaye uthando lwabo lwakhula nzulu. UWillie waqonda ukuba kwisigqibo sakhe sokutshata, wayengenabulungisa kuMartha, intombi yabo kunye naye. Intlonipho yakhe ngoMartha yahlala ihleli, kwaye ukuhlawula kwakhe imali kuye kwakulungile kwaye kunesisa kangangoko. Wadibana nalo lonke uxanduva kwintombi yabo, awasondela kuye njengoko wayezivumela ukuba aphile ubomi benyani. Bobabini noMarta bafumana amaqabane anothando kwaye bakha ubomi obonelisayo. Kude kube namhlanje, bahlala bengabahlobo abazinikeleyo.
Le mizekelo ingasentla yahluke kakhulu ekukhetheni ukuqala komcimbi njengesenzo samandla okanye sokulawula okanye ukubonakalisa inkohlakalo nentuthumbo. Iqabane elihlukumezekileyo lifuna uncedo kwangoko ukuze lizikhulule.
Ewe, kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuthanda abantu ababini ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo. Nangona kunjalo, kuyacaca ukuba ukuthandana kulula ukufumana iiyure ezininzi ezibiweyo xa umntu engangqalanga ukukhala kwabantwana, amatyala ekufuneka awahlawule, kunye nokudinwa okupheleleyo.
Ukunyaniseka sisithembiso kwabo bathanda benza konke okusemandleni ukugcina. Oku kuthethwe, ngokuqinisekileyo, kunokwenzeka ukuba uqhubele phambili emtshatweni wakho emva kokungathembeki. Eyona ndlela inobulumko yokwenza oku kukuba ilungu ngalinye lentsebenziswano lisebenze nzima ukuqonda nokufunda kwinto eyenzekileyo egrogrisa uzinzo emtshatweni wabo kwaye ngoba.