Ngokwesiqhelo, izibini ezininzi zijongana nengxwabangxwaba emtshatweni wazo ngenxa yobudlelwane obubi phakathi kwabo bobabini. Ngo-2013, iinkcukacha-manani ziveze ukuba iipesenti ezili-11 zezibini ezahluliweyo zityhola uqhawulo-mtshato ngenxa yokungahlali kakuhle nabantu basebukhweni. Nangona eli nani lingaphakamanga ngokuphawulekayo, iyasothusa okoko umtshato ungaze uphele ngenxa yobudlelwane obubi ngenxa yabangaphandle (bomtshato).
Ebomini, ayikaze ilunge into yokuba nolwalamano olonakeleyo kwaye njengoko sikhula le nto iba yinyani. Njengabantu, uninzi lwethu luzama ukuphila ubomi obukhuthazayo, obunomvuzo nobulungileyo. Sifuna ukukhunjulwa ngezinto ezimangalisayo esizenzileyo ebomini bethu, hayi izinto ezimbi esizenzileyo endleleni. Enye indlela yokuqinisekisa ukuba inkumbulo yethu ihlala ihleli ngokulindela kukulungisa nokwakha nakuphi na ubudlelwane obuqhekekileyo obunokubakho.
Ukuba ujongene nobunzima ekulungiseni ubudlelwane bakho nabazala bakho, kodwa ngokunyanisekileyo ufuna ukusombulula imicimbi, sinika ezi ngcebiso zilandelayo ukwenza oku kube lula kakhulu:
Kuqala qonda ukuba ubudlelwane bakho nabantu basebukhweni bakho buwuchaphazela njani umtshato wakho
- Iqabane lakho lingaziva libuhlungu okanye licinge ukuba awubaxabisi ngokwaneleyo abazali bakhe
- Ixesha losapho, njengeeholide, linokungcoliswa ngenxa yobudlelwane obubi
- Abantwana banokuchaphazeleka kwaye bazive bethandekile
- Iimvakalelo zonzakele kwaye neendlela zonxibelelwano azinakuqondwa
Iindlela zokuphucula ubudlelwane bakho nabazali bakho
Ukwenzela ukunciphisa umda woxinzelelo olubekwe emtshatweni wakho ngenxa yobudlelwane obubi kunye nabazali bakho, landela le ngcebiso ingezantsi kwaye ubone ukuba ungaluqinisa njani ulwalamano lwakho nabazali bakho.
- Vumela ukuxolela kwaye uqhubeke-ukubamba iimvakalelo zomsindo okanye ingqumbo kuya kukwenzakalisa, hayi umntu obangela intlungu. Zivumele ukhululeke kwintlungu kwaye uqhubele phambili kwizinto ezibaluleke ngakumbi nezixabisekileyo ebomini bakho.
- Endaweni yokuba ubacaphukise, mhlawumbi zama ukuqonda imeko yabo kwaye ubachazele kakuhle eyakho. Ewe xa ucaphukile, izakhono zonxibelelwano zinokubandezeleka. Zilungiselele ngaphambi kokuba ube nalo naluphi na uhlobo lwencoko ngokuzikhumbuza ukuba uhlale uzolile kwaye uchithe umzuzwana ucinga kwaye uqhubekeka ngaphambi kokuphendula.
- Thatha isigqibo sokubeka okwakwenziwe ngaphambili emva kwakho - Yiza kwisivumelwano sokuba okwenziweyo okanye okwathethwa kwixesha elidlulileyo kuya kuhlala kulapho; Akufanele kuxoxwe okanye kusetyenziswe kwakhona kwincoko kamva. Oku kuyakunceda ukupholisa ngentlungu enokubangelwa kukuvumela ukuba uzive ukhululekile kulo mbandela kunye nokubanakho ukukuchaphazela kwakhona.
- Qala ngokuqhubela phambili ngokwakha kubudlelwane bakho- Xa ixesha lilungile, qala ukwakha kancinci kancinci kulwalamano lwakho nabazali bakho. Mhlawumbi ngokubamema kwitheko losapho okanye kwindibano encinci ekhayeni lakho.
Nangona ebomini siza kudibana nolwalamano olubi, oko akuthethi ukuba lonke ulwalamano alunakulungiswa. Amaxesha amaninzi, ukuba iindlela zonxibelelwano ezicacileyo zinokuvulwa kwaye iimvakalelo zovelwano zinokuviwa, uninzi lolwalamano lwethu luyakwazi ukumelana novavanyo lwexesha.