Umxholo
- Ungayeka njani ukuba nomona kubudlelwane
- Yakha ukuzithemba kwakho
- Ungayeka njani ukuba nomona nokulawula
- Umona ngu b * * * *
Ikhwele liqabane elibi; iyathanda ukuthelekelela iimeko ezinokuthi zonakalise usuku lwakho kwaye zilicaphukise iqabane lakho.
Ihlala ihlebeza iingcinga ezimbi ezindlebeni zakho ude ukholelwe ukuba iqabane lakho lingumtyholi.
Inokujongeka intle ngaxa lithile kwaye ibethe i-ego yeqabane lakho. Okwangoku, ekuhambeni kwexesha, kuyakwenza iintanda ezingenakulungiswa kwisiseko sobudlelwane bakho.
Oko kwathiwa, kukhokelela kuphela kwiintlekele.
Ke siyazibuza ukuba singayeka njani ukuba nomona? Ungayeka njani ukuba nomona ngokonakalisa ulwalamano lwethu?
Nantsi ingxaki, ngekhe.
Ungayeka njani ukuba nomona kubudlelwane
Ukuba umthanda ngokwenene umntu, awunakunceda ukuba nomona ngaxesha lithile.
Yindlela yokuphendula yendalo ukuthandana, kwaye kwenzeka kweyona nto ilungileyo kuthi. Into onokuyenza kukunciphisa ixesha lokuba nomona kwaye ube ngumntu okhulileyo ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungaze uphendule kuye xa kusenzeka.
Xa sibamonela umntu ngothando, hayi uhlobo lomona esivakalelwa ngalo xa umntu eqhuba iFerrari ecaleni kwemoto yakho ephelelwe lixesha, ichaphazela ukuzithemba kwethu.
Siva ngathi umntu othile ungenelela kwindawo yethu, kwaye ichaphazela ukuzixabisa kwethu njengomntu. Asikwazi ukulawula indlela esivakalelwa ngayo, kodwa sinokulawula indlela esisabela ngayo kuyo.
Uninzi lwabantu abalinganiswa beAlfa bayayinyanzela indawo yabo okwangoku. Ihlala ikhokelela kwimilo nakwiimpikiswano. Kodwa kunokukhokelela kwisisombululo esikhawulezileyo xa ihlosi lidibana nekatana. Ingomeleza ubudlelwane phakathi kwamaqabane ukuba baziva bekhuselekile kwaye bevunywa liqabane labo leAlfa.
Kodwa xa iTiger idibana neNyoka, iba ligazi.
Ke ukuba ungumntu ka-Alfa, funda indlela yokuyibamba indawo yakho ngaphandle kokukhokelela kuphalazo-gazi. Unokwazi ukubaleka nayo, kodwa iya konakalisa imini yomntu wonke. Akukho mntu uyifunayo.
Ke umntu uyeka njani ukuba nomona kubudlelwane? Awunayo, kuya kufuneka uzilawule kunye neemvakalelo zakho ukuze uqiniseke ukuba izinto azibi mbi. Ukuba iqabane lakho liqela elikhuthazayo kwaye lidlala ngothando ngokukhululekileyo nabanye abantu phambi kwakho, yingxaki eyahlukileyo iyonke.
Beka imithetho-siseko, yiba kwiphepha elinye neqabane lakho. Qiniseka ukuba nobabini niyaziqonda izinto ezenza elinye iqabane libe nomona.
Yakha ukuzithemba kwakho
Ikhwele likwayenye indlela yokungazithembi. Ukuba ufuna ukwazi ukuba ungayeka njani ukuba nomona kunye nokungazithembi, kuyakufuneka ukuba uzixabise. Kweli hlabathi liphezulu, ukuzithemba okuphezulu kwahlukile kubuntu obunomdla.
Ukuba uyathemba kwaye ukholelwa ekubeni ubambe kangangokuba iqabane lakho alinakuze likucinge nokukukhohlisa ngenxa yokoyika ukulahlekelwa nguwe, awunakufane ube nomona.
Kodwa kukho umgca omncinci phakathi kokuzithemba okuphezulu kunye ne-narcissism. Ngamanye amagama, kukutolika phakathi kokuthembana nokukhohlisa.
Ukuba uyakhohlisa, yeyona ndlela ibalaseleyo yokuyeka ukuba nomona, kodwa oko kuyakusombulula ingxaki enye kwaye kwenziwe ezintsha.
Ukuba uyamthemba umlingane wakho ngokwaneleyo kwaye ukholelwa ukuba ubudlelwane babo kunye nawe bukhetheke kakhulu, ke uziva ukhuselekile. Ingxaki yindlela yokwenza umahluko phakathi kwezi zimbini. Enye ingxaki kukuba uyakhohlisa, ngekhe uphinde uyiqonde.
Ke thetha neqabane lakho malunga nesangqa sakho sethemba. Jonga ukuba ukuthembela kwakho kusekwe kwiinyani kwaye ayisiyiyo indlela yokuziva ubalulekile. Iqabane lakho liya kukuxelela ukuba wena kunye nolwalamano lwakho uthetha ntoni kubo.
Ungayeka njani ukuba nomona nokulawula
Umona ukwangolawulo.
Uziva unomona kuba ucinga ukuba kukho umntu ojozayo engceni yakho. Uninzi lwamadoda nabafazi lubonisa umona "ekubeni izinto zabo." Okokuqala, iqabane lakho aliyiyo ipropati yakho. Bangumntu ophefumlayo ophilileyo osebenzise inkululeko yabo yokuzikhethela ukukhetha ukuba kunye nawe.
Awubenabo, abanabanikazi, unokuqonda kunye nokuzibophelela.
Okomzuzu uziva unomona kuba ucinga iqabane lakho njengelifa endaweni yomphefumlo okhululekileyo okhethe ukuthanda nokuba nawe, ikwayenye ingxaki xa iyonke.
Ukufumana ingxaki yingxaki.
Ukuba umona wakho ubangelwa kukungabinakho, oko kukuthi, luphawu nje lokuziphatha gwenxa okukhulu.
Funda ukujongana nobutyebi kulwalamano. Iya kuthi, ngokungathi kunjalo, ikufundise indlela yokuyeka ukuba nomona. Funda ukuhlonipha iqabane lakho njengomntu. Ndiyathemba ukuba bayayazi imida yabo.
Bangabantu abanengqondo abanakho ukwenza ukhetho olufanelekileyo (ngethemba) ngokwabo. Ukuba abakakhuli ngokwaneleyo ukuba benze ukhetho olufanelekileyo, emva koko, yingxaki eyahlukileyo leyo, kwaye umona yeyona nto iphantsi kwiingxaki zakho.
Thatha indlela ephezulu uyeke ukuba ngumnini kunye nokulawula.
Ukuba uyamthanda umntu, kwaye bayaqhubeka nokwenza ukhetho oluphosakeleyo kubudlelwane bakho, ke lixesha lokuba uphinde uphonononge ubudlelwane bakho xa bebonke. Umona ugwetyelwe. Le nto uyivayo ilungile.
Umona ngu b * * * *
Musa ukuba mnye.
Umona ukhokelela kutoliko olugwenxa, olukhokelela kwizenzo ezinokuthi zonakalise ubudlelwane. Awunako ukunceda ukuba nomona amaxesha ngamaxesha, kwaye kungomeleza ubudlelwane bakho.
Kodwa ukurhabaxa kunye nokulawula intlalontle ngekhe kukhokelele kwisiphelo esonwabisayo.
Ukuba umthanda ngokwenene umntu kwaye uyikhathalele ubudlelwane bakho. Yiba nengxoxo esondeleyo malunga nokungaqiniseki kwakho.
Isibini esisempilweni siyazi kwaye siyaqonda amandla omnye komnye kunye nobuthathaka. Abanakuze balimaze ngabom ulwalamano lwakho ngenjongo yolonwabo. Ekuphela kwendlela yokufezekisa inqanaba lokusondelelana kukuxoxa ngalo (emva kwesondo kulungile).
Ukucinga ukuba eyakho imigaqo eyingozi iyingozi, ngakumbi ukuba iqabane lakho likwi-Myers-Briggs iintlobo zobuntu ezithandwayo.
Ke ukuba ufuna ukwazi eyona ndlela yokuyeka umona, yiba neqabane elisondeleyo nelokuqonda elingasokuze likwenze uzive ngaloo ndlela.