Umxholo
- Inyathelo 1: Ziqhelise ukwamkelwa
- Inyathelo 2: Inkqubo yelahleko
- Inyathelo 3: Cinga ngezenzo zakho ngexesha lenkqubo yokuhlawula
Ke iintsimbi zomtshato zinomhlwa, iiroli ezomileyo ezomileyo apho ubukhe wema khona kwiifoto zakho zomtshato kwaye umtshato wakho uziva ngokufanayo.
Akukho mntu utshata umtshato.Nokuba ungoyena mntu ufuna ukuphuma, okanye akunjalo, nokuba utshatile ngenxa yezizathu ezilungileyo nezingalunganga awuyi kulonwabela ulwahlulo namava oqhawulo-mtshato. Akunjalo. Kodwa ngaba ukwahlukana noqhawulo-mtshato kufuneka lube nzima? Ngaba ikhona indlela yokusebenzisana ngexesha lenkqubo, endaweni yokufumana iingxoxo ezingenakubalwa kunye nobukrakra? Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba uqhawule umtshato phantsi kweemeko ezinzima kwaye ungabinamava, okanye ubonakalise umsindo, ubuhlungu kunye nokukrakra omnye komnye?
Ukuba omnye, okanye bobabini boniwe ngandlel 'ithile, kunokuba nzima ukubeka ecaleni umonzakalo, umsindo kunye noloyiko ongaqinisekanga ukuba uhlangabezana nalo. Kwezinye iimeko, iimvakalelo ezingonwabisiyo zinokubangelwa zizenzo ezifihlakeleyo, zokuzingca okanye ezingenabubele komnye okanye komnye, okanye kuni nobabini ekunokuba nzima ukubalahla. Kwaye khange siqalise nakwiindawo zokuhlala zoqhawulo-mtshato ezinokuba yimeko evuselelayo. Akumangalisi ukuba uqhawulo-mtshato nokwahlukana lixesha elinzima.
Kukho eminye imitshato, ethi ngaphandle kokuva imfesane omnye komnye, kunye nomnqweno wokulungelana omnye nomnye, kusafuneka iphele kuqhawulo mtshato. Kunokubakho nakuphi na ukungalunganga omnye komnye, kodwa umgama, okanye iyantlukwano ekukhetheni indlela yokuphila, intlungu engasonjululwanga, okanye ukungazivezi ezona zilungileyo omnye komnye kukhokelela kwisigqibo sokwahlukana ngeendlela. Kule meko, kunokubakho ithuba lokufumana uqhawulo mtshato olumnandi nolungena zintlungu.
Kodwa kuko konke ukunyaniseka, xa kufikwa kuqhawulo-mtshato nokwahlukana, akunakulindeleka ukuba amava angabi nabuhlungu. Ngoku, asitsho ukuba sikhuthaze ingqumbo kunye nobukrakra ukuba buchazelwe omnye nomnye njengoko uhamba kwinkqubo yoqhawulo-mtshato nokwahlukana. Kodwa ngakumbi ukuze uvume ukuba oku kuyakwenzeka, kwaye uqonde ukuba kutheni uhlangabezana nezinto ohlangabezana nazo.
Umsindo, unxunguphalo, ubukrakra kunye neemvakalelo ezibuhlungu ziphantse ziyinkqubo yendalo xa isibini sihamba ngoqhawulo-mtshato nokwahlukana. Kodwa ukuba unokuyivuma kwaye uyamkele, ubuhlungu kunye nokukrakra kunethuba lokuncitshiswa, kusonjululwe, kwaye kude kuxolelaniswe nowayesakuba ngumyeni okanye inkosikazi yakho kunokuba kudityaniswe, kubaxiwe kwaye kukhawuleziswe.
Nantsi indlela onokwenza ngayo uqhawulo-mtshato nokwahlukana kube lula kancinci kwaye ukwazi ukubuyela kubomi bakho obutsha ngaphandle kwamanxeba edabi angadingi kwenzeka.
Nazi iindlela ezi-3 ezinokuthi zikulungiselele ngokukhawuleza ukufumana kwakhona ukwahlukana okanye uqhawulo-mtshato
Inyathelo 1: Ziqhelise ukwamkelwa
Nantsi inyani ethembekileyo malunga nokwahlukana noqhawulo-mtshato. Awuyi kufumana yonke into oyifunayo kwindawo yoqhawulo mtshato. Awuyi kwenza iqabane lakho langaphambili lihlawulele iimpazamo zabo, okanye ubafundise isifundo, nokuba uyabalimaza epokothweni, okanye ngamazwi abuhlungu. Uya kuziva ukhathazekile, unomsindo kwaye unomsindo. Lixesha elinzima, eloyikisayo nelidlakadlaka kwaye akukho nto unokuyithetha okanye uyenze enokukuthintela ukuba ungadluli kule ntlungu.
Nangona kunjalo, iintlungu zezokwexeshana, ziyadlula. Ubomi buya kuba ngcono, uya kufunda kwiimpazamo zakho, kwaye awuyi kukhathalela nokuba umyeni okanye inkosikazi yakho yangaphambili ifundile kweyabo. Kuza kuba nzima, kodwa kuyakubakho amaxesha nakumava anzima apho uya kuba nakho ukonwaba, ithemba kunye nokonwaba-nokuba kungathi kusibekele kodwa uyakuba namaxesha anelanga kwixa elizayo. Uninzi lwabo.
Ukuyeka umtshato, kunye nokwamkela ukuba ubomi buza kuba ngamafu okwethutyana-ukubetha amaqhekeza kunye nokuqinisa uqhwithela. Ukuze ugcine amandla akho ukwakha ubomi bakho kunye nokunciphisa ukongeza iintlungu okanye iintlungu. Ukwamkela ukuba awuyi kufumana yonke into ngendlela oyifunayo kwisivumelwano sokuqhawula umtshato, okanye nakubomi bakho ngoku kubalulekile. Yamkela ukuba izinto zinzima okwexeshana, kwaye uza kubuya umva, kwaye izinto ziya kuba ngcono kwaye ziyaqaqamba kwikamva. Oku kwamkelwa kuya kukunceda ugcine amandla, uphilise, ujonge kwikamva kwaye uqhubeke.
Inyathelo 2: Inkqubo yelahleko
Nokuba uyafuna ukushiya umtshato okanye hayi. Ukuba iqabane lakho belinzima, nokuba libi, okanye liyamangalisa. Ngokwendalo uya kuva imvakalelo yelahleko, ngokuba yayiyintoni, ibiyintoni, ibiyintoni, ibingekho kwaye ucinga ukuba ubomi bakho buya ngaphi. Uninzi lwezibini ngexesha lokwahlukana noqhawulo-mtshato zinokuyivelisa le lahleko kumaqabane abo exesha langaphambili, ngomsindo, i-snipes, impindezelo kunye nobukrakra. Kodwa sisiphazamiso, into abayiphephayo yintlungu yokuphulukana nephupha.
Thatha ixesha lokukuvuma oku, kwaye ube buhlungu (nokuba uyavuya ukukhululeka kubudlelwane). Ukulila kuya kukuvumela ukuba uqhubeke ngokukhawuleza xa ulungele, kunokuba uthabathe iziqwenga iminyaka emva koko.
Inyathelo 3: Cinga ngezenzo zakho ngexesha lenkqubo yokuhlawula
Inkqubo yokulungisa imeko yoxinzelelo, kwaye kweminye imitshato, ixesha elinzima. Ukujonga indlela ozithatha ngayo izigqibo kunye nokuziphatha, kuya kunceda ukuhambisa indawo encangathi yoqhawulo mtshato nokwahlukana. Oku kucinga kuya kukuyekisa ekuboniseni ukwenzakala kwakho kwi-ex yakho kwaye kubangele uxinzelelo olongezelelekileyo.
Ungazami ukufumana into ongayifuniyo kwisivumelwano ngenxa yokuba unako, okanye ngenxa yokuba uyazi ukuba iqabane lakho liyayifuna. Sukusebenzisa abantwana ngokuchasene nomnye. Sebenza ne-ex yakho ukufumana isisombululo sabantwana esingabangeli kungqubana. Kodwa ke, kuya kufuneka uhlale womelele kwaye umele isabelo sakho esilinganayo nesifanelekileyo. Kwiimeko ezinje, ukulunga kuhlala kuyindlela yokuhamba.