Umxholo
- Kukuthini ukuzilondoloza?
- Inyathelo 1: Cinga uloyiko lwakho
- Inyathelo 2: Chonga ukuba uyalithemba na iqabane lakho
- Inyathelo 3: Thetha ngokoyika kunye neenkxalabo zakho
- Inyathelo 4: Chonga ezona zinto zibalulekileyo emtshatweni wakho
Ngaba ukhe uhlale phantsi unqwenele ukuba izinto zahluke emtshatweni wakho? Ngaba ufumana ukuphikisana rhoqo okanye umlo wemfazwe owenza ukuba umtshato wakho ube ngamava adinisayo kunokuba kufuneka ukuba abe njalo? Ngokuqinisekileyo, kuya kubakho ukungavisisani emtshatweni; sonke singabantu kwaye sinezimvo zethu kunye nokukhetha kwethu. Nangona kunjalo, kuhlawula ukwazi ukungavumelani esidlangalaleni nangendlela ehambisa isenzo kunye nengxoxo phambili emtshatweni.
Usenokuzibuza ukuba ungawutshintsha njani umsinga okanye uqalise utshintsho kubudlelwane bakho. Ewe, indawo enye ebalulekileyo ukuqala ngokuvavanya i-drive yakho yokuzikhusela. Ngokunyaniseka qwalasela le mibuzo ilandelayo: 1) Ngaba ndivumelekile ukuba ndizenze ezinye iindlela zokwenza izinto emtshatweni wam? 2) Ngaba ndicaphuka msinya okanye ndikhathazeke xa ndingafumani ndlela yam? 3) Ngaba ndiziva ndisoyikiswa xa ndiziva ngathi andilawuli kubudlelwane bam okanye indlu yam? 4) Ngaba kuya kufuneka ndifike kwinqanaba lam okanye ndiphumelele ngaphandle kweendleko? Ukuba uphendule ngo-ewe kule mibuzo, unokufumana ukhuseleko olukhulu lokuzigcina. Ngelixa ukuzilondoloza kunokuba luncedo, yithi xa uhamba ze kwaye usoyika usele embindini weAmazon, kunokuba yinto engenampumelelo kwaye kungonakalisa umtshato wakho!
Kukuthini ukuzilondoloza?
Isichazi-magama seMerriam-Webster sichaza ukuzikhusela “njengokuzikhusela ekutshatyalalisweni okanye ekonzakalisweni” kunye “notyekelo lwendalo okanye lwendalo lokwenza izinto ukuze sikhusele ubomi bethu.” Ngoku ukuba ubambekile kumtshato oxhaphazayo okanye kunye neqabane elikhohlisayo okanye elinyanzelisayo, gcina kumhlobo wam. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uyakholelwa ukuba iqabane lakho liyathandeka ngokubanzi kwaye ufuna ukuphucula umtshato wakho, ke idrive yokuzalwa yokulondoloza ubukho bakho kufuneka incitshiswe. Emtshatweni ABABINI babe BANYE. Izandi zigqithile? Isenokuba njalo, kodwa xa ubhangqiwe kunye neqabane elifanelekileyo akukho nto igqithileyo, okanye eyonakalisayo, malunga nayo. Umtshato uye ubelula xa omabini amaqabane ephila le “bulumko bube nye”. Awusekho njengeziko elinye xa usenzile isibhambathiso. Ukuba kukho nawuphi na umonakalo okanye ingozi apho, ihlala ngaphakathi koyiko lokuba sesichengeni kunye notshintsho (kodwa sisihloko esahlukileyo esifanelwe yiposti yayo yebhlog!). Xa usiba nye neqabane lakho, niyazama ukuqonda ukuba nina neqabane lakho nifuna ntoni njengeyunithi. Emva koko qhubela phambili ukufezekisa ngokudibeneyo. Endaweni yokugcina intuthuzelo, ukhetho, isimbo, kunye nezimvo zakho, kwezinye ezingapheliyo 'wonke umntu umdlalo wakhe', uzinikezela kweyona nto isebenza ngokusemtshatweni. Ndiyaqonda ukuba umngcipheko kunye nolawulo lokuyeka kunokuba yinto eyoyikisayo. Usenokungazi nokuba uziphathe njani ngokwahlukileyo kunendlela obuziphethe ngayo ngoku.
Nanga amanyathelo ambalwa okutshintsha ukusuka kulondolozo lwe-SELF ukuya kulondolozo lwe-US. Ndichaza ukugcinwa kwe-US njengemvakalelo ephucukileyo yokugcina umtshato wakho ekutshatyalalisweni okanye ekonakaleni, kubandakanya nomonakalo owenzayo xa usenza ngathi uyinto yokuzilawula (ewe, benditshilo). Naku sisiya...
Inyathelo 1: Cinga uloyiko lwakho
Cinga ngento oyoyikayo ukuba iza kwenzeka ukuba uya uguquguquka kwaye uvule utshintsho kumtshato wakho.
Inyathelo 2: Chonga ukuba uyalithemba na iqabane lakho
Misela ukuba uyalithemba na iqabane lakho njengomntu onyanisekileyo, ofuna okuhle emtshatweni, kwaye onobuchule okanye onakho ukuhambisa izimvo kunye nemibono efanelekileyo. Ukuba akunjalo, unomsebenzi wokwenyani wokuvavanya ukuba kutheni ungakwazi (okanye ungazukuthemba) iqabane lakho kwezi ndlela.
Inyathelo 3: Thetha ngokoyika kunye neenkxalabo zakho
Yenze ngendlela eza kunceda iqabane lakho liqonde indlela yokunceda ukukhathaza iinkxalabo zakho kunye nokulungisa imiba.
Inyathelo 4: Chonga ezona zinto zibalulekileyo emtshatweni wakho
Hlala phantsi neqabane lakho nichaze ezona mpawu ziphambili nifuna ukuzigcina emtshatweni wenu. Emva koko cacisa amagama aphambili okubandakanya ukuze uxoxe ngeembono ezahlukeneyo ngentlonipho, uthando, kunye nokuzimela xa ixesha lifikile. Kutheni uqala iMfazwe Yehlabathi III ekhayeni lakho ukuba awunyanzelekanga.
UGandhi uthe lolu lutshintsho onqwenela ukulubona emhlabeni; Ndithi yinguqu ofuna ukuyibona emtshatweni wakho. Ndiyakumema ukuba usebenzise oko ukufumene kuluncedo ukubonisa kwaye uqale ukutshintsha i-tide kumtshato wakho. Kude kube lixesha elizayo, khumbula, thanda womelele, kwaye uphile kakuhle!