Umxholo
- Ukuziphilisa
- 1. Iqala ngawe
- 2. Sebenza ekuzinyamekeleni
- 3. Yenza into oyithandayo
- Ukuphilisa ubudlelwane
- 1. Yivulele ekuhleni inyaniso
- 2. Jonga umcebisi womtshato
Njengenyikima kwisakhiwo, ukungathembeki kugungqisa oko kwakukade kuthathwa njengesiseko esomeleleyo. Ingena endaweni yento eyayiyiyo, ngoku iyintoni na: inguqulelo eyaphukileyo neyonakeleyo yesiqu sayo sangaphambili.
Kwisakhiwo esiphazanyiswe yinyikima, awuqinisekanga kuzinzo lwemigangatho okanye uphahla ukuze uhlale ukhuselekile okanye uhleli.
Ukungazithembi kuchazwa “njengokungazithembi.” Yiyo loo nto, ingamangalisi into yokuba umntu ajongane nokungazithembi emva kokungathembeki emtshatweni wabo.
Emtshatweni emva kokungathembeki, ukungazithembi kunye nokuthembela kwiqabane lakho kukwenza uzive ungakhuselekanga kubudlelwane bakho.
Ngapha koko, kunzima ukwazi ukuba ungayeka njani ukungazithembi emva kokukhohliswa kuba ngubani oza kuthi ayizukuphinda yenzeke kwaye yayomelele kangakanani ubudlelwane ukuba inganikezela kolu hlaselo kwasekuqaleni.
Imibuzo emininzi ibuzwa malunga nendlela yokuhamba usuka kwiqabane elikhohlisayo kwaye ungaphola njani kubudlelwane emva kokukopela, kodwa uninzi lweempendulo ezinentsingiselo zihlala zinqabile.
Kubalulekile ukuba umntu okrexezwayo axelelwe ngendlela yokufumana ukungazithembi emva kokuqhathwa.
Ukuba wena okanye umntu omaziyo ufumene ukungazithembi emva kokungathembeki kwaye uyazibuza ukuba ungayeka njani ukungazithembi emva kokukhohliswa okanye indlela yokuphilisa emva kokukhohliswa, ukwazi ezinye zeendlela zokoyisa ukungazithembi emva kokungathembeki kuya kunceda ngokuqinisekileyo.
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Ukuziphilisa
1. Iqala ngawe
Inyani enzima ngobomi kukuba ulonwabo lokwenyani aluveli kuwo nawuphi na umthombo ngaphandle kwakho.
Isizathu soku kukuba nguwe kuphela olawula izenzo zakho, iingcinga zakho, kunye neenkolelo zakho. Kuba le kuphela kwento onokuthi ulawule ngokwenyani ebomini, ulonwabo lwakho kufuneka luvele ngaphakathi.
Ukuba ulindele omnye umntu ukuba akuqinisekise kwaye akulethele uvuyo, uza kudana. Singabantu abazicingela bodwa, kwaye nokuba umntu unothando kangakanani na ngawe, baya kuphuma amaxesha ngamaxesha.
Kodwa oku kukunceda njani ukuba uphilise kukungazithembi emva kokungathembeki?
Ukungathembeki sisenzo sokuzingca; akukho namnye onokuphikisa oko. Yamkele ngolu hlobo, kwaye uyisebenzise ukuqonda ukuba lixesha lokuba uzisebenzele kunye nolonwabo lwakho.
Kwixesha elizayo, ukuba umntu omthandayo uphuma kuwe, ndiyakuthembisa, kuya kubuhlungu. Kodwa ukuba uwenzile ngokwakho ukuze wazi ukuba ufuna ntoni ebomini, ayizukukhathaza kancinane, kwaye uyakufumana uxolo kamsinyane kwangoko.
2. Sebenza ekuzinyamekeleni
Ukuziqhelanisa njengokucamngca kunye nokubhalwa kweendaba ziindlela ezisempilweni zokwenza uxolo lwengqondo ebomini bakho kwaye kubalulekile ukoyisa ukungazithembi emva kokungathembeki.
Ukucamngca kuluncedo kuba isenzo sikucela ukuba uhlale ngokuzolileyo, uvume iingcinga zakho njengoko zisiza, emva koko uzivumele zidlule ngokungathi ziinqanawa ebusuku.
