Umxholo
- Landela ukhokelo lomntwana wesibini
- Bancede bazive “beqhelekile”
- Uqeqesho olusebenzayo
- Bathande ngaphandle kokungamkelwa
- Bonisa uthando ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo
- Fumana iindlela zokudibanisa
Mhlawumbi ufumene iqabane eligqibeleleyo, kodwa sele enabantwana, kwaye oko kwenza izinto zibe nzima. Usenokude uzibuze ukuba ingaba lo mtshato ungasebenza nabantwana kumxube. Ngaba abantwana baya kukuthanda? Buza kujongeka njani ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla naba bantwana? Ngaba uya kubathanda? Kuninzi okunokuthile ukuba ngaba kule meko.
Yiba nenkuthalo kwaye usebenze nzima ukukhulisa ubudlelwane nabantwana beqabane lakho ngoku nakwixesha elizayo. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokujongana nabantwana bomtshato wesibini.
Landela ukhokelo lomntwana wesibini
Ungaziva unexhala lokukhulisa ubudlelwane nomntwana wakho wesibini ngokukhawuleza, kodwa banokuziva belumke kakhulu. Qaphela ukuba ngekhe ubanyanzele ukuba bavuleleke kuwe; ukuyinyanzela ukuba ikhuphe kungabenza babuye umva nangakumbi. Hlonipha indawo yabo kunye nesantya sabo. Mhlawumbi baya kufuna ukuthatha izinto ngokuthe chu kunye nawe. Khumbula, abazali bomntwana abasekho kunye, kwaye oko kuye kwagungqisa umhlaba wabo. Ungumntu omtsha ongumfuziselo wento engasebenziyo. Banokuziva ngathi uzama ukuthatha indawo yomnye umzali. Banike ixesha lokuba babone ukuba wena ungumntu owahlukileyo nabo ubathandayo, kwaye banako ukukuthemba.
Bancede bazive “beqhelekile”
Khumbula ukuba ilizwe labo lahluke mpela kwinto abaziqhelileyo. Ngaphambi kokuba utshate umzali wabo, banokuba babenononophelo kunye nexesha elininzi naloo mzali; Kusenokwenzeka ukuba benze ezinye izinto ongazifuniyo. Bancede bazive "beqhelekile" kobu bomi butsha. Khuthaza ixesha elinye nelinye phakathi komntwana nomzali ngaphandle kwakho. Oku kuyabanceda bazive beqhagamshelene naloo mzali, kwaye ekugqibeleni baya kuthi baqonde ukuba sisiphi na isipho osinikayo ngokuvumela olo lwalamano ukuba lukhule ngaphandle kokuba ubekhona.
Uqeqesho olusebenzayo
Ukuba ungumzali wesibini, usenokoyika ukohlwaya umntwana wakho wesibini. Zama ukungabikho. Eyona nto unokuyenza ukukhulisa ukuthembana kunye nokuqala ukwakha ubudlelwane kunye nabo kungqeqesho. Ngokucacileyo abayi kuyithanda ekuqaleni-ukuthatha amalungelo okanye ezinye isohlwayo kuwe kunokubonakala kungafanelekanga kubo-kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha baya kukhula bakuhloniphe. Qhubeka uxoxa neqabane lakho ngendlela eniza kohlwaya ngayo nobabini. Soloko ubakwiphepha elinye. Emva koko landela ixesha ngalinye. Abantwana bayakufuna ukungaguquguquki, ngakumbi kule ntsapho intsha inamandla.
Bathande ngaphandle kokungamkelwa
Ngokukodwa ekuqaleni, umntwana wakho wesibini akasayi kukwamkela. Kuya kuba nzima ukungayithathi ngokobuqu, kodwa oko kubalulekile kwimpumelelo yosapho lwakho. Gcina iliso lakho kwixesha elide. Khumbula ukuba abantwana bathatha ixesha ukukhula nokukhula; Oko kubandakanya ukucinga ngendlela ongathanda ngayo omnye umntu ngaphandle kwezihlobo zegazi. Yenza isigqibo ngoku nokuba ungathini, uya kubathanda. Bamkele ukuba bangobani, nokuba awuqhelananga nawe. Banike uthando, kwaye ekugqibeleni, baya kwamkela nawe ukuba ungubani.
Bonisa uthando ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo
Abantwana balujonga ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo uthando. Abanye banqwenela ukuxelelwa ukuba "Ndiyakuthanda," kwaye abanye baziva bencwina xa bexelelwa oko. Abanye bayakuthanda ukwangiwa nokuhaxwa, ukanti abanye bakhetha ukungachukunyiswa, ngakumbi ngumzali wesibini. Zama ukufumanisa ulwimi lothando lomntwana wakho wesibini, kwaye ubonise uthando lwakho ngeendlela abaziqonda kakhulu. Ukunika ixesha lakho kunye nengqwalaselo yeyona nto iphambili kuluhlu, kodwa yomeleze ngokubachazela ukuba ucinga ukuba bangakanani. Kwakhona, ukuba nesimo sengqondo sothando kunye nokwamkelwa kuya kuhamba indlela ende.
Fumana iindlela zokudibanisa
Wena kunye nomntwana wakho wesibini aninakufana kakhulu, nto leyo enokwenza ukuba uzive ungenakwenzeka ukuba uya kuze ukwazi ukunxibelelana. Uya kuthetha ngantoni? Yintoni eninokuyenza kunye? Cinga ngaphandle kwebhokisi kule. Mhlawumbi ungade uye ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela kwaye ubonise umdla kwinto ayithandayo umntwana wakho wesibini. Ngaba ngenene band? Qiniseka ukuba uya kuzo zonke iikonsathi zabo. Ngaba bayakuthanda ukunyuka? Bathengele incwadi yokunyuka uhambo kunye nenqaku lencwadi eninokuqhubeka kunye. Kungathatha iinzame ezimbalwa ukufumana into ekuncedayo ukunxibelelana, kodwa umgudu uya kuba kufanelekile.