Umxholo
- 1. Musa ukumcaphukisa umntu osele ephambene
- 2. Lala unomsindo okanye utyhafe ngosuku olulandelayo
- 3. Uzama ukutshintsha iqabane lakho? Ukulungele ukusilela
- 4. Ungaphili kwixesha elidlulileyo- iqabane lakho liya kufumba iikhilogram ezimbalwa
- 5. DUkutya ubusuku kuya kukugcinela umrhumo wokucetyiswa ngomtshato
Yonke imitshato inamahla ndinyuka, nokuba umgama ongakanani na kuhola wendlela womtshato uhambe okanye mhlawumbi uqala ngale ndlela. Sisoloko sifuna iingcebiso kunye namava obomi kubazali bethu okanye kubadala bethu abebenomtshato owonwabileyo naphakade kwaye, ngokusisiseko, iingcali kwezobudlelwane. Kodwa ngesiqhelo, iingcebiso zomtshato zihlala zibi kakhulu.
Ewe, ukwakha kunye nokutyala imali kubudlelwane bakho nabanye bakho obalulekileyo kufuneka kuthathwe ngokungathí sina, kodwa kukwakho icala elinentliziyo elula kunye nehlekisayo emtshatweni. Ukuzihlaziya kubalulekile ukwenza ubudlelwane busebenze.
Apha ngezantsi uzakufumana iingcebiso zomtshato ezihlekisayo zamadoda nabafazi
1. Musa ukumcaphukisa umntu osele ephambene
Thetha ngokuthe ngqo kwiqabane lakho; akukho ntloni kuloo nto. Uthi uxolo kuqala. Ayinamsebenzi. Mhlawumbi abajongi nokuxolisa kwaye benethemba lokuba ungaphakathi uza kuqala ukuthetha nabo kwakhona. Ukuhlala kude nomntu ohlala naye kuluhlobo kunzima.
Yiba yinto nje engaqhelekanga kwaye uvuse incoko endaweni yokufaka incoko nenja yakho okanye usana kwaye uzama ukuthumela imiyalezo kwiqabane lakho ngalo lonke eli xesha ukubukhathalele ngokupheleleyo ubukho babo egumbini.
Okokuqala, ngaba uyakwenza oko? Kungenxa yokuba oko kongeza nje ipetroli kwidangatye. Okwesibini, ngaba uyafuna nyani ukuthetha nesilwanyana sakho sasekhaya okanye umntwana oneminyaka eli-1 onokuthi akunike isikhafulo sokuphendula okanye ungathanda ukuba nomntu onokukuphendula kwizivakalisi ezakhiwe ngokufanelekileyo? Ndicinga ... le yokugqibela yeyona ndlela ibhetele. Unxibelelwano ngundoqo.
2. Lala unomsindo okanye utyhafe ngosuku olulandelayo
Ngamanye amaxesha, KULUNGILE ukulala unomsindo kunokuba uhlale ubusuku bonke kunye nokulwa. Kutheni ukhupha onke la mandla kwaye uhlale ixesha elidlulileyo nge-5 am ngaphandle kokufikelela kwisisombululo. Xa usazi ukuba nobabini niyaphambana kwaye abanakuyeka nokuba bayazibona iimpazamo zabo, kungcono ushiye umxholo. Guqula nje kwii-PJs zakho uze ungene ebhedini, tsala amaqweqwe kwaye wozele. Iyintoni injongo yokuhlala up?
Kwaye xa usebenza kwakusasa, ukuhlala ulwa kwaye kunokukhokelela ekubeni utyhafe kwaye wonqene nasemsebenzini (ngakumbi kunesiqhelo) kwaye oko kuya kukhokelela kwimood embi. Oku kuthetha, kungekuphela nje ukuba ubusuku bakho bonakalisiwe kodwa kunjalo nangosuku lwakho. Kwaye ngaphandle kokuba kunokwenzeka ngentsasa elandelayo, omnye wenu uza kuncama. Ukuba akunjalo, oku kuphumla kuya kukunika amandla aneleyo okuphumelela umlo ngosuku olulandelayo!
3. Uzama ukutshintsha iqabane lakho? Ukulungele ukusilela
UBetina Arndt uthe, "Abasetyhini banethemba lokuba amadoda aza kutshintsha emva komtshato, kodwa awenzi njalo; amadoda athemba ukuba abafazi abayi kutshintsha, kodwa bayatshintsha.”
Cinga ngomtshato njengesivumelwano "Njengokuba kunjalo", yile nto uyifumanayo kwaye yeyona ilungileyo unokufumana. Sukuzama ukutshintsha omnye komnye kuba ungaphinde uyifumane 'intle'. Uyayazi into obuyityikitya xa usithi "ndiyayenza," kutheni ke uzama ukuyitshintsha ngoku? Nathandana ngazo zonke iziphene ngaphambi kokuba nitshate; uyakufumana indlela yokuthandana kunye nezo mpazamo emva kokutshata.
4. Ungaphili kwixesha elidlulileyo- iqabane lakho liya kufumba iikhilogram ezimbalwa
Yonke into ihlala itshintsha ngokuhamba kwexesha, nabantu ke. Siyatyeba, siphulukane neenwele, sifumane amabala kunye nemibimbi, kwaye ezinye izinto ezininzi zenzeka apha endleleni. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba umntu ongaphakathi utshintshile; basekhona kakhulu. Madoda, kuphephe ukumncoma ngendlela awayehlala enxiba ngayo ezingasamfaneliyo. Kwiinzame zokumonwabisa ngakumbi, uza kumcaphukisa.
Mxelele ukuba ujonge kangakanani ngeli xesha. Bonke abantu ababhinqileyo bafuna ingqalelo yakho kunye nezinye izincomo.Kwaye manenekazi, musani ukulindela ukuba indoda yenu izise iintyatyambo nedayimani ngalo lonke ixesha. Ngokuqinisekileyo, wayeqhele ukwenza loo nto ngaphambili kubudlelwane, kodwa ngoku nina ninekamva eliza kwakhiwa. Gcina loo mali uyenzela abantwana bakho! Ngaphandle koko, gxila kwizinto ezincinci. Mhlawumbi ukhuphe inkunkuma, okanye mhlawumbi wahlamba izitya okanye wacoca ikhaphethi. Zizinto ezincinci ezibalulekileyo emtshatweni.
5. DUkutya ubusuku kuya kukugcinela umrhumo wokucetyiswa ngomtshato
Uphando lubonisa ukuba abantu abathandanayo abathandanayo, bahlala kunye. Ukubaleka kwezothando kuhlala kumnandi. Asinguye wonke umntu onokukwazi ukuhlawula uhambo oluya kwiziqithi ezingaqhelekanga, kodwa wonke umntu uqinisekile unokufumana isidlo esimnandi, sothando kwindawo yokutyela ekufuphi rhoqo emva kwexesha. Shiya abantwana ekhaya kunye nomgcini womntwana kwaye uphume uye kwindawo yokutyela entsha entle evule nje idolophu okanye mhlawumbi uye kwindawo yokutyela apho wawunomhla wakho wokuqala. Ngokuqinisekileyo oko kuya kubuyisa iinkumbulo ezininzi ezimnandi.
Njengokudibanisa, usithi "Masiphume!" inokukunceda ukuphepha impikiswano okanye ikuncede uyifihle into yokuba wena (uphinde) ulibale ukwenza isidlo sangokuhlwa njengoko ubuthembisile. Ngamafutshane, izibini, ezinokudlala kwaye zihleke kunye kwaye zinokuba zizo kunye, zihlala ziphela zihlala kunye.