Oku kuthetha ukuba awuzukuchitha ixesha uhlala kwingcinga enye (iqabane lakho liyakopela) kwaye uyakujonga nje ingqondo yakho emsebenzini.
Nje ukuba ucamngce ngokwaneleyo, uya kubona ukuzola okunikezelayo kwaye uya kuba nakho ukukhumbula yonke imihla yakho.
Ijenali iya kukuvumela ukuba uthathe ezo ngcinga uzijongileyo kwaye wandise kuzo. Le asiyondawo yeziphumlisi egqibeleleyo, igrama, okanye upelo. Kumane ulahla ingqondo yakho kwisiqwengana sephepha kwaye uyivumele ukuba ikhule.
Uya kufumanisa ukuba uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo olugcinileyo kwiibhotile ziya kuphuma kwezi seshoni zokupapasha iindaba, zikuvumela ukuba ugqibe usuku lwakho ngobunzima obuncinci kumagxa akho kunye nokuqonda ngakumbi iimvakalelo zakho zokwenyani.
3. Yenza into oyithandayo
Emtshatweni, sihlala sizifumana sizixonxa ngokuzonwabisa kunye nezinto esizithandayo kunye neqabane lethu.
Ngaphambi kokuba nidibane, elowo kuni wayenomdla kuye ngamnye. Nangona kunjalo, ngokuhamba kwexesha, abantu abatshatileyo bahlala behlangana kwaye banemisebenzi ekwabelwana ngayo kunye nokuzonwabisa.
Oku kubaluleke kakhulu kuninzi kuba kuvumela umtshato ukuba uhlume ngamava abelwanayo.
Nangona kunjalo, xa kuthandana kwenzeka, kwaye uziva ungakhuselekanga emva kokungathembeki, esi sibini siyaphikisana omnye nomnye, le midla yabiweyo iba ziindawo zokudelela.
Awungekhe umamele elo qela kuba ibiliqela lomyeni wakho olithandayo. Awunakho ukuya kule restyu kuba umfazi wakho uyayithanda. Ufumana umfanekiso.
Ukufumana ukuthanda kwakho yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokujongana nokungazithembi emva kokungathembeki.
Oku kuyakukugcina ungabinangqondo ekuncedeni ukubona iqabane lakho kuyo yonke into oyenzayo kuba ukhetha into engaphandle kwemilinganiselo yobudlelwane.
Thatha iklasi yokupheka. Joyina umthambo omtsha. Buyela esikolweni. Fumana into enentsingiselo kuwe, ukuze uqhubeke ukwahlula ixabiso lakho emtshatweni wakho kwaye uphilise kukungazithembi emva kokungathembeki.
Ukuphilisa ubudlelwane
1. Yivulele ekuhleni inyaniso
Ukubuyela umva kwisifaniso esiqale eli nqaku, cinga ngendlu esandula ukugungqiswa yinyikima.
Awungekhe uyakhe kwakhona le ndlu ngamaqhekeza ayo. Kuya kufuneka ufumane unobangela womonakalo kwaye mhlawumbi wakhe i-atop entsha yenkunkuma.
Kukwanjalo ke ukoyisa ukungazithembi emva kokungathembeki emtshatweni wakho.
Ukuba uyafuna uku philisa kwaye uqhubeke nomtshato wakho, inyaniso kwaye akukho nto ngaphandle kwenyani kubalulekile.
Kuya kufuneka ufumanise ukuba yintoni ebangelwe luthando. Kuya kufuneka ubuze ukuba kutheni. Kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba iphelile. Kufuneka icace gca phambi kokuba uqale ukuphilisa kuyo yonke intlungu kunye nokungaqiniseki emva kokungathembeki.
Ukungabikho kwezibakala kuya kuzala ukungakhuseleki ngakumbi. Inokukhathaza ngaphambili, kodwa kuya kufuneka ujonge ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kanye kanye ukuze ujonge kwikamva ngomfanekiso ocacileyo wexesha elidlulileyo.
2. Jonga umcebisi womtshato
Ukufumana inyaniso etafileni kubalulekile, kodwa zama ukuyenza kwindawo ekhuselekileyo njengeofisi yonyango. Baza kunceda ukukhokela loo ncoko ukuze ingathathi manyani kakhulu.
Thembela kubuchwephesha babo ekuncedeni ulwalamano lwakho lulungiswe ngeyona ndlela isempilweni.