Umxholo
- Xa uyithiyile i-ex yakho kuba ikwenze kakhulu, iphosakele kakhulu
- Ukuthiya ex yakho xa usabathanda
- Ukuthiya ex yakho njengengubo yokhuseleko
- Xa usiya phambili, yile yenzekayo
Inqabile into yokuba isibini sahlukane kwaye ungeva: "Ndiyayithiya i-ex yam". Kuqhelekile ukuba uzaliswe ngamanzi kunye nazo zonke iintlobo zeemvakalelo xa ubudlelwane buphelile, ngakumbi ukuba wenziwe kakubi, okanye iqabane lakho ligqibe ekubeni libize.
Eyona nto iqhelekileyo, emva kothuko lokuqala, abantu bayakufumana ingqumbo, ingqumbo, unxunguphalo, kwaye, ewe, inzondo. Ngamanye amaxesha esi sisiqendu nje, iimvakalelo ezidlulayo.
Nangona kunjalo, kwezinye iimeko, le ntiyo iba sisifo kwaye inokukuthintela ekuqhubeleni phambili ebomini bakho.
Xa uyithiyile i-ex yakho kuba ikwenze kakhulu, iphosakele kakhulu
Isizathu esicacileyo sokuba sinokuthiya umntu wethu wakudala kukuba basenzakalisile. Njengoko uza kubona, kukho okungakumbi kokucaphukela umntu wakho wangaphambili ngaphandle kolu khetho, kodwa makhe siluphonononge kuqala. Ngelishwa, ubudlelwane obuninzi kunye nemitshato ayipheli kwinqaku lobuhlobo.
Ukukruquka kunye ne-monotony ngamanye amaxesha kuyawuphelisa umtshato. Nangona kunjalo, kwiimeko ezininzi, luhlobo oluthile lokreqo olukhulu okanye umlo oqhubekayo owonakalisayo.
Zintathu ii-no-nos ezinkulu ezinokuthi zonakalise nabuphi na ubudlelwane. Ezi ziindlobongela, iziyobisi, kunyeimicimbi.
Nangona umtshato ungazoyisa ezi zikrelemnqe kwaye ukomelele ngenxa yoko, kwiimeko ezininzi, enye okanye ezingaphezulu kwezi zinele ukuwonakalisa ngokupheleleyo.
Kwaye xa oku kusenzeka, kulindeleke kakhulu ukuba umntu owonileyo azive enomsindo kakhulu kulowo umoshe yonke into ababelane ngayo. Intiyo apha ivela ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.
Enye ye-ego eyenzakalisayo kunye nokuziva kwethu kukuxabiseka. Okunye, ewe, kukungcatsha. Ke kwakhona kukho inyani yokuba ngokwenza ezi zenzo zingenakuxoleleka, iqabane elibenzileyo ngokusisiseko baphanga iqabane labo ngekamva labo.
Ukuthiya ex yakho xa usabathanda
Enye into, ukhetho olunomdla olunqabileyo luyamcaphukela u-ex wakho ngelixa usenethemba lokuba izinto ziya kubuyela apho bezikhona. Ngamanye amagama, usenokuyithanda i-ex yakho, nangona ubathiyile. Kwaye usenokufuna ubomi bakho obudala babuye. Ungabacaphukela ngokususa uthando lwabo kuwe. Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba awusabathandi.
Uthando nentiyo zihlala zithathwa njengeemvakalelo ezichaseneyo, kodwa azichasani, zahlukile. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo, ungazithiya ezinye izinto malunga ne-ex yakho, ngelixa uthanda nabanye.
Ujoliso lweengcinga zakho luya kugqiba ukuba yeyiphi imvakalelo oza kuyiva ngalo mzuzu.
Isizathu sokuba ungabamba intiyo xa usamthanda umntu wakho wangaphambili iphindwe kabini. Okokuqala, inzondo ihlala kulula ukujongana nayo kunothando olungaphindiswanga (nangona eneneni ngokulinganayo okanye iyingozi).
Okwesibini, inzondo nothando zabelana ngobunzulu beemvakalelo kunye nokusondela abasinika kona kunye nemvakalelo. Ke, xa umthiyile umntu wakho wakudala osamthandayo, ugcina uhlobo oluthile lokusondela kubo, okanye oluyimpazamo.
Ukuthiya ex yakho njengengubo yokhuseleko
Ukuthiya ex yakho njengengubo yokhuseleko
Kwindlela yokusebenza kwengqondo, uya kusibona esi sizathu sesithathu sokuba umntu abe nenqala nokuba sekudlule amashumi eminyaka bohlukene. Abantu ngamanye amaxesha babambelela kwintiyo yabo njengoko beya kwenza ngengubo endala, embi kakhulu yokhuseleko. Basebenzisa intiyo yabo njengendlela yokugcina imeko ekhoyo ebomini babo, hayi kubomi babo bokuthandana kuphela kodwa kubonakala ukuba kuloo ndawo.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo, xa unamathela kuyo nayiphi na into engahambelani ncam, uyayenza ukuthintela utshintsho ebomini bakho.
Kwaye ukwenyanya yinto yonke ngaphandle kwendlela esempilweni yokuziva, nangona iqondakala ngokugqibeleleyo kwiimeko ezininzi.
Nangona kunjalo, kuya kufuneka uphonononge uhlobo lweemvakalelo zakho kwi-ex yakho kwaye ubone ukuba uzama ukuhlala ngaphakathi kwendawo ekhuselekileyo ngokubambelela echibini lentiyo ngaphakathi kwakho.
Xa usiya phambili, yile yenzekayo
Xa uyiyeka intiyo, nayo yonke into enxulumene nayo, ilizwe elitsha elinokubakho liya kuvuleka phambi kwamehlo akho. Yindawo eyoyikekayo ukuba ube kuyo, ngokuqinisekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ikwangoyena mhle. Xa ufunda ukuxolela (hayi ukuba ulibale okanye ukhulule izigqitho zabo), uya kuzikhulula.
Ngale nkululeko intsha, usenokuqalisa ukuzazi. Ungaphonononga amandla akho okuthanda.
Unokumba kwiitalente zakho kwaye wenze yonke into onokuthi uyifune kodwa ungakhange uyenze kuba ububambe umtshato wakho, emva koko waya kwintiyo yakho (intle kakhulu loo nto). Ngokukhawuleza uya kuqonda ukuba kufuneka uhambe kwiinyanga ezininzi okanye kwiminyaka edlulileyo, ke ungathandabuzi, kwaye uyenze ngoku!