Umxholo
- Khangela izinto ezintle
- Lindela inyathelo lomzali elinyukayo
- Xa unomona ngabantwana beqabane lakho
- Gxila kwinto onokuyilawula
- Nika wonke umntu ixesha — kuquka nawe
Nokuba ungoyena mntu utshatayo, okanye utshata omnye otshatileyo, izinto ziza kutshintsha. Nokuba ulithanda kangakanani iqabane lakho elitsha, ukuba unenyathelo = abantwana kumxube, oko kuthetha indlu egcweleyo kwangoko, kunye nabanye abazali abanokujongana nabo.
Kuya kufuneka ujongane nenye yeengxaki ezinkulu zosapho-umona.
Kutheni le nto umona uxhaphake kangaka kwiintsapho ezixubileyo? Kungenxa yokuba imihlaba yomntu wonke itshintshe kakhulu. Kunzima ukwazi ukuba ulindele ntoni. Ke uhlala ungaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela. Mhlawumbi woyika noko.
Awuqinisekanga ngento eqhelekileyo, okanye ukuba uziva njani. Okwangoku, usenokungaziva ngathi uphathwa ngokufanelekileyo kwaye ungafumana umona womzali womzali. Ngelixa oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo, kusenzima ukuhlala kunye. Imitshato yesibini kunye nabantwana bomtshato wesibini kunokuba ngumceli mngeni.
Nazi ezinye iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokujongana nomona womzali wesibini.
Khangela izinto ezintle
Ukuba ubona ukuba umntwana wakho uhlakulela ubudlelwane obuhle kunye neqabane lakho langaphambili, kunokubangela ukuba ube nomona. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ngumntwana wakho lowo, ayingowabo!
Ngoku banomnye umntu ebomini babo okwangumzali, kunokuba ngathi babile umntwana wakho. Kodwa ngaba ngokwenene? Hayi, abazami kuthatha indawo yakho. Uya kuhlala ungumzali wabo.
Endaweni yokujolisa kwiimvakalelo zakho zomona, zama ukujonga ezakhayo. Qaphela ukuba olu lwalamano luhle nomzali wesibini yinto entle emntwaneni wakho; inokuba mbi ngakumbi. Yivuyele into yokuba lo mzali wesibini abe nempembelelo entle emntwaneni wakho.
Lindela inyathelo lomzali elinyukayo
Kuya kubakho amaxesha apho ungaziva ngathi umzali wesibini ungena kwindawo yakho kwaye akwenze ube namaona ngomzali womtshato wesibini. Oku kunokuba kungenxa yokuba bacinga ukuba ungangumzali olungileyo.
Bayenzela wena! Nangona kunjalo, unokulindela ukuziva unomona.
Ukuba ulindele ukuba kuyakubakho amaxesha apho uziva umona, ngethemba xa ixesha lifikile awuyi kuva kakhulu. Cinga ngemeko ezinokwenzeka:
bathumela imifanekiso yabantwana bakho kwimidiya yoluntu behlekisa malunga nokuba bangakanani; bababiza ngokuba “ngabantwana” babo; abantwana bakho bababiza "mama" okanye "tata," njl.
Lindela olu hlobo lwento ukuba yenzeke, kwaye wazi nje ukuba kulungile ukuba uzive ngathi iinzwane zakho zinyathelwa, umona womzali ongumzali yimvakalelo eqhelekileyo yokuziva kule meko.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba yinto enye ukuziva umona omncinci, kunye nomnye ukwenza ngayo. Thatha isigqibo ngoku ukuba akukhathaleki ukuba usabela njani ngaphakathi, uya kuzama konke okusemandleni akho ukuba ungayivumeli ichaphazele ulwalamano lwakho nabantwana bakho.
Ezi zizinto ezintle zomntwana wakho, kwaye kungcono ukubeka umona wakho kumzali wakho wenyathelo ecaleni komdla wabantwana bakho.
Xa unomona ngabantwana beqabane lakho
Ukuba ungumlingane wesibini, kwaye iqabane lakho sele linabantwana, ke zilungiselele ukuziva umona omncinci kulwalamano lwabo lomzali nomntwana.
Xa uqala ukutshata, unokulindela uthando kunye nokuqwalaselwa ngakumbi liqabane lakho; ke xa umntwana wabo ebafuna kakhulu, unokuziva udanile kwaye iimvakalelo zomona womzali wesibini zinokungena ngaphakathi.
Ngapha koko, unokuziva uqhatywe kancinane kwesi sigaba "sisandul 'ukutshata" uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo abaqala ukutshata ngaphandle kwabantwana kubonakala ngathi banalo. Khumbula ukuba xa utshata umntu osele enabantwana, uyazi ukuba ungena entwenini.
Jongana nenyani apha; Umlingane wethu kufuneka abekhona kubantwana babo. Bayabadinga abazali babo. Ngelixa ukwazi oku, ukujongana nokuba kuthetha ukuthini oko akunakuba yile nto uyilindeleyo.
Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba ungasinda njani emtshatweni kunye nabantwana bokutshata, qiniseka ukuba uxoxe ngeemvakalelo zakho neqabane lakho ukuze ungaziva ngathi uwedwa kule nto.
Thetha malunga nento ekufuneka uyibekele bucala, kunye nento oyifunayo kwiqabane lakho, ukuze uncede ukwenza ikhaya lakho libe lolonwabisayo. Sukuvumela umona womzali wesibini ukuba uphumelele.
Ukudlula kwaye wenze ngeengxaki zabantwana bomtshato wesibini, umona yimvakalelo ekufuneka uyilahlile. Eyona nto unokuyenza ngoku kukukhulisa ubudlelwane kunye nabantwana bakho bomtshato omtsha.
Ukulwa zonke iingxaki zomtshato wesibini, abantwana bomtshato wesibini ngoyena ndoqo; Yiba ngumhlobo wabo kunye nesiqingatha seengxaki zakho ezinokusonjululwa.
Gxila kwinto onokuyilawula
Amaxesha ngamaxesha, unganikina intloko ngezigqibo ezenziwa ngabazali bomtshato wakho okanye abazali bomtshato wesibini. Zama ukungavumeli into abayenzayo ikukhathaze — awunakukwazi ukuyilawula le nto bayenzayo.
Endaweni yoko, jolisa kwinto onokukwazi ukuyilawula, kwaye ungavumeli umona womzali wesibini ukuba ube sisigqibo sakho. Yiba nobubele kwaye uncede, usethe imida, kwaye wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukuba ube khona xa kufuneka.
Zama ukuyeka into ongenakukwazi ukuyilawula, kwaye wenze konke onako ngako konke onako ukukwenza.
Nika wonke umntu ixesha — kuquka nawe
Xa usapho lwakho luqala ukudibana, ungalindeli ukuba izinto zibe mnandi ngobusuku obunye. Kukho ukubakho kokuphakama okuqinisekileyo kunye nokuhla ngaphambi kokuba izinto ziqale ukuya kwimeko yesiqhelo.
Ukuba uhlangabezana nekhwele lomzali wesibini, zama ukusebenzela elidlulileyo kwaye uqonde ukuba liyakudlula. Nika nje wonke umntu ixesha lokuziqhelanisa neli lungiselelo litsha.
Zinike ixesha lokuziqhelanisa. Musa ukuzibetha xa uziva unomona ngamanye amaxesha, funda nje kuyo. Unokufunda ezinye zezicatshulwa zomzali wesinyathelo ukuze uzive ungcono kwaye ukhuthazwe ukwenza olu lungiselelo losapho lusebenze.