Umxholo
- 1. Izinto zokuqala kuqala-inyathelo ukusuka kuzo zombini
- 2.Khuthaza ingxoxo ethembekileyo wakube ukwazi ukujongana nomyeni wakho
- 3.Buyela umva kwaye ujonge iipateni zakho zobudlelwane
- Funa ungenelelo lobungcali, nangayiphi na indlela
- Ngoku lixesha lokujongana nobuhlobo
- Songa
Umyeni wam wandiqhatha nomhlobo wam osenyongweni!
Isandi sale ngxelo sisodwa sidandathekisa kangangokuba nabacebisi ngemitshato abaqinisekisiweyo okanye oochwephesha bengqondo bayoyika ukoyikisa ukuphatha iimeko ezinjalo. Isizathu sokuba-
Ukungathembeki kubo nabuphi na ubudlelwane kuyonakalisa kakhulu.
Kuya kuba kubi ngokungathethekiyo kuye nawuphina umfazi afumanise ukuba elinye ibhinqa lingoyena mhlobo wakhe usenyongweni. Le yimeko yokungcatshiswa kabini kwaye ibuhlungu kakhulu. Ngapha koko, emva kokufunyanwa komcimbi, kukho indibaniselwano yeemvakalelo ezihamba nentlungu nokungcatsha.
Kukho umsindo kwaye kwezinye iimeko, ukuba ndindisholo kokubini kumhlobo wakho osenyongweni kunye nomyeni.
Nangona kunjalo, kwanaxa ujongene noku kungcatshwa kwabantu babini abasondeleyo kuwe, kubalulekile ukuba ungalahleki kulawulo lweemvakalelo zakho. Ukwenza oko kunokuba kwaye kuya kuba yingozi kakhulu ekuphulukaneni kwakho (ngendlela yokungabinakho ukuba nengxoxo eyakhayo) kunye nokuba sempilweni.
Ngeli xesha, kukho izigidi zemibuzo ebaleka engqondweni yakho, kwaye iba mbi ngakumbi xa kukho abantwana ababandakanyekayo. Uqala ukubuza ukubaluleka kwakho, ukuzithemba kwakho kuyehla kwaye amawaka eeflegi ezibomvu onokuthi ungazihoyi uqale ukukhukhula intloko yakho.
Kodwa, nokuba uziva eyona nto intle onokuyenza kukwahlukana nomyeni wakho kwaye nimlahle, kuhlala kukho ithemba. Kwaye ngakumbi kuxhomekeke kubukrakra bexesha lokukhohlisa- ixesha lokukhohlisa, ngubani omnye obandakanyekayo njl.
Apha ngezantsi kukho iingcebiso ezintlanu zobungcali kunye nezikhokelo ezicetyiswayo kuwo wonke umyeni wam endikhohlisile ngamatyala am omhlobo osenyongweni.
1. Izinto zokuqala kuqala-inyathelo ukusuka kuzo zombini
Oku kubaluleke kakhulu kuba ukothuka kunye nomsindo ohlasela owasetyhini koku kufumanisa kukhulu kakhulu, kunokwenzeka ukuba bakushiye ukrwada kwaye uhlawuliswe imeko yeemvakalelo ikwenza ungakufanelekeli ukubamba iingxoxo kuloo ndawo.
Kungaluncedo ukuba uziqhelele kude nomyeni wakho kunye nomhlobo wakho osenyongweni, ngakumbi kwiiyure zokuqala okanye kwiintsuku emva kokufunyanwa komcimbi lowo.
Oku kubalulekile njengoko kuya kukunika ubuncinci ixesha lokuqhubekeka zonke iimvakalelo zakho kwaye ucinge ukuba ungaqala ngaphi.
Ukuchitha ubusuku kwindawo yesihlobo sakho okanye kwenye indawo uwedwa kuya kubonakala kufanelekile de ube uziva ukwazi ukuzola nomyeni wakho.
2.Khuthaza ingxoxo ethembekileyo wakube ukwazi ukujongana nomyeni wakho
Nje ukuba uthathe ixesha lakho ukuzola kwaye ngoku uyakwazi ukuya kumyeni wakho, qiniseka ukuba umisela intetho ethembekileyo ngokungathembeki kwakhe.
Ngenkalipho nangokucacileyo cacisa indlela indlela aziphathe ngayo ekuchaphazele indlela aziphethe ngayo kwaye afune inkcazo ethe ngqo yezinto ezikhokelele kulwalamano. Kananjalo, ngokungathi uyazi yonke into enobuzaza bendlela umcimbi owaqala ngayo kunye nento ekhokelele kuwo ayinakukunciphisa iintlungu ozivayo okanye uziva, ukufumana ukuqonda okucacileyo kwesizathu sokuba ekukhohlisile kunokunika ukuqonda okungcono imeko yonke.
Oku kubaluleke kakhulu ekubekeni kwindlela elungileyo yokuphilisa kunye noxolelo, ukuvumela ukuba wenze izigqibo ezifanelekileyo kunye nezigqibo.
3.Buyela umva kwaye ujonge iipateni zakho zobudlelwane
Ngoku ukuba uneenkcukacha malunga nokuthandana, lixesha lokuba uphonononge iipateni zakho zobudlelwane.
Kwiimeko ezininzi, eminye imicimbi engaphandle komtshato isenokungabi yinto nje ezenzekelayo nengacwangciswanga njengokuba umntu efuna ukukholelwa. Oku mhlawumbi kukubonakaliswa kwengxaki enkulu, engaxinwanga emtshatweni ebisitya kubudlelwane bezempilo iminyaka.
Njengoko ugcina iinkcukacha zoluhlobo, kukhuselekile kuphela ukuskena umtshato wakho kwaye uzibuze imibuzo embalwa.
Benonwabile nobabini emtshatweni? Ngaba umtshato ubukhe wazifezekisa zombini iimfuno zakho? Ngaba nobabini niyakwazi ukunxibelelana kakuhle? Kuthiwani ngokusondelana ngokomzimba?
Ngandlela thile okanye enye, le mibuzo inokukunika nje into enokukunceda uye phambili nakweyiphi na izigqibo oza kuzenza.
Funa ungenelelo lobungcali, nangayiphi na indlela
Njengokuba umyeni wakho ethwele lonke uxanduva ngezenzo zakhe, kukho isidingo sokuqonda ukuba ukugxeka, ukubiza amagama okanye ukungaguquguquki kuya kunika lincinci malunga nokwenza izigqibo ezinolwazi.
Nokuba uthatha isigqibo sokuhlala uzama ukulungisa izinto okanye ucinga ukuba kungcono ukohlukana, nawuphina umsebenzi ongakuncedisiyo ukuqhubela phambili ngamandla amabi.
Kububulumko ukufuna uncedo kumcebisi oqeqeshiweyo okanye kwinkokeli yezenkolo nobabini niqhelene kwaye nikhululekile xa nithetha naye, ngakumbi ukuba uziva ungakwazi ukubamba iimvakalelo zakho.
Umcebisi oqeqeshiweyo unokukunceda ufunde iindlela ezintsha zonxibelelwano kunye nokuphumla. Kwangokunjalo, umcebisi ngemitshato oqeqeshiweyo ukwimeko entle yokukunceda uchonge kwaye uphonononge imiba enokubangela ukungathembeki ngumyeni wakho.
Ngoku lixesha lokujongana nobuhlobo
Zonke iimvakalelo zokungcatshwa, umsindo, kunye nosizi onazo malunga nomyeni wakho, kunokwenzeka ukuba uzive ngendlela efanayo ngomhlobo wakho osenyongweni.
Oko kuthetha ukuba yinto ekufuneka kujongwene nayo.
Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuhlala emtshatweni kwaye ulungise izinto nomyeni wakho, into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile kukunciphisa umda kunxibelelwano phakathi kwaba bantu babini kude kube lelo xesha unako ukuxoxa ngezinto nomhlobo wakho ngokuzola.
Kwangelo xesha, unokuthatha isigqibo sokuba ulungise ubudlelwane bakho nomhlobo wakho okanye hayi.
Ngaphandle kwesigqibo sakho, kusempilweni ukuhlala umhlobo wakho umazise ukuba ukuvisa kabuhlungu kangakanani kwaye uziva njani ngaye. Ngaphandle koko, unokusebenzisa iimpendulo zakhe ukwenza isigqibo sokuba kufanelekile ukugcina ukusukela ngoku okanye ukusika ubudlelwane naye.
Songa
Ukumamela ezinye zezi zinto umyeni wam andikhohlise ngazo ngamabali am omhlobo osenyongweni kuya kukubangela ukuba ukhale iinyembezi okanye kukwenze umsindo ngomsindo ongalawulekiyo.
Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, xa lithuba lakho, kwaye awunakukunceda okanye ufumanise ukuba yintoni elandelayo, la macebiso mahlanu aluncedo aya kuhamba ngendlela ekhokelela kwinto elandelayo.