Umxholo
- 1. Musa ukungqiba
- Khusela usapho lwakho
- 3. Sukuyibamba
- 4. Gcina intloko, imigangatho kunye nezithende ziphakame
- 5. Musa ukudlala umdlalo wokutyhola
- 6. Zinike ixesha lokuphola
- 7. Fake it until uyenze
Uqhawulo-mtshato, ngokwalo, ngamava amahle abuhlungu, wena, ngandlela thile, ulungisa ubomi bakho kwakhona. Abanye abantu baxhomekeke kakhulu kumaqabane abo kangangokuba baziva bengaphelelanga kwaye belahlekile ngaphandle komnatha wokhuseleko. UThixo akavumeli ukuba ubomi bomntu bufike kweli nqanaba mabenze ntoni? Ukuzivalela egumbini kunye nokuthintela uluntu? Hayi. Nangona umtshato, usapho, abantwana, kwaye nangonaphakade iya kuba lelinye lawona macandelo abalulekileyo kubuntu bakho, wawunobomi ngaphambili kwayo yonke loo nto. Musa ukuzikhawulela. Sukuyeka ukuhlala ngenxa yesiganeko esinye.
Ukulandela zizinto ezimbalwa onokuzenza ukubuhlaziya ubomi bakho kwaye uqale ukuziphilela kwaye wonwabe kwaye usempilweni:
1. Musa ukungqiba
Inokuphazamisa umhlaba kwabanye, ngakumbi ukuba awukhange uyithathele ingqalelo yonke imiqondiso, ukuva malunga neqabane lakho licela uqhawulo-mtshato. Ukuthi uziva uphuke intliziyo kuya kuba yinto engaphantsi kwenkulungwane. Ukuziva ungcatshwe kuya kuhlala ithutyana.
Unelungelo lokubuza malunga nezizathu kodwa, inye into ongafanelekanga ukuba uyenze kukucela ukuguqulwa kwesigqibo sabo.
Ukuba iqabane lakho licela uqhawulo-mtshato, oko kuthetha ukuba babe bacinge nzulu ngalo. Akukho kwanto unokuyenza ngeloxesha eya kutshintsha isigqibo sabo. Musa ukubhenela kukungqiba. Ingathoba ixabiso lakho kuphela.
Khusela usapho lwakho
Kuya kubakho ixesha elininzi lokulila. Ngokukhawuleza xa usiva igama elithi 'uqhawulo mtshato' fumana igqwetha elifanelekileyo. Nokuba unabantwana okanye awunabo, amalungelo athile owanikwa lilizwe lakho.
Yiba sisibonelelo sonyaka, okanye inkxaso yomntwana, okanye isondlo, okanye imali mboleko. Lilungelo lakho ukubanga.
Fumana igqwetha elilungileyo kwaye likhusele kunye nekamva losapho lwakho.
3. Sukuyibamba
Kungokwemvelo ukuba nomsindo. Ngaba unomsindo emhlabeni, kwindalo iphela, kusapho, kubahlobo, kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, uzicaphukele. Kwenzeka njani ukuba ube yimfama kangaka? Ukuvumele njani oku ukuba kwenzeke? Yimpazamo yakho kangakanani?
Eyona nto imbi onokuyenza ngokwakho ngeli xesha kukubamba yonke into. Mamela, kuya kufuneka ukhuphe umoya. Kuya kufuneka ucinge ngesiqu sakho, ukuze uphile.
Amaqabane ahamba ngoqhawulo mtshato, ubukhulu becala kungenxa yabantwana babo okanye osapho, bayazirhoxisa iimvakalelo zabo kunye neenyembezi kwaye bazibambe. Oku akunampilo kwaphela, engqondweni okanye emzimbeni.
Ngaphambi kokuba uyeke ubudlelwane, uthando lwakho, ukungcatshwa, kuya kufuneka uvumelane nayo. Kufuneka ube buhlungu. Yenza isijwili ngokusweleka kothando owawucinga ukuba luya kuhlala ngonaphakade, lilile iqabane ongenakubanalo, lilile umntu ocinga ukuba uyamazi, lilile ngekamva ophuphe kunye nabantwana bakho kunye.
4. Gcina intloko, imigangatho kunye nezithende ziphakame
Ukufumana malunga nokuqhawulwa kwembophelelo yomelele njengomtshato kunokuba yintlungu, konke kukodwa kodwa kunokuba yinto ethob 'isidima xa iqabane lakho likushiyele omnye umntu. Ubuxakekile uqhuba indlu, ugcina usapho kunye, ucwangcisa imicimbi yosapho, ngelixa iqabane lakho belihlekisa ngasemva kwakho likhangela iindlela zokwenza uqhawulo mtshato.
Wonke umntu uyayifumana, ubomi bakho bujike baba yibhola enkulu yomdaka. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ubengomnye ngokunjalo.
Musa ukuphambuka kwaye uzingele usapho lwesibini phantsi. Gcina intloko yakho phezulu kwaye uzame ukuqhubeka.
Awunakuze uhlale ixesha elide kwindawo ongafunwa kuyo kwasekuqaleni.
5. Musa ukudlala umdlalo wokutyhola
Sukuqala ukulungelelanisa yonke into kwaye uhlalutye yonke incoko, isigqibo, isindululo kude kube kwinqanaba apho ekugqibeleni unokwanela ukubeka ityala.
Izinto ziyenzeka. Abantu bakhohlakele. Ubomi abunabulungisa. Ayilotyala lakho lonke. Funda ukuhlala nezigqibo zakho. Bamkele.
6. Zinike ixesha lokuphola
Ubomi obubazi kwaye ubuthandayo kwaye wonwabile ngabo buhambile.
Endaweni yokuqhekeza kwaye unike umhlaba umboniso wasimahla, zitsale kunye.
Umtshato wakho uphelile, ubomi bakho abuphelelanga. Usaphila kakhulu. Kukho abantu abakuthandayo kwaye abakukhathaleleyo. Kufuneka ucinge ngabo. Buza uncedo lwabo kwaye zinike ixesha lokuphola nokulungisa umonakalo.
7. Fake it until uyenze
Ngokuqinisekileyo, iya kuba yipilisi enzima ukuyiginya.
Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha wokuphelelwa lithemba yenza 'ubuxoki kude kube uyenza' imantra yakho.
Ingqondo yakho ivulekile kakhulu kwiingcebiso, ukuba uya kuxoka ngokwaneleyo, iya kuqala ukukholelwa ubuxoki kwaye ke oko kuya kuba kukuzalwa kwenyani entsha.