Umxholo
- Ukulungiselela umtshato kubalulekile
- Nxibelelana kwaye usombulule iingxabano
- Chaza iindima ezintsha
- Phanda ukusondelelana
- Thetha ngabantwana kunye nokuba ngumzali
- Gxila kwimicimbi ebalulekileyo
Ngaba usuku lwakho lomtshato lusondela ngokukhawuleza? Ngaba iyakoyikisa kancinci? Nangona wonwabile kwaye unothando olunzulu, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba nexhala kule meko.
Ungathanda ukwenza konke onako ukuzilungiselela umtshato kuba ufuna ukuba uhlale ixesha elide. Kwisiphithiphithi sokucwangcisa umtshato, awunalo ixesha okanye imali eyoneleyo yokuya kwiingcebiso ngaphambi komtshato. Kwaye konke kulungile.
Ngethamsanqa kukho iingcebiso ezininzi ezisemthethweni zokwenza ukuba ulungele kangangoko kwesi sigaba sitsha sobomi bakho, kwaye sizakubalaselisa ezimbalwa apha.
Ukulungiselela umtshato kubalulekile
Zimbalwa iinkalo zomtshato ekufuneka zixoxwe kwaye zisetyenziswe ngaphambi komtshato uqobo. Jonga ukuba zikhona na ezi ndawo zibuthathaka kulwalamano lwakho kwaye uziqwalasele ngakumbi.
Nxibelelana kwaye usombulule iingxabano
Unxibelelwano olulungileyo kunye nokukwazi ukusombulula imiba yokunxibelelana ngokwakha isiseko esiqinileyo salo naluphi na ulwalamano lwexesha elide. Kuya kufuneka uthethe neqabane lakho ngayo nantoni na, ubonise imfesane, ulungelelwaniso kunye noxolelo.
Izakhono zonxibelelwano zinokuphuhliswa ngokuzibandakanya kwincoko yemizuzu emihlanu malunga nolwalamano lwakho mihla le. Gxila kwiimvakalelo kwaye uthethe ngezihloko zilandelayo:
Yeyiphi inkalo yobudlelwane bakho obuyonwabele kakhulu namhlanje? Yintoni ebidanisayo malunga nobudlelwane bakho namhlanje? Ungancedana njani ukuze woyise ezo mpazamo?
Ncomeka ngokunyanisekileyo yonke imihla kwaye uhlale uzithembile. Oku kuyakuphucula unxibelelwano kunye nokuqondana.
Xa kuziwa kwimpikiswano, funda ukuba ungathatha njani na ixesha. Xa uqaphela ukuba umlo wakho uyenyuka kwaye uyacaphuka (ukuphefumla kwakho kuyakhawulezisa, uqala ukukhala, amanqindi nemihlathi zibambene), cela ixesha lokuphuma ngokuthetha into enje “Ndinomsindo kakhulu ukuba ndingathetha ngale nto ngoku. Ndifuna iyure ukucacisa iingcinga zam ”.
Ngexesha lokuphuma wenze into ephumayo, ubukele iTV, uhlambe, uhambe ubaleke okanye ucamngce. Emva koko, khumbula ukuba kutheni kunzima kangaka ukuthetha neqabane lakho, ubucinga ntoni kwaye uziva ntoni. Thatha umzuzwana ukujonga imeko ngokwembono yeqabane lakho. Khumbula, uliqela, kwaye ungaphumelela kuphela xa nisebenza kunye.
Emva koko, khangela iqabane lakho kwaye ubuyele kwingxoxo yakho. Xoxa ngezisombululo zangaphambili ezingakhange zisebenze kwaye ucinge ngezintsha. Khetha isisombululo esifanelana nobabini. Okokugqibela, ncoma omnye ngenyathelo olithabathe ngaphambili kunye.
Iyacetyiswa Ikhosi yangaphambi komtshato ekhompyutheni
Chaza iindima ezintsha
Nje ukuba utshate, iindima zakho ziya kutshintsha. Umntu othile kuya kufuneka ahlawule amatyala, apheke, anakekele abantwana kwaye aququzelele izihlobo kunye neembutho zosapho. Ukuba nobabini nithanda ukupheka endaweni yokuhoya iirhafu, niyakuba nengxaki.
Hlalani kunye nithethe ngokuba ngubani oya kuba noxanduva kweyiphi imisebenzi. Bhala ezintlanu zazo nganye nganye. Khetha iveki enye oza kutshintshela kuyo iindima zakho. Misela imisebenzi ethile ekufuneka yenziwe kuloo veki. Emva kosuku ngalunye, thetha ngamava akho.
Lo msebenzi uya kukunceda uthathe isigqibo sokuba yeyiphi na imisebenzi ekufuneka inikwe umntu. Kwangelo xesha, uya kufunda ukuwuxabisa ngakumbi umzamo weqabane lakho.
Phanda ukusondelelana
Ukhe weva ukuba amanqanaba enkanuko kunye nobudlelwane obusondeleyo phakathi kwezibini ezitshatileyo ziyancipha ngokuhamba kwexesha. Oku kunokuba nexhala kwaye kunokoyikisa. Ewe, akufanelekanga, kuba kuxhomekeke kuwe ukuba oko kuya kwenzeka kumtshato wakho.
Ukuhlala kwicala elikhuselekileyo, qiniseka ukuba uhlela umhla kunye neqabane lakho. Ngorhatya olunye ngeveki kufuneka uye kumhla- wenze umthetho. Sebenzisa elo xesha ukukhula ngakumbi, ukuhleka, ukuthandana, kunye nokonwabela ukuhlala kunye.
Enye into ekufuneka uyenzile kukuba nibe nengxoxo enzulu kwaye evulekileyo malunga nezesondo. Yaphathwa njani isondo kusapho lwakho, wafunda phi ngayo? Ufumana ntoni? Ngaba unengxaki yokuqalisa ukwabelana ngesondo kwaye ngoba? Kukangaphi ufuna ukwabelana ngesondo wakutshata? Ngaba ikhona into ongayithandiyo malunga nokwabelana ngesondo?
Nje ukuba wazi izinto ozikhethayo nezikulindeleyo, kuya kuba lula kakhulu ukugcina ubomi besondo obusebenzayo nobumnandi emtshatweni.
Thetha ngabantwana kunye nokuba ngumzali
Incoko enzulu le. Kufuneka uhlale phantsi uthethe phandle. Ngaba ufuna abantwana? Zingaphi kwaye nini? Lindela ntoni komnye nomnye malunga nokuba ngumzali? Ngaba uya kuba nalo uncedo kwizalamane zakho? Ufuna ukubakhulisa njani abantwana bakho? Ngaba iindlela zakho zomzali ziyahambelana? Ngaba uyavumelana ngendlela yokuqeqesha abantwana bakho?
Imibuzo emininzi ifuna ukuphendulwa. Kulungile ukuzama ukuba nesilwanyana kunye ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isigqibo sokuqalisa usapho. Oku kuya kukunika intshayelelo elungileyo nenganzimanga kangako kubuzali.
Gxila kwimicimbi ebalulekileyo
Ewe kunjalo, zininzi ezinye izihloko ekufuneka uxoxe ngazo kwaye uziqhelanise nazo ngaphambi kokuba utshate. Nangona kunjalo, ayizizo zonke ezibaluleke ngokulinganayo, kwaye awuyi kusilela xa uphoswa zimbalwa zazo. Okokuqala jolisa kwinto ebalulekileyo kwaye wakhe phezu kwayo.
Khumbula ukuthandana nokuhloniphana yonke imihla, kwaye uyakulunga.
Sikunqwenelela iminyaka emininzi sonwabile kunye